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Competition - Part 2

March 5, 2013

 

Interview with Ashley Merryman, co-author of the book Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing

 

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Mike Carruthers:
A lot of the competition has been taken out of kids’ sports everyone’s a winner and no one keeps an official score.

 

Ashley Merryman:
But the kids keep score, they all know and actually the sort of illusion that everybody wins is really kind of troubling to kids.
 


Ashley Merryman

Introverts

February 25, 2013

 

Interview with Dr. Laurie Helgoe, author of the book Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Believe it or not introverts make up about ½ of the population and yet…

 

Dr. Laurie Helgoe:
Our society is so programmed - get out there be with people when we take 2 seconds to think about it no that’s not the whole picture.
 


Dr. Laurie Helgoe

Competition

March 4, 2013

 

Interview with Ashley Merryman, co-author of the book Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Men are more competitive than women - that’s a common belief but it’s not exactly true.

 

Ashley Merryman:
What we’ve found in the research is that it’s not that men and women compete differently once they’re in the competition – a woman will fight just as hard for a job as a guy.
 


Ashley Merryman

Where Does Love Come From - Part 2?

February 12, 2013

 

Interview with Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, author of the book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Scientifically speaking love is the result of micro-moments of shared positivity.

 

Dr. Barbara Fredrickson:
We have data to suggest that the more moments like this people have in their day the healthier they become in terms of their cardiovascular functioning. And the more they grow and change and become better versions of themselves.
 


Dr. Barbara Fredrickson

Where Does Love Come From?

February 11, 2013

 

Interview with Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, author of the book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When we feel love towards someone what is that emotion exactly - is it something that comes over time?

 

Dr. Barbara Fredrickson:
Well, love does come over time and yet it’s built up over time through these micro-moments of shared positive emotion - the shared positive emotions that we feel with others.
 


Dr. Barbara Fredrickson

Focus On What You Are Good At

February 8, 2013

 

Interview with Kathryn Cramer, PhD, author of the book The

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Self-improvement to most people it means to identify what's wrong and work to make it better, to fix our deficits.

 

Kathryn Cramer:
But what are the assets? What is working, what I've done that makes progress happen? -Who I am, my talents, my capabilities and my strengths.
 


Kathryn Cramer PhD

How To Live A Great Life

February 4, 2013

 

Interview with Judith Wright, author of the book Transformed!: The Science of Spectacular Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Ever feel like something is missing in your life?

 

Judith Wright:
Well I think all of us feel like some unfulfilled potential on us, some kind of nagging something, it’s something that feels like almost like an itch we’re not scratching.
 


Judith Wright

How To Get Good At Anything - Part 2

January 30, 2013

 

Interview with Timothy Ferris, author of the book The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to accomplish a goal or get good at something it helps to have a real incentive.


Timothy Ferris:
Whether that’s go to the gym 3 times a week, practice the guitar twice a week, whatever it might be. Because part of the reason people take so long to learn things is the practice gets put aside so often – because people have fulltime jobs and kids and so forth.
 


Timothy Ferris

How To Get Good At Anything

January 29, 2013

 

Interview with Timothy Ferris, author of the book The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conventional wisdom is that to become excellent at something takes skill and years and years of practice. Well, maybe not.


Timothy Ferris:
What you find is there are many, many people who can become world class, meaning top 5% in the world in a given skill, in much shorter periods of time.  In some cases 6-12 months.
 


Timothy Ferris

The Fear Emotion

January 23, 2013

 

Interview with Jaimal Yogis, author of the book The Fear Project: What Our Most Primal Emotion Taught Me About Survival, Success, Surfing . . . and Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In human evolution fear has played an important role.

 

Jaimal Yogis:
It was meant to react to a real threat; a tiger, a tree falling - to give us some extra energy in the moment.
 


Jaimal Yogis

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