Something You Should Know about Parenting


The Concern About Boys

October 15, 2014

 

Interview with Rosalind Wiseman, author of the book Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you’re the parent of a boy you should be concerned.

 

Rosalind Wiseman:
I mean their suicide rates are really high, higher compared to girls, they’re dropping out of school at larger rates, they’re not going into college the way that girls are. They’re dropping out of wanting to engage in the world and making it a better place.
 


Rosalind Wiseman

Parental Discipline

October 9, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you discipline your children do you use timeouts?

 

Dr. Daniel Siegel:
The problem with timeouts is that kids just are put in isolation. And as social creatures we just get reactive in isolation and so in that reactive time out state it’s being used really as solitary confinement.
 


Dr. Daniel Siegel

Personal Motivation

October 6, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Fowler, author of the book Why Motivating People Doesn't Work . . . and What Does: The New Science of Leading, Energizing, and Engaging

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Promising a reward is a common way to get someone or ourselves to do something. But there’s a problem with that.

 

Susan Fowler:
There’s the undermining effect that says whenever we reward people for something they would have loved doing in the first place they lose the love of doing it.

 


Susan Fowler

Respecting Your Children

September 24, 2014

 

Interview with Jay Scott Fitter, author of the book Respect Your Children: A Practical Guide To Effective Parenting

 

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Mike Carruthers:
As a parent your children are very important but do you respect your children?

 

Jay Scott Fitter:
I would say the vast majority of parents don’t respect their children. I think that they respect their children’s friends more than they do their children.
 


Jay Scott Fitter

The 4 "C's" Of Being A Good Father

September 8, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. George Cave, author of the book Just Be A Dad: Things My Father Never Told Me

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In order to be a good father and have a positive influence on your children.

 

Dr. George Cave:
The first thing is always to show that you care for the child and this is done by showing that you care and love for the child’s mother.  That relationship between the husband and wife is paramount to the psychological wellbeing of the children.
 


George Cave PhD

Friendships

September 1, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Michael Thompson, author of the book Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Childhood friendships can be the most important ones.

 

 

Michael Thompson, Ph.D:
You know friendship in childhood is a better predictor of adult mental health than grades or IQ.
 


Dr. Michael Thompson

Raising Self-Reliant Kids

August 22, 2014

 

Interview with Elisa Medhus, author of the book Raising Everyday Heroes: Parenting Children To Be Self-Reliant

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many parents today do so much for their kids that their kids don't really learn how to live life.

 

Elisa Medhus :
I think that it comes from all our best intentions. We come from being parented by autocratic family models where the dad was a dictator and it was like you do as you're told or else.
 


Elisa Medhus

Back To School

August 18, 2014

 

Interview with Ron Clark, author of the book The Excellent 11: Qualities Teachers and Parents Use to Motivate, Inspire, and Educate Children

 

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Mike Carruthers:
This fall a lot of kids dread going back to school because of a problem that seems to be getting worse and worse.

 

Ron Clark:
We are losing so many kids in America because they're being bullied they're being picked on; they don't want to go to school. The school environment is not a positive place for a lot of kids.
 


Ron Clark

Better Parenting

July 29, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Laurence Steinberg, author of the book The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Can you love your child too much?

 

Dr. Laurence Steinberg:
I think a lot of parents believe that they can spoil a child by being too loving. Research studies indicate that you can't be too loving to a child. You can spoil a child with material possessions but you can't spoil a child with genuine affection.
 


Dr. Laurence Steinberg

Why Kids Get Fat

June 12, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Patricia Ronald Riba, author of the book Fit Kids Revolution: The Parent's Diet-Free Guide to Raising Healthy & Fit Children

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One reason so many kids are overweight is because their parents let them eat whatever they want.

 

Dr. Patricia Ronald Riba:
I get so many parents and they’re like he’ll eat too much, he eats too much.  And I say, “Yeah if it’s cheese puffs and pizza of course but I’ve never had a kid come in with a stomach ache from eating too many brussels sprouts or carrots or apples.”
 


Dr. Patricia Ronald Riba

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