Something You Should Know about Attitude

Difference Between Goals & Expectations

August 19, 2016


Interview with Phillip Moffit, author of the book Emotional Chaos to Clarity: How to Live More Skillfully, Make Better Decisions, and Find Purpose in Life




Mike Carruthers:
We all have goals and expectations, goals are good but expectations can cause trouble.


Phillip Moffit:
Expectations are like goals that are fossilized. So we expect ourselves to be a certain level of success, we expect ourselves to be super mom or the best dad or whatever it is.

Phillip Moffit

Finding & Living Your Purpose

July 18, 2016


Interview with Victor Strecher, author of the book Life On Purpose




Mike Carruthers:
If you don’t have a purpose in life you should probably get one.


Victor Strecher:
If we can help people find purpose in life, we can help them live longer, reduce their risk of heart disease and stroke, reduce their risk of depression – literally help repair their DNA. There are so many positive things as a result of having a purpose in life.


Victor Strecher

Loving Where You Live

July 5, 2016


Interview with Melody Warnick, author of the book This Is Where You Belong




Mike Carruthers:
Do you like where you live?


Melody Warnick:
There’s one that shows that about ½ of Americans want to move. So that suggests that not everyone is happy where they live.

Melody Warnick

Maximizing Your Willpower

July 4, 2016


Interview with Kelly McGonigal, author of the book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It




Mike Carruthers:
Willpower is something that is often misunderstood.


Kelly McGonigal:
Most people feel like they don’t have any willpower and actually willpower is something that everybody has. It’s a basic biological human instinct.

Kelly McGonigal

How You Approach Success

June 30, 2016


Interview with Alan Weiss, author of the book Million Dollar Maverick




Mike Carruthers:
Success is at least partly the result of your attitude.


Alan Weiss:
I truly believe Mike that people get up in the morning in 1 of 2 dispositions. They get up in the morning saying, “What a great day this is, what a fabulous day another day of opportunity”. Or they get up saying, “Uh jeez another slow crawl through enemy territory.”

Alan Weiss

Wealth & Affluence

June 7, 2016


Interview with Joan Indursky DiFuria, author of the book Affluence Intelligence: Earn More, Worry Less, and Live a Happy and Balanced Life




Mike Carruthers:
What does it mean to be truly wealthy and fulfilled? It’s a fascinating question and some researchers did some digging.


Joan Indursky DiFuria:
As we spent more time with the truly affluent we learned that they have this certain something we call it affluence intelligence - which is a mindset that makes people not just wealthy but deeply fulfilled.

Joan Indursky DiFuria

How To Acquire Power

June 1, 2016


Interview with Dacher Keltner, author of the book The Power Paradox




Mike Carruthers:
How often have you heard someone described as powerful? He’s a very powerful person; she has a lot of power. So what does that mean?


Dacher Keltner:
Power means -it’s not just money or military might or politics it’s really how you as an individual can influence other people.

Dacher Keltner

Power Of Empathy

May 27, 2016


Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive




Mike Carruthers:
Whenever you’re in the situation where someone else is upset and you need to calm them down, about the last thing you should say to them is to calm down.


Dr. Daniel Siegel:
I think the intention of calm down makes a lot of sense but the action to achieve it is often misplaced. In other words  if you say, “CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN” – that usually doesn’t get people to calm down.

Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Good News About Getting Older - Part 2

May 25, 2016


Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans




Mike Carruthers:
What would you guess is the biggest regret older people have when they look back on their lives?


Karl Pillimer, PhD:
I imagined it would be an affair, it would be having worked too much, or too little – the 1# regret in their view is spending too much time worrying. 

Karl Pillimer, PhD

Good News About Getting Older

May 24, 2016


Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans




Mike Carruthers:
If you were to ask 1200 people over the age of 65 what they think about getting older you’d probably be surprised by what you hear.


Karl Pillimer, PhD:
And it is remarkably different from what any younger think. One of the key lessons is being old is way better than you think.

Karl Pillimer, PhD

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