Improving Self-Confidence

November 30, 2009

Interview with Marci Fox, co-author of the book Think Confident, Be Confident: A Four-Step Program to Eliminate Doubt and Achieve LifelongSelf-Esteem ….

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Mike Carruthers:
Self-confidence; how much of it you have may have a lot to do with your childhood.

Marci Fox:
Growing up, if you got the message that you were likeable and you had friends who enjoyed being with you and you had good social skills, you developed confidence about being desirable and likeable.
 

Marci Fox, co-author of the book Think Confident, Be Confident…

If early on you weren’t given those messages or you had difficult things happen to you like; not getting picked for the team or not being invited to the sleepover. You may have gotten the message that you weren’t capable or you weren’t desirable. And that’s where the seeds of doubt are sewn.

If you have self-doubt that is sapping your confidence, Marci says, step one is to identify what it is you’re telling yourself.

Step two is to question it. And we teach people to take a step back and to say to themselves, “What are the facts, what evidence do I have that this doubt’s true? What evidence do I have that this doubts not true? Is there another way to look at it? How might I be distorting this information?”

Marci says being more confident takes practice.

Confidence comes from walking into a situation and being able to stay in the moment and to look at your strength and weaknesses in an objective way and to give yourself credit for a job well done – rather than letting your doubt stop you dead in your tracks.

To hear the complete unedited interview, click here