Something You Should Know about Parenting

When It's Hard To Go Home For The Holidays

December 22, 2014


Interview with Dr. Thomas Habib, author of the book If These Walls Could Talk: A Therapist Reveals Stories of Change and How They will Work for You




Mike Carruthers:
 Many adult children just love to visit their parents for the holidays. But many adult children just hate it.


Dr. Thomas Habib:
The reason is that the parents haven’t changed their relationship from a parenting-based relationship to a friendship-based relationship.


Dr. Thomas Habib

Classic Christmas Toys

December 19, 2014


Interview with David Hoffman, author of the book Kid Stuff: Great Toys from Our Childhood




Mike Carruthers: 
So many of the classic toys never started out as toys. 


David Hoffman:
Lionel Trains were actually, the guy who came up with the concept of a play train did it as a store display, in a toy shop, to show off other toys.

David Hoffman

Giving Back

December 8, 2014


Interview with Clea Newman, Serious Fun Children's Network




Mike Carruthers:
Many families have a holiday tradition of giving back this time or year - whether it’s giving money or volunteering.


Clea Newman:
I think that giving back makes you feel whole. And I’m very blessed that my family made it a tradition.

Clea Newman

Does Money Make You Happy?

November 18, 2014


Interview with Dr. Paul Coleman, author of the book Finding Peace When Your Heart Is In Pieces: A Step-by-Step Guide to the Other Side of Grief, Loss, and Pain




Mike Carruthers:
Is money the thing that will make you happy? Hmmm - probably not.


Dr. Paul Coleman:
If you have up to about 75 thousand dollars income you’re probably pretty satisfied but it doesn’t necessarily make you deeply happy.

Paul Coleman PsyD

How Kids Learn Best

October 30, 2014


Interview with Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, author of the book Einstein Never Used Flashcards: How Our Children Really Learn--and Why They Need to Play More and Memorize Less




Mike Carruthers:
There's an emphasis today to push our children to learn more, faster. But that's not really how kids learn. 


Kathy Hirsh-Pasek :
Children learn through play and discovery they learn by picking up a block turning the block, feeling the block sometimes mouthing the block. That's how they learn that it's a solid.

Kathy Hirsh-Pasek

The Concern About Boys

October 15, 2014


Interview with Rosalind Wiseman, author of the book Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World




Mike Carruthers:
If you’re the parent of a boy you should be concerned.


Rosalind Wiseman:
I mean their suicide rates are really high, higher compared to girls, they’re dropping out of school at larger rates, they’re not going into college the way that girls are. They’re dropping out of wanting to engage in the world and making it a better place.

Rosalind Wiseman

Parental Discipline

October 9, 2014


Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind




Mike Carruthers:
When you discipline your children do you use timeouts?


Dr. Daniel Siegel:
The problem with timeouts is that kids just are put in isolation. And as social creatures we just get reactive in isolation and so in that reactive time out state it’s being used really as solitary confinement.

Dr. Daniel Siegel

Personal Motivation

October 6, 2014


Interview with Susan Fowler, author of the book Why Motivating People Doesn't Work . . . and What Does: The New Science of Leading, Energizing, and Engaging




Mike Carruthers:
Promising a reward is a common way to get someone or ourselves to do something. But there’s a problem with that.


Susan Fowler:
There’s the undermining effect that says whenever we reward people for something they would have loved doing in the first place they lose the love of doing it.


Susan Fowler

Respecting Your Children

September 24, 2014


Interview with Jay Scott Fitter, author of the book Respect Your Children: A Practical Guide To Effective Parenting




Mike Carruthers:
As a parent your children are very important but do you respect your children?


Jay Scott Fitter:
I would say the vast majority of parents don’t respect their children. I think that they respect their children’s friends more than they do their children.

Jay Scott Fitter

The 4 "C's" Of Being A Good Father

September 8, 2014


Interview with Dr. George Cave, author of the book Just Be A Dad: Things My Father Never Told Me




Mike Carruthers:
In order to be a good father and have a positive influence on your children.


Dr. George Cave:
The first thing is always to show that you care for the child and this is done by showing that you care and love for the child’s mother.  That relationship between the husband and wife is paramount to the psychological wellbeing of the children.

George Cave PhD

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