Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

Expressing Appreciation

June 19, 2015


Interview with Dan Shapiro, author of the book Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate




Mike Carruthers:
Showing appreciation can be almost magical in any relationship, discussion or negotiation if you know how to do it right.


Daniel Shapiro:
People often say, "Empathize with the other person, validate their emotions." But what does that mean?


Dan Shapiro

Improving Self Confidence

June 17, 2015


Interview with Marci Fox, co-author of the book Think Confident, Be Confident: A Four-Step Program to Eliminate Doubt and Achieve LifelongSelf-Esteem….




Mike Carruthers:
Self-confidence; how much of it you have may have a lot to do with your childhood.


What Makes A Good Partnership?

June 11, 2015


Interview with Rodd Wagner, co-author of the book Power of 2: How to Make the Most of Your Partnerships at Work and in Life




Mike Carruthers:
Partnerships - we all have them at work, at home and with friends.


Rodd Wagner:
Most people are not very deliberate about their partnerships. When you ask them whether they’ve had good partnerships or bad partnerships they will tend to say they’ve had a lot more bad partnerships than good ones.

Rodd Wagner

Managing Your Boss

June 3, 2015


Interview with Katherine Crowley, co-author of the book Working for You Isn't Working for Me: The Ultimate Guide to Managing Your Boss




Mike Carruthers:
Just about everyone can find something wrong with their boss.


Katherine Crowley:
It’s not that bosses overall as personalities - as human beings are horrible people. It’s that many bosses have specific traits that drive people crazy.

Katherine Crowley


Success For Introverts

June 2, 2015


Interview with Nancy Ancowitz author of Self-Promotion for Introverts: The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead




Mike Carruthers:
Introverts are an often misunderstood group. What’s an introvert?


Nancy Ancowitz:
An introvert gains her or his energy by being alone – by doing solo activities instead of more social activities. And we’re actually 50% of the population.

Nancy Ancowitz

Weird Ways We Influence Each Other

June 1, 2015


Interview with Nicholas Christakis, M.D., author of the book Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives




Mike Carruthers:
How many real friends do you have?


Nicholas Christakis, M.D.:
The average number of friends Americans have is about 4 - 1/2 – that they feel socially close to, that they would spend free time with, that they would discuss personal problems with and so forth.

Nicolas Christakis, M.D.


Improve Your Relationship Today

May 28, 2015


Interview with Cloe Madanes, author of the book Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life




Mike Carruthers:
In any relationship we all have the need for security and certainty.


Cloe Madanes:
One of the paradoxes of human life is that as soon as you have certainty you have the need for uncertainty, variety - you want some surprises.

Cloe Madanes


Doing What's Important - Part 2

May 27, 2015


Interview with Marshall Goldsmith, author of the book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be




Mike Carruthers:

Making a real change in your life is hard but not so you’d notice.


Marshall Goldsmith:

We are constantly barraged with this message of all I have to do is pay this money or read this book and all of a sudden life’s going to be just fine – not so simple.


Marshall Goldsmith

Doing What's Important

May 26, 2015


Interview with Marshall Goldsmith, author of the book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be




Mike Carruthers:
So you make plans to change or improve something about yourself and then something goes wrong.


Marshall Goldsmith:
There’s something I call the planner bias when we make plans we think the planner and the doer are the same people. The person planning to going on the diet is not that doer that is hungry and staring at the chocolate cake.


Marshall Goldsmith

Why You Should Be Nice

May 20, 2015


Interview with Linda Kaplan Thaler author of The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead, is being nice a good thing or a bad thing?


Linda Kaplan Thaler:
You know, "nice" has been getting a bad rap. "Nice" is defined by people as someone who's milquetoast - you can step all over them. The fact of the matter is, it's probably the toughest four letter word you'll ever learn.


Linda Kaplan Thaler


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