Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Coping With Anxiety

March 4, 2015

 

Interview with Scott Stossel, author of the book My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Millions of Americans suffer from some sort of anxiety.

 

Scott Stossel:
It’s a collection of factors starting with genetics. If you have one family member who suffers from acute anxiety it’s very likely that you will have many other members.


Scott Stossel

Getting What You Really Want - Part 2

March 3, 2015 

 

Interview with Peter Bregman, author of the book Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Stop Counter-Productive Habits and Get the Results You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Nobody wants to take the blame but it actually may be a very good strategy.

 

Peter Bregman:
That to take the blame for whatever you can take the blame for changes the dynamic and it does the exact opposite. It doesn’t make people want to fire you it makes people want to hire you and work with you and promote you because they see someone who’s taking accountability.
 

                                                                           


Peter Bregman

Preventing Self-Sabotage

February 26, 2015

 

Interview with Karen Berg, author of the book Your Self-Sabotage Survival Guide: How to Go From Why Me? to Why Not?

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Everybody at some point in their life engages in self-sabotage.

 

Karen Berg:
Largely self-sabotage is unconscious but the good news is that once you can bring it to the level of awareness you can fix it.
 


Karen Berg

Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015

 

Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way

 

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Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:

 

Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.
 


Rick Carson

What It Means To Be Organized

February 27, 2015

 

Interview with Liz Franklin, author of the book How to Get Organized Without Resorting to Arson: A Step-By-Step Guide to Clearing Your Desk Without Panic or the Use of Open Flame

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you think of your life as disorganized?

 

Liz Franklin:
When people say they're disorganized, they mean very, very different things. Some people mean their stuff looks messy. Some people mean they just don't have enough time.
 


Liz Franklin

Is More Really Better?

February 23, 2015

 

Interview with Vicki Robin, author of the book Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Ind ependence: Revised and Updated for the 21st Century

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Most people agree that when it comes to money and possessions, we live in a culture where "more is better."

 

Vicki Robin:
"More is better" is the story of a loser. "More" is not a strategy for life or a strategy for success because there's no way to define that.
 


Vicki Robin

How To Say No & Mean It

 February 19, 2015

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book Words That Win: What to Say to Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
When someone asks you to do something, and you don't want to, do you give in or do you say "no"?

 

Don Gabor:
Saying "no" is not an easy thing for many people to do, but it is often times the right thing to do for both parties.
 


Don Gabor

Taking Confrontation Out Of Conflict

February 18, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Coward's Guide to Conflict: Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict. It makes a lot of us uneasy, so we avoid it at all costs. Why?

 

Tim Ursiny PhD:
I think that most of us don't have a good role model for healthy conflict. I mean how many people do you know, that you can think of "Wow! They really handle conflict well?"
 


Tim Ursiny

Why Change Is So Hard

February 11, 2015

 

Interview with Anne Marie Ludovici, author of the book Change Your Mind, Change Your Health: 7 Ways to Harness the Power of Your Brain to Achieve True Well-Being

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Making change is hard even if it’s for our own good. Why?

 

Anne Marie Ludovici:
There’s a couple of reasons the problem is most people don’t know the science behind the change and the true definition of change and how to successfully sustain a change.
 


Anne Marie Ludovici

The Problem When We Make Assumptions

February 5, 2015

 

Interview with Scott Gornto, author of the book The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What do human beings do when they don’t have the whole story? We make it up.

 

Scott Gornto:
You know our boss sends us an email 3 or 4 o’clock on a Friday afternoon and says hey I need to talk first thing Monday morning. And then we create a narrative about what that means, are we getting fired, have I made a mistake, what’s going on?
 


Scott Gornto

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