Something You Should Know about First Impressions

How To Be A Good Conversationalist

April 7, 2016


Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends




Mike Carruthers:
When you speak with people in an attempt to establish a relationship, it’s important to realize what people are looking for in a conversation.


Don Gabor:
#1 is they want your attention; they want to know that you are listening – this is a basic human desire.

Don Gabor

Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016


Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women




Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.


Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.

Leagan Kasper

When You "Click" With Someone

September 10, 2015


Interview with Ori Brafman, co-author of the book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections




Mike Carruthers:
You’ve most likely had the experience of meeting someone for the first time personally or professionally and you just hit it off, you click.


Ori Brafman:
It turns out that the relationships that ensue from those kinds of connections are categorically different – mainly they’re more passionate.

Ori Brafman

Etiquette Rules In 2014

June 11, 2014


Interview with Peter Post,author of the book The Etiquette Advantage in Business, Third Edition: Personal Skills for Professional Success




Mike Carruthers:
The rules of etiquette are constantly evolving and changing.


Peter Post:
What doesn’t change in etiquette is what we call some principles that drive how those manners are arrived at. And those principles are to be considerate, respectful and honest and those are timeless in cross cultural boundaries.


Peter Post

Meeting People & Creating Contacts

April 15, 2014


Interview with Anne Baber, author of the book Make Your Contacts Count: Networking Know-How for Business and Career Success



Mike Carruthers:
Getting out there and meeting new people is extremely important in order to get ahead professionally and socially and yet…
Anne Baber:
About sixty percent of Americans are now saying that they are shy. That number has ratcheted upward from forty percent only ten years ago.

Anne Baber

Presenting Your Ideas Well

March 6, 2014


Interview with Carmine Gallo, author of the book Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead today you have to be able to communicate well and express your ideas verbally.


Carmine Gallo:
You can have great ideas but if you cannot communicate persuasively. If I can’t move you to action then my ideas don’t matter that much, do they?

Carmine Gallo

How To Make A Good First Impression

March 5, 2014


Interview with Mark Mazzerella, author of the book Put Your Best Foot Forward: Make a Great Impression by Taking Control of How Others See You




Mike Carruthers:
You cannot minimize the importance of making a good first impression on people. Because everywhere you go people do judge you instantly.

Mark Mazzarella:

They're very predictable conclusions that can be drawn in terms of how close you should get to somebody, how much you should touch them. How they're going to react in terms of whether they believe you are trustworthy, caring, humble and capable if you behave in certain ways.

Mark Mazzerella

Talking To Strangers

July 8, 2013


Interview with Marvin Brown, author of the book How to Meet and Talk to Anyone Anywhere... Anytime...




Mike Carruthers:
Ever feel shy or uncomfortable at a party or event when you’re surrounded by strangers?


Marvin Brown:
Statistically 95% of the people in the United States of America do not know how to go over to someone they don’t know and then begin a conversation.


How Charming Are You?

March 8, 2013


Interview with Brian Tracy, co-author of the book The Power of Charm: How to Win Anyone Over in Any Situation




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be successful you have to be charming.


Brian Tracy:
The fact is that 85% of your success or lack of success is going to be determined by your relationships with other people. And the fact is that people who are the most successful are described by others as nice people.

Brian Tracy

Being Persuasive

November 8, 2012


Interview with Alan Axelrod, author of the book Getting Your Way Every Day: Mastering the Lost Art of Pure Persuasion




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be perceived as more authoritative and persuasive it really helps to be tall. But also…


Alan Axelrod:
People with deep voices are perceived generally as more authoritative than people with high voices.

Alan Axelrod

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