Personal Power - Loss, Regret and Disappointment

November 10, 2011

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

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Mike Carruthers:
What would you guess is the biggest regret older people have when they look back on their lives?

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
I imagined it would be an affair, it would be having worked too much, or too little – the 1# regret in their view is spending too much time worrying. 
 

November 9, 2011

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

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Mike Carruthers:
If you were to ask 1200 people over the age of 65 what they think about getting older you’d probably be surprised by what they think.

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
And it is remarkably different from what any younger think. One of the key lessons is being old is way better than you think.
 

March 4, 2011

Interview with Bev Smallwood, author of the book This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me: 10 Make-or-Break Choices When Life Steals Your Dreams and Rocks Your World

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Mike Carruthers:
If you live long enough bad things happen to you. It's called adversity. And the question is…

Bev Smallwood:
Whether that adversity you go through is going to take you under or whether you're really going to come out on the other side even stronger.
 

 December 30, 2010

Interview with Alexander Levy, author of the book The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change After the Death of Our Parents

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Mike Carruthers:
The way we as adults deal with the death of our parents is very different than it used to be.

Alexander Levy:
It's really only in the last fifty years that parental death was a person's first experience with death.
 

 December 7, 2010

Interview with Debbie Ford, author of the book The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

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Mike Carruthers:
You often hear the advice that it’s important to make peace with our past, but what does that mean exactly?

Debbie Ford:
Well in the simplest terms, I think making peace with your past is finding something good, same value, some gold in it.
 

April 22, 2010

Interview with Daphne Rose Kingma, author of the book The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

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Mike Carruthers:
Although that is seems that there is some light at the end of the tunnel this recession has taken it’s toll on so many of us.

Daphne Rose Kingma:
There are waves of crisis that have kind of swept through our world in a way that hasn’t been true maybe since the Great Depression.
 

January 5, 2010

Interview with Anneli Rufus, author of the book Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On

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Mike Carruthers:
Feeling stuck in life has become very popular so many people today seem stuck.

Anneli Rufus:
And when I say stuck I mean people feel stuck in their job, stuck in a relationship, stuck with the wrong social circle, stuck doing nothing, stuck doing too much, right?

July 21, 2009

Interview with Ariane de Bonvoisin author of The First 30 Days Your Guide To Any Change

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Mike Carruthers:
No matter how much you resist it, big changes are coming in your life - good ones and bad ones. Change is inevitable.

Ariane de Bonvoisin:
Going through change, we're always asked whether we want to be the victim or whether we actually want to stand back up and get strong in our power. And that is a choice that we all get given.

  Ariane de Bonvoisin

June 3, 2009
Interview with M.J. Ryan, author of AdaptAbility: How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For

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Mike Carruthers:
The economy has dictated that many of us deal with change... change we didn't ask for - and it's tough.

M.J. Ryan:
Because when change comes from the outside it's always the death of something, even if it's just the death of a sense of control. But often it's the death of an idea of how we thought our lives were going to be - we thought we'd have that retirement fund or that job.