Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


How To Acquire Power

June 1, 2016

 

Interview with Dacher Keltner, author of the book The Power Paradox

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How often have you heard someone described as powerful? He’s a very powerful person; she has a lot of power. So what does that mean?

 

Dacher Keltner:
Power means -it’s not just money or military might or politics it’s really how you as an individual can influence other people.
 


Dacher Keltner

Power Of Empathy

May 27, 2016

 

Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Whenever you’re in the situation where someone else is upset and you need to calm them down, about the last thing you should say to them is to calm down.

 

Dr. Daniel Siegel:
I think the intention of calm down makes a lot of sense but the action to achieve it is often misplaced. In other words  if you say, “CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN” – that usually doesn’t get people to calm down.
 


Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Good News About Getting Older - Part 2

May 25, 2016

 

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What would you guess is the biggest regret older people have when they look back on their lives?

 

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
I imagined it would be an affair, it would be having worked too much, or too little – the 1# regret in their view is spending too much time worrying. 
 


Karl Pillimer, PhD

Good News About Getting Older

May 24, 2016

 

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you were to ask 1200 people over the age of 65 what they think about getting older you’d probably be surprised by what you hear.

 

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
And it is remarkably different from what any younger think. One of the key lessons is being old is way better than you think.
 


Karl Pillimer, PhD

How Willpower Really Works

May 23, 2016

 

Interview with John Tierney, author of the book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to have strong self-control and willpower don’t ask too much of it.

 

John Tierney:
The people that have the best self-control are the people who have structured their lives so that they’re not exercising it all day long. They realize that it’s this finite resource that it gets depleted. 
 


John Tierney

You & Your Siblings

May 13, 2016

 

Interview with Jeffrey Kluger, author of the book The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Your relationships with your siblings may be more meaningful than you realize.

 

Jeffrey Kluger:
Your siblings are the ones that are with you, the only relationship you have that will be with you from birth to death, your parents leave too early, your spouse and your kids come along later.
 


Jeffrey Kluger

Is "Gut Instinct" A Real Thing?

May 12, 2016

 

Interview with Mary Ellen O’Toole, author of the book Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Feelings Betray Us

 

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Mike Carruthers:
My gut instinct told me it was the right thing to do. How often have you said that?

 

Mary Ellen O’Toole:
It’s this reliance on these mystical concepts that really cannot be described, you can’t refine your gut, you can’t improve your gut.
 


Mary Ellen O'Toole

Why We Like What We Like - Part 2

May 11, 2016

 

Interview with Tom Vanderbilt, author of the book You May Also Like

 

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Mike Carruthers:
We often rely on other people’s reviews of products or restaurants or hotels but it’s important to understand who’s writing those reviews.

 

Tom Vanderbilt:

There’s just a certain community that is going to write a review more generally to begin with they have more time, they like to write, their more vocal with their opinions or as you say they are motivated by other particularly good or particularly bad experience.
 


Tom Vanderbilt

Why We Like What We Like

May 10, 2016

 

Interview with Tom Vanderbilt, author of the book You May Also Like

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What’s your favorite color? Most people say blue. Why?

 

Tom Vanderbilt:
There’s something called availability bias that psychologists talk about somethings the thing that’s most obvious in our minds is the thing that springs to mind when we’re asked a question like that.
 


Tom Vanderbilt

Balancing Work & Life

May 6, 2016

 

Interview with Mathew Kelly, author of the book Off Balance: Getting Beyond the Work-Life Balance Myth to Personal and Professional Satisfaction

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In order to live a satisfied life you may need to give up the idea of having a balanced life.

 

Mathew Kelly:
The reality is we’re most satisfied when we’re working hard or playing or resting hard. We tend to live our lives in extreme and I think the idea of trying to balance everything up is actually destructive.
 


Mathew Kelly

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