Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Your Different Personalities

April 10, 2014

 

Interview with Rita Carter, author of the book Multiplicity: The New Science of Personality, Identity, and the Self

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it we all have several different personalities inside each of us.

 

Rita Carter:
So, for example, a mother - she has to be Mom at breakfast time; three hours later she might be in a board meeting where she's got to be very assertive and think about big things. And she kind of needs to keep those things separate.

 


Rita Carter

Toxic Guilt

April 9, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Carrell, author of the book Escaping Toxic Guilt: Five Proven Steps to Free Yourself from Guilt for Good!

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Guilt is a useful emotion. It keeps us from doing bad things. Toxic guilt, on the other hand, is not so good.

 

Susan Carrell:
Toxic guilt is good guilt that's gone wrong. It's the kind of guilt that keeps you trapped in relationships or situations that you really do not want to be in.
 


Susan Carrell

Getting Trust & Cooperation

April 8, 2014

 

Interview with Len Fisher, author of the book Rock, Paper, Scissors: Game Theory in Everyday Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If two children want to split a piece of cake there is one way to make sure the two pieces are as equal as possible.

 

Len Fisher:
I cut and you choose because that gives you the fairest way of dividing it up.
 


Len Fisher

Forgiveness Or Revenge?

April 4, 2014

 

Interview with Michael McCullough, author of the book Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Forgiveness it’s a fascinating subject, because…

 

Mike McCullough:
Humans come into this world both with an instinct to seek revenge and with an ability to forgive. And the real difference, Mike, between the situations in which we're inclined to use revenge and the situations in which we're inclined to forgive is all about the environment. It's all about the situation.
 


Michael McCullough

Self-Confidence

April 3, 2014

 

Interview with Sheenah Hankin, author of the book Complete Confidence Updated Edition: A Handbook

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One major reason we don't achieve our goals is lack of self-confidence.

 

Sheenah Hankin, PhD:
This country really suffers from something very serious. We talk about the price of gas being such a problem for the economy. What about the price of lack of confidence? All of these people in the country who are not fulfilling their potential, who have difficult relationships and don't know why.
 


Sheenah Hankin

Our Anti-Male Culture

April 2, 2014

 

Interview with Kathleen Parker, author of the book Save the Males: Why Men Matter Why Women Should Care

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Have you noticed in our society that…

 

Kathleen Parker:
The culture at large is extremely anti-male these days. This has been building for twenty or thirty years. And it's finally reached a point where guys can't do anything right.
 


Kathleen Parker

Power Of Persistence

March 27, 2014

 

Interview with Daniel Pink, author of the book The Adventures of Johnny Bunko: The Last Career Guide You'll Ever Need

 

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Mike Carruthers:
The unsung, unexciting, un-sexy ingredient to success in anything is persistence - in fact…

 

Daniel Pink:
Persistence trumps talent. That is, there are massive returns to doggedness. The world is littered with extremely talented people who didn't persist.
 


Daniel H. Pink

How To Be Charismatic

March 26, 2014

 

Interview with Olivia Fox, author of the book The Pocket Guide To Becoming a Superstar In Your Field
 

www.askolivia.com

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you have charisma?

 

Olivia Fox:
Charisma really, in its essence, is how you make people feel about themselves. Someone who is charismatic is someone who draws you in, someone who makes you feel interesting and fascinated.

 


Olivia Fox

Receiving Feedback From People

March 17, 2014

 

Interview with Sheila Heen, co-author of the book Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Supposedly we all want to get feedback from other people but sometimes feedback is hard to take.

 

Sheila Heen:
So feedback sits right at the junction of 2 core human needs; the 1st is the need to learn and grow.

 


Sheila Heen

Finding Success

March 13, 2014

 

Interview with David M. Howitt, author of the book Heed Your Call: Integrating Myth, Science, Spirituality, and Business

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How do you feel about work and success?

 

David M. Howitt:
A lot of us are taught at the earliest ages you’ve got to put your shoulder into the plow and you’ve got to work a 12 hour day and the more tired you are when you come home the more successful you are. My experience that’s just not true.
 


David M. Howitt

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