Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


How Your Senses Affect Your Thinking

May 6, 2014

 

Interview with Thalma Lobel, author of the book Sensation: The New Science of Physical Intelligence

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Your senses have an interesting impact on your own thoughts and behaviors. For instance your sense of smell…

 

Thalma Lobel:
When you smell something really, really gross you tend to be harsher in your moral judgment.

 


Professor Thalma Lobel

Overcoming Tough Times

May 1, 2014

 

Interview with Ryan Holiday, author of the book The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Funny thing about adversity and tough times.

 

Ryan Holiday:
When we look back in our lives we all see things that we thought were terrible at the time that we thought were going to be huge setbacks. But we know sort of in retrospect that they were good, that we grew from them that we benefited from them.
 


Ryan Holiday

Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?

April 29, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Judith Orloff, author of the book The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you’re trying to accomplish something important in your career or your personal life it’s possible to try too hard. When really what you should do is surrender.

 

Dr. Judith Orloff:
It’s about learning the art of when to move forward and when to let go. To do everything you can to make something happen but then turn the results over so you don’t kill your endeavors with a death grip.
 


Dr. Judith Orloff

Timid Passive People

April 17, 2014

 

Interview with Dennis D. Adams, author of the Honest, Direct, Respectful: Three Simple Words that will Change your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you consider yourself a passive person or a reactive person?


Dennis Adams:

I think that eighty percent of people in any given population are passive and I think that twenty percent are reactive by nature.
 


Dennis D. Adams

Getting Things Done

April 16, 2014

 

Interview with Neil Fiore, author of the book The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Why is it that we procrastinate when we know we have to get something done?

 

Neil Fiore:
We do it in part because of the way we talk to ourselves and the way in which our parents talked to us about our homework. "You have to finish your homework" - well that's very counter-productive 'because you have to' means you don't want to.
 


Neil Fiore

Meeting People & Creating Contacts

April 15, 2014

 

Interview with Anne Baber, author of the book Make Your Contacts Count: Networking Know-How for Business and Career Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Getting out there and meeting new people is extremely important in order to get ahead professionally and socially and yet…
 
Anne Baber:
About sixty percent of Americans are now saying that they are shy. That number has ratcheted upward from forty percent only ten years ago.

Anne Baber

Your Different Personalities

April 10, 2014

 

Interview with Rita Carter, author of the book Multiplicity: The New Science of Personality, Identity, and the Self

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it we all have several different personalities inside each of us.

 

Rita Carter:
So, for example, a mother - she has to be Mom at breakfast time; three hours later she might be in a board meeting where she's got to be very assertive and think about big things. And she kind of needs to keep those things separate.

 


Rita Carter

Toxic Guilt

April 9, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Carrell, author of the book Escaping Toxic Guilt: Five Proven Steps to Free Yourself from Guilt for Good!

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Guilt is a useful emotion. It keeps us from doing bad things. Toxic guilt, on the other hand, is not so good.

 

Susan Carrell:
Toxic guilt is good guilt that's gone wrong. It's the kind of guilt that keeps you trapped in relationships or situations that you really do not want to be in.
 


Susan Carrell

Getting Trust & Cooperation

April 8, 2014

 

Interview with Len Fisher, author of the book Rock, Paper, Scissors: Game Theory in Everyday Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If two children want to split a piece of cake there is one way to make sure the two pieces are as equal as possible.

 

Len Fisher:
I cut and you choose because that gives you the fairest way of dividing it up.
 


Len Fisher

Forgiveness Or Revenge?

April 4, 2014

 

Interview with Michael McCullough, author of the book Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Forgiveness it’s a fascinating subject, because…

 

Mike McCullough:
Humans come into this world both with an instinct to seek revenge and with an ability to forgive. And the real difference, Mike, between the situations in which we're inclined to use revenge and the situations in which we're inclined to forgive is all about the environment. It's all about the situation.
 


Michael McCullough

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