Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Why You Can't Change Other People

January 30, 2015

 

Interview with Steven Reiss PhD, author of the book Who am I? The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define Our Personalities

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In many of our relationships we make a fundamental mistake.

 

Steven Reiss PhD:
We waste an enormous amount of time trying to change people who don't want to be changed.
 


Steven Reiss, PhD

What Mentally Strong People Do & Don't Do

January 12, 2015

 

Interview with Amy Morin, author of the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Over the course of our lives we can all develop mental habits that can really get in the way - for example; feeling sorry for yourself.

 

Amy Morin:
Self-pity is one of those things that keeps us focused on the problem rather than the solution. So well it might be easy to sit home on the couch and feel bad about something that’s going on in our lives it doesn’t do anything to make the situation better.

 


Amy Morin

Lazy People

January 2, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Mel Levine, author of the book The Myth of Laziness

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
People who seem lazy, you know…

 

Mel Levine:
The person who's always promising things, but never delivers, the kid who seems so bright, but doesn't submit his homework.
 


Dr. Mel Levine

4 Questions About Your New Year's Resolution

December 31, 2014

 

Interview with Mitzi Weinman, author of the book It's About Time! Transforming Chaos into Calm, A to Z

 

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Mike Carruthers:
So it's time for your 2015 New Year's resolution which if you're going make should probably be very specific.

 

Mitzi Weinman:
A resolution or a goal really needs to be tangible so that you can put action to it. It needs to be something that is really totally doable.
 


Mitzi Weinman

Art Of Creating Relationships

December 17, 2014

 

Interview with Steven Chandler, author of the book 50 Ways to Create Great Relationships: How to Stop Taking and Start Giving

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Developing friendships or relationships takes certain important skills.

 

Steve Chandler:
For example, listening, listening is the most creative aspect of relationships; it's what really makes relationships strong.
 


Steven Chandler

Appreciating What You Have

December 10, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Noelle Nelson, author of the book The Power of Appreciation: The Key to a Vibrant Life

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
It's a simple concept, and it goes like this:
 

Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D.:
You've got to appreciate what you have, to get what you want.
 


Dr. Noelle Nelson

How Men & Women Are Attracted To Each Other

December 12, 2014

 

Interview with Jay Phelan, co-author of the book Mean Genes: From Sex to Money to Food Taming Our Primal Instincts

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Evolution plays an important role in attraction to the opposite sex. For example women seem to be programmed to be attracted to a good provider.

 

Jay Phelan:
One of my favorite studies is that women ranked about a hundred photos of men, and how attractive are they.
 


Jay Phelan

Giving Back

December 8, 2014

 

Interview with Clea Newman, Serious Fun Children's Network

www.seriousfunnetwork.org

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many families have a holiday tradition of giving back this time or year - whether it’s giving money or volunteering.

 

Clea Newman:
I think that giving back makes you feel whole. And I’m very blessed that my family made it a tradition.
 


Clea Newman

Who Are You?

December 1, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Bowen White, author of the book Why Normal Isn't Healthy: How to Find Heart, Meaning Passion & Humor on the Road Most Traveled

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Have you ever stepped back and taken a careful look at your life?


Dr. Bowen White

You know we all have a secret that we share that we don't talk about. We all have these feelings of inadequacy we don't want anyone else to know about. So we walk around acting like we know what we're doing.
 


Dr. Bowen White

Manipulative Behavior

November 28, 2014

 

Interview with Harriet Braiker, author of the book Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know people who are manipulative?

Harriet B. Braiker, PhD:
Manipulators manipulate through the promise of a big gain, so there's usually something you really want and/or something you're very afraid of losing. 

 


Harriet Braiker

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