Important Difference Between Goals & Expectations
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May 17, 2012
Interview with Phillip Moffit, author of the book Emotional Chaos to Clarity: How to Live More Skillfully, Make Better Decisions, and Find Purpose in Life
Phillip Moffit, author of the book Emotional Chaos to Clarity...
And these expectations actually get in the way of the goals because they don’t take into account the facets of our lives. There’s a drama to life and expectations sort of ignores the truth of those dramas.
So often we beat ourselves up when we don’t meet the expectations we’ve set for ourselves. The problem with that is…
It creates a story that you start believing about yourself that is such a negative story because you’re so busy beating yourself up.
What Phillip suggests is a technique called starting over so when something goes wrong rather than beat yourself up over it you simply start over.
It’s a critical skill just starting over. You make your mistakes if you focus on how you’re making the mistakes nothing changes. But if you go, “Oh lost my path getting back on it” you just start over. You don’t waste your energy in self-judging or feeling sorry for yourself you just start over.