Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Manipulative Behavior

November 28, 2014

 

Interview with Harriet Braiker, author of the book Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know people who are manipulative?

Harriet B. Braiker, PhD:
Manipulators manipulate through the promise of a big gain, so there's usually something you really want and/or something you're very afraid of losing. 

 


Harriet Braiker

Talking Back To Your Inner Critic

November 25, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, author of the book Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you stop and listen for a moment you can probably here your inner critic.

 

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo:
And I like to think of an inner critic is actually a very positive force if you use it well.

 


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

Perfectionism

November 24, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, author of the book Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You probably are or know someone who is a perfectionist.

 

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo:
Perfectionism is an all or nothing mentality. It goes way beyond wanting your junk drawer to be perfectly neat.
 


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

The Importance Of Face-To-Face Communication

November 17, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Pinker, author of the book The Village Effect: How Face-to-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier, and Smarter

 

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Mike Carruthers:
So much of our communication today is electronic yet face-to-face contact turns out to be very important.

 

Susan Pinker:
Because interacting face to face releases a whole cascade of biochemical events that essentially provides biological resilience not only now but into the future.
 


Susan Pinker

How To Listen Better Than You Have Before

November 11, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Marcia Reynolds, author of the book The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations Into Breakthroughs (BK Business)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In any important conversation you have it’s important to remember that…

 

Dr. Marcia Reynolds:
Listening is the most important piece of a conversation. So many people like rehearse what it is I’m going to say and it never turns out the way you think it is anyway.
 


Dr. Marcia Reynolds

The Power Of Rituals

November 6, 2014

 

Interview with Chris Attwood, author of the book Your Hidden Riches: Unleashing the Power of Ritual to Create a Life of Meaning and Purpose

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Simon Cowell climbs a tree every day. Serena Williams bouncing the tennis ball exactly 5 times before she serves. These are rituals.

 

Chris Attwood:
And what’s unique about a ritual is that rituals make things real. You get married and a wedding ceremony, that ritual, makes that abstract concept real.
 


Chris Attwood

How To Give & Take Criticism - Part 2

November 4, 2014

 

Interview with Deb Bright, author of the book The Truth Doesn't Have to Hurt

 

To hear the complete interview with Deb Bright click here

 

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Mike Carruthers:
For criticism to be effective there has to be trust between giver and receiver.

 

Deb Bright:
Because when you trust someone then you know the intent is positive. You know that they’re there to help you not hurt you.
 


Deb Bright

 

How To Give & Take Criticism

November 3, 2014

 

Interview with Deb Bright, author of the book The Truth Doesn't Have to Hurt

 

To hear the complete interview with Deb Bright click here

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Criticism in many workplaces the word has become taboo.

 

Deb Bright:
We’ve colored or painted it over with other words like appreciative feedback, caring confrontation, a coaching moment. You know what we’ve done is we’ve really created a tremendous amount of confusion in the workplace.
 


Deb Bright

 

The Problem With Perfection

October 31, 2014
 

Interview with Arthur Ciaramicoli, author of the book Performance Addiction: The Dangerous New Syndrome and How to Stop It from Ruining Your Life 
 

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Mike Carruthers:
The definition of personal growth has changed somewhat in just the last few years. 

 

Arthur Ciaramicoli:
You know there used to be a time when self-growth meant spiritual growth. In our world today growing means achieving and perfecting. And if you're always focused on perfecting yourself you can't live within your own skin with comfort.
 


Arthur Ciaramicoli

Complain Less - Persuade More

October 29, 2014

 

Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Instant Persuasion

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you complain to someone you're really trying to persuade them to do something. Although usually we're not very good at this.

 

Laurie Puhn, J.D.:
And what I mean by that is, lets say you have a problem you want your spouse to do more chores around the house. You could say, " Honey you really need to do more around the house I'm taking care of everything myself and this just isn't fair."
 


Laurie Puhn

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