Something You Should Know about First Impressions


Personal Presence

June 15, 2016

 

Interview with Kristi Hedges, author of the book The Power Presence

 

Mike Carruthers:
You’re personal presence it’s a hard concept to define and yet…

 

Kristi Hedges:
We’re all experts at other people’s presence we know when someone walks into the room we can almost feel what their presence is and how their command is of a room and the energy that they bring into the room. However if someone says to you what’s your presence? You’re probably going to stumble a little bit in trying to describe it.

 


Kristi Hedges

Power Of Empathy

May 27, 2016

 

Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Whenever you’re in the situation where someone else is upset and you need to calm them down, about the last thing you should say to them is to calm down.

 

Dr. Daniel Siegel:
I think the intention of calm down makes a lot of sense but the action to achieve it is often misplaced. In other words  if you say, “CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN” – that usually doesn’t get people to calm down.
 


Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Being More Likeable

May 5, 2016

 

Interview with Michelle Tillis Lederman, author of the book The 11 Laws of Likability: Relationship Networking . . . Because People Do Business with People They Like

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be likeable to just about everyone smile.

 

Michelle Tillis Lederman:
A smile is universally understood, you can see a smile from almost 30 feet away. The smile immediately is disarming and opens up and invites somebody in.
 


MIchelle Tillis Lederman

How To Be A Good Conversationalist

April 7, 2016

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you speak with people in an attempt to establish a relationship, it’s important to realize what people are looking for in a conversation.

 

Don Gabor:
#1 is they want your attention; they want to know that you are listening – this is a basic human desire.
 


Don Gabor

Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016

 

Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.

 

Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.
 


Leagan Kasper

When You "Click" With Someone

September 10, 2015

 

Interview with Ori Brafman, co-author of the book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You’ve most likely had the experience of meeting someone for the first time personally or professionally and you just hit it off, you click.

 

Ori Brafman:
It turns out that the relationships that ensue from those kinds of connections are categorically different – mainly they’re more passionate.
 


Ori Brafman

Etiquette Rules In 2014

June 11, 2014

 

Interview with Peter Post,author of the book The Etiquette Advantage in Business, Third Edition: Personal Skills for Professional Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
The rules of etiquette are constantly evolving and changing.

 

Peter Post:
What doesn’t change in etiquette is what we call some principles that drive how those manners are arrived at. And those principles are to be considerate, respectful and honest and those are timeless in cross cultural boundaries.

 


Peter Post

Meeting People & Creating Contacts

April 15, 2014

 

Interview with Anne Baber, author of the book Make Your Contacts Count: Networking Know-How for Business and Career Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Getting out there and meeting new people is extremely important in order to get ahead professionally and socially and yet…
 
Anne Baber:
About sixty percent of Americans are now saying that they are shy. That number has ratcheted upward from forty percent only ten years ago.

Anne Baber

Presenting Your Ideas Well

March 6, 2014

 

Interview with Carmine Gallo, author of the book Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead today you have to be able to communicate well and express your ideas verbally.

 

Carmine Gallo:
You can have great ideas but if you cannot communicate persuasively. If I can’t move you to action then my ideas don’t matter that much, do they?
 


Carmine Gallo

How To Make A Good First Impression

March 5, 2014

 

Interview with Mark Mazzerella, author of the book Put Your Best Foot Forward: Make a Great Impression by Taking Control of How Others See You

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You cannot minimize the importance of making a good first impression on people. Because everywhere you go people do judge you instantly.


Mark Mazzarella:

They're very predictable conclusions that can be drawn in terms of how close you should get to somebody, how much you should touch them. How they're going to react in terms of whether they believe you are trustworthy, caring, humble and capable if you behave in certain ways.
 


Mark Mazzerella

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