Personal Power - First Impressions

December 13, 2011

Interview with Kristi Hedges, author of the book The Power of Presence: Unlock Your Potential to Influence and Engage Others

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Mike Carruthers:
Whether you’re speaking before a group or just mingling at an event or party it’s human nature to try to appear perfect to other people and yet…

Kristi Hedges:
Perfection is actually very annoying and it’s off-putting and it doesn’t connect people to you it disconnects people from you.
 

December 12, 2011

Interview with Kristi Hedges, author of the book The Power of Presence: Unlock Your Potential to Influence and Engage Others

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Mike Carruthers:
Presence it’s a hard concept to define and yet…

Kristi Hedges:
We’re all experts at other people’s presence. We know when someone walks into the room we can almost feel what their presence is and what their command is of a room and the energy that they bring into the room. However if someone says to you, “What’s your presence?” you’re probably going to stumble a little bit in trying to describe it.
 

October 27, 2011

Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

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Mike Carruthers:
Whenever you’re in the situation where someone else is upset and you need them to calm down, about the last thing you should say to them is to calm down.

Dr. Daniel Siegel:
I think the intention of calm down makes a lot of sense but the action to achieve it is often misplaced. In other words  if you say, “CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN” – that usually doesn’t get people to calm down.
 

September 15, 2011

Interview with Michelle Tillis Lederman, author of the book The 11 Laws of Likability: Relationship Networking . . . Because People Do Business with People They Like

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be likeable to just about everyone smile.

Michelle Tillis Lederman:
A smile is universally understood, you can see a smile from almost 30 feet away. The smile immediately is disarming and opens up and invites somebody in.
 

July 19, 2011

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends

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Mike Carruthers:
When you go to a social or business event in hopes of mingling you have to look approachable.

Don Gabor:
You want to have your body language open, in other words you want to have good eye contact, you want to smile, and you want to keep your arms unfolded. This is a….these are the signals that people pick up before you say one word.
 

July 18, 2011

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends

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Mike Carruthers:
When you speak with people in an attempt to establish a relationship, it’s important to realize what people are looking for in a conversation.

Don Gabor:
#1 is they want your attention; they want to know that you are listening – this is a basic human desire.
 

April 29, 2011

Interview with Paul Tieger, author of the book The Art of SpeedReading People: How to Size People Up and Speak Their Language

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Mike Carruthers:
You can deal much more effectively with people if you can first learn to read them.

Paul Tieger:
There are some people in the world who are more, what we call, "judging" and some people, what we call, "perceiving." And judging does not necessarily mean judgmental, it just means people who like to be decisive and they like to come down on one side or another.
 

June 21, 2010

Interview with Ori Brafman, co-author of the book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections

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Mike Carruthers:
You’ve undoubtedly had the experience of meeting someone for the first time personally or professionally and you hit it off, you click.

Ori Brafman:
It turns out that the relationships that ensue from those kinds of connections are categorically different – mainly they’re more passionate.
 

 June 4, 2010

Interview with Mark Wiskup, author of the book The It Factor: Be the One People Like, Listen to, and Remember

Mike Carruthers:
Do you have the "it" factor?

Mark Wiskup:
The "it" factor is the rare ability to connect with anyone you meet for any reason - whether you know them for five seconds or whether you've known them for five years.

March 4, 2010

Interview with Sally Hogshead, author of the book Fascinate: Your 7 Triggers to Persuasion and Captivation

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Mike Carruthers:
Why is it that we find some people more fascinating than others?

Sally Hogshead:
The reason why they’re more fascinating is because they have an ability to elicit what I call the fascination triggers. There are 7 fascination triggers.
 

Sally Hogshead, author of the book Fascinate…