Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Improve Your Relationship Today

May 28, 2015

 

Interview with Cloe Madanes, author of the book Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In any relationship we all have the need for security and certainty.

 

Cloe Madanes:
One of the paradoxes of human life is that as soon as you have certainty you have the need for uncertainty, variety - you want some surprises.


Cloe Madanes

 

Doing What's Important - Part 2

May 27, 2015

 

Interview with Marshall Goldsmith, author of the book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be

 

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Mike Carruthers:

Making a real change in your life is hard but not so you’d notice.
 

 

Marshall Goldsmith:

We are constantly barraged with this message of all I have to do is pay this money or read this book and all of a sudden life’s going to be just fine – not so simple.

 


Marshall Goldsmith

Doing What's Important

May 26, 2015

 

Interview with Marshall Goldsmith, author of the book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be

 

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Mike Carruthers:
So you make plans to change or improve something about yourself and then something goes wrong.

 

Marshall Goldsmith:
There’s something I call the planner bias when we make plans we think the planner and the doer are the same people. The person planning to going on the diet is not that doer that is hungry and staring at the chocolate cake.

 


Marshall Goldsmith

Why You Should Be Nice

May 20, 2015

 

Interview with Linda Kaplan Thaler author of The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead, is being nice a good thing or a bad thing?

 

Linda Kaplan Thaler:
You know, "nice" has been getting a bad rap. "Nice" is defined by people as someone who's milquetoast - you can step all over them. The fact of the matter is, it's probably the toughest four letter word you'll ever learn.

 


Linda Kaplan Thaler

 

Social And Performance Anxiety

May 19, 2015

 

 

Interview with Jonathan Berent author of Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties

 

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Mike Carruthers:
More people have social or performance anxiety than perhaps anyone realized. You know that fear of giving a presentation or the fear of looking foolish or nervous
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Jonathan Berent:
And I’ve had countless people who have told me things like, “You know I’m thinking of getting into a car accident tomorrow on the way to work because I have to give a presentation and there’s no way I’m going to do it.”
 

Jonathan Berent

 

Keys To Productivity

May 18, 2015

 

Interview with Josh Davis, author of the book Two Awesome Hours: Science-Based Strategies to Harness Your Best Time and Get Your Most Important Work Done

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In order to be as productive as possible it’s important to recognize…

 

Josh Davis:
…that we’re not going to be at our peak all day long every minute and we don’t need to be. There’s a lot of stuff that doesn’t need our best mental energy.
 


Josh Davis

How You Perceive Risk - Part 2

May 15, 2015

Part 2 of Interview with David Ropeik, author of Risk!: A Practical Guide for Deciding What's Really Safe and What's Really Dangerous in the World Around You

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Mike Carruthers:
Assessing what's truly risky in life isn't easy - and there's no simple equation either.

 

David Ropeik:
It's not this linear, statistical thing that the media likes to say, "We're too afraid of shark attack and not afraid enough of heart disease." Yeah that's true but it really doesn't work itself out in a kind of a mathematical sort of way.
 


David Ropeik

 

How You Perceive Risk

 May 14, 2015

Interview with David Ropeik, author of Risk!: A Practical Guide for Deciding What's Really Safe and What's Really Dangerous in the World Around You

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Mike Carruthers:
How we decide what's risky or scary doesn't necessarily follow logic…

 

David Ropeik:
In olden times it was pretty easy to figure out what was dangerous -  it was the lion that was attacking or it was the guy with the club - and risks were obvious.
 

David Ropeik

Bouncing Back From Setbacks & Trauma

May 11, 2015

 

Interview with David Feldman, author of the book Supersurvivors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How many have you heard what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? Or when life gives you lemons you make lemonade? But when you really study people who have bounced back from trauma in life…

 

David Feldman:
All have said what did not help them was positive thinking. What did not help them was silver lining look on the bright side thinking.

 


David Feldman

Dealing With Anger

May 8, 2015

 

Interview with John Lee, author of The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Achieving Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Funny thing about anger - people get angry all the time and yet…

 

John Lee:
The words you will very seldom ever hear a lover, a spouse, a boss or an employee ever say to anybody is, “I’m angry”. 


John Lee

 

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