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Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

When You Worry Too Much

December 12, 2012

 

Interview with Kathryn Tristan, author of the book Why Worry?: Stop Coping and Start Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Worrying is fine; worrying too much is a problem.

 

Kathryn Tristan:
1 out of 2 Americans will suffer at some time in their life from anxiety, from depression or from addiction. And that stems back to how we’re thinking about our challenges and how we worry – this is a huge problem.
 
Kathryn Tristan

Kathryn Tristan, author of the book Why Worry?...

 

A lot of times this is learned from childhood. Some scientists say that your mind is like an idling car it always has thought patterns in the back that were running that are ready to kick into reality once something happens. And if you are trained and wired to be a worrier and a worry wart then that is going to be your modus operandi that is what you’re going to kick into.

 

When you start to worry obsessively, Kathryn says, it helps to get very specific, write it down or say it out loud, give voice to your worry then you can question it.

 

Turn it around instead of thinking I’ve got a headache maybe it’s a brain tumor and I have cancer you think is that an actual thought, no I actually disagree with that. So you turn your situations around but you also are realistic and you’re solution-oriented.

 

If your mind is occupied with positive things it can’t be worrying. And then there’s that big never changing statistic.

 

Science has shown that 85% of what we worry about never happens. So we have the choice of using that idea to try to help us decide if what we’re worrying about is reasonable or not.
 

   
 

Being The Best You Can Be

December 6, 2012

 

Interview with Dr. Rosalene Glickman, author of the book Optimal Thinking: How to Be Your Best Self

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One way to be happier, achieve more success and to be a better person is to practice optimal thinking.

 

Dr. Rosalene Glickman:
Optimal thinking is the thinking we use when we say, “What’s the best use of my time right now, how can I make the most of this situation?”
 
Dr. Rosalene Glickman

How We Make Decisions

December 4, 2012

 

Interview with Jeremy Holden, author of the book Second That Emotion: How Decisions, Trends, and Movements Are Shaped

 

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Mike Carruthers:
As human beings we’re supposed to aspire to make smart decisions and to be logical in making those decisions and yet…


Jeremy Holden:
Actually emotion specifically illogic rather than logic tend to be what drives the decisions we make the affiliations we create.
 
Jeremy Holden

The Power Of Being Trustworthy - Part 2

November 14, 2012

 

Interview with David Horsager, author of the book The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know people who make commitments and then flake out?

 

David Horsager:
Many, many, many people are making commitments, I think, without counting the costs, without thinking about really am I really going to stick with this? Or I’m just going to say it it’s so easy to say.
 
David Horsager

The Power Of Being Trustworthy

November 13, 2012

 

Interview with David Horsager, author of the book The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Whether it’s business or personal relationships trust is huge.

 

David Horsager:
I define trust as a confident belief in so if I confidently believe in you costs go down, skepticism goes down, everything changes.
 
David Horsager

When Doing Nothing Is Better Than Doing Something - Part 2

 

November 7, 2012

 

Interview with Matthew May, author of the book The Laws of Subtraction: 6 Simple Rules for Winning in the Age of Excess Everything

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Sometimes the solution to a problem is not to add more things to solve the problem but to take away something – to do less.

 

Matthew May:
And the thought is that when you remove just the right things in just the right way really good things happen.
 
Matthew May

When Doing Nothing Is Better Than Doing Something

 

November 6, 2012

 

Interview with Matthew May, author of the book The Laws of Subtraction: 6 Simple Rules for Winning in the Age of Excess Everything

 

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Mike Carruthers:
It may just be human nature but when there’s a problem we feel the need to do something.

 

Matthew May:
It’s the old adage of don’t just stand there do something. But doing something isn’t always better than doing nothing.
 
Matthew May

Friends Are Good For You

November 2, 2012

 

Interview with Tom Rath, author of the book Vital Friends: The People You Can't Afford to Live Without

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Having friends is good for you.

 

Tom Rath:
It's the one thing that I can really get the leading experts to agree on - is the fact that friendships are the single best predictor of how happy we are on a day-to-day basis.
 
Tom Rath

Would You Like To Be More Admired? - Part 2

October 24, 2012

 

Interview with Mark C. Thompson, author of the book Admired: 21 Ways to Double Your Value

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be successful and admired by others is it more important to be competent or charismatic? Well research has asked that question and it turns out…

 

Mark C. Thompson:
Competence and your ability to do the work ended up being more important than how naturally communicative or extroverted that you are – it’ll always trump personality and charisma is your competence.
 
Mark C. Thompson

Would You Like To Be More Admired?

October 23, 2012

 

Interview with Mark C. Thompson, author of the book Admired: 21 Ways to Double Your Value

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you get the recognition and respect you think you deserve?

 

Mark C. Thompson:
What we found is that most people wish they were valued more, respected and admired for what they do or at least what they care about most.
 
Mark C. Thompson


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