Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Preventing Self-Sabotage

February 26, 2015

 

Interview with Karen Berg, author of the book Your Self-Sabotage Survival Guide: How to Go From Why Me? to Why Not?

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Everybody at some point in their life engages in self-sabotage.

 

Karen Berg:
Largely self-sabotage is unconscious but the good news is that once you can bring it to the level of awareness you can fix it.
 


Karen Berg

Is More Really Better?

February 23, 2015

 

Interview with Vicki Robin, author of the book Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Ind ependence: Revised and Updated for the 21st Century

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Most people agree that when it comes to money and possessions, we live in a culture where "more is better."

 

Vicki Robin:
"More is better" is the story of a loser. "More" is not a strategy for life or a strategy for success because there's no way to define that.
 


Vicki Robin

How To Say No & Mean It

 February 19, 2015

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book Words That Win: What to Say to Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
When someone asks you to do something, and you don't want to, do you give in or do you say "no"?

 

Don Gabor:
Saying "no" is not an easy thing for many people to do, but it is often times the right thing to do for both parties.
 


Don Gabor

Taking Confrontation Out Of Conflict

February 18, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Coward's Guide to Conflict: Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict. It makes a lot of us uneasy, so we avoid it at all costs. Why?

 

Tim Ursiny PhD:
I think that most of us don't have a good role model for healthy conflict. I mean how many people do you know, that you can think of "Wow! They really handle conflict well?"
 


Tim Ursiny

Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015

 

Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way

 

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Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:

 

Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.
 


Rick Carson

Why Change Is So Hard

February 11, 2015

 

Interview with Anne Marie Ludovici, author of the book Change Your Mind, Change Your Health: 7 Ways to Harness the Power of Your Brain to Achieve True Well-Being

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Making change is hard even if it’s for our own good. Why?

 

Anne Marie Ludovici:
There’s a couple of reasons the problem is most people don’t know the science behind the change and the true definition of change and how to successfully sustain a change.
 


Anne Marie Ludovici

The Problem When We Make Assumptions

February 5, 2015

 

Interview with Scott Gornto, author of the book The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What do human beings do when they don’t have the whole story? We make it up.

 

Scott Gornto:
You know our boss sends us an email 3 or 4 o’clock on a Friday afternoon and says hey I need to talk first thing Monday morning. And then we create a narrative about what that means, are we getting fired, have I made a mistake, what’s going on?
 


Scott Gornto

Why You Can't Change Other People

January 30, 2015

 

Interview with Steven Reiss PhD, author of the book Who am I? The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define Our Personalities

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In many of our relationships we make a fundamental mistake.

 

Steven Reiss PhD:
We waste an enormous amount of time trying to change people who don't want to be changed.
 


Steven Reiss, PhD

What Mentally Strong People Do & Don't Do

January 12, 2015

 

Interview with Amy Morin, author of the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Over the course of our lives we can all develop mental habits that can really get in the way - for example; feeling sorry for yourself.

 

Amy Morin:
Self-pity is one of those things that keeps us focused on the problem rather than the solution. So well it might be easy to sit home on the couch and feel bad about something that’s going on in our lives it doesn’t do anything to make the situation better.

 


Amy Morin

Lazy People

January 2, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Mel Levine, author of the book The Myth of Laziness

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
People who seem lazy, you know…

 

Mel Levine:
The person who's always promising things, but never delivers, the kid who seems so bright, but doesn't submit his homework.
 


Dr. Mel Levine

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