Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Coping With Worry & Fear

July 31, 2015

 

Interview with John Demartini, author of the book The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Worry and fear we’ve all been there.

 

John Demartini:
I first defined fear as an assumption that you are going to experience in the future; more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, more negative than positive, more challenge than support from somebody or yourself.
 


John Demartini

Why Change Is Hard

July 30, 2015

 

Interview with Dan Health, co-author of the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Change is hard, but why? It may be how we approach the process of change.

 

Dan Heath:
People don’t typically think their way into change. Change usually starts with a feeling.

 


Dan Heath

Myths About Body Language

July 29, 2015

 

Interview with Janine Driver, author of the book You Say More Than You Think: Use the New Body Language to Get What You Want!, the 7-day Plan

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When it comes to body language a lot of the things that people assume to be true are actually myths. For example...

 

Janine Driver:
A big one is when someone’s lying they decrease their eye contact – come on now, really? Because my grandmother, and my great grandmother they knew that when you’re going to lie you give a little extra eye contact – we all know that.

 


Janine Driver

Are You Neat Or Messy?

July 24, 2015

 

Interview with David H. Freedman, co-author of the book A Perfect Mess: The Hidden Benefits of Disorder--How Crammed Closets, Cluttered Offices, and On-the-Fly Planning Make the World a Better Place

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Neatness is the standard in our culture. Messy people should be neater but you seldom hear the call for neat people to be messier, however…

 

David H. Freedman:
In some ways you give up a lot when you have a neat, pristine place - there are real advantages to messiness and what works best is really having a balance between the two.

 


David H. Freedman

Human Attraction - Part 2

July 23, 2015

 

Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In male/female attraction…

 

Human Attraction

July 22, 2015

 

Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What attracts men and women to each other is still rooted in very primitive instincts. For example…

 

Allan Pease:
When a woman’s looking at a man she’s evaluating his potential as a partner based on his ability to provide resources, which is a very ancient drive – resources means to provide food, protection, shelter.
 


Allan Pease

Say What You Mean

July 10, 2015

 

Interview with Meryl Runion, author of the book Speak Strong: Say what you MEAN. MEAN what you say. Don't be MEAN when you say it.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Say what you mean - it seems like simple straightforward advice but so often we don’t.

 

Meryl Runion:
So many of us have been taught not to say what we mean for the sake of social nicety or to keep the peace.
 


Meryl Runion

Performing Under Pressure - Part 2

July 7, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One way to perform better under pressure is the reframe the task as an opportunity rather than a pressure situation.

 

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
The key is to minimize the injurious affects that pressure has - it downgrades our thinking, our judgement it even bends our ethics.
 


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Performing Under Pressure

July 6, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Performing under pressure why is it so hard to do well when so much is at stake? It all has to do with the uncertainty of the outcome.

 

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
And that uncertainty translates into anxiety. And anxiety makes everybody do worse in a performance situation.
 


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Making Your Ideas Stick

July 3, 2015

 

Interview with Chip Heath, co-author of the book Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Some ideas stick with us for a long time; other ideas die the minute after we hear them.

 

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