Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

Dealing With Adversity

November 6, 2013


Interview with Dr. Norman Rosenthal, author of the book The Gift of Adversity: The Unexpected Benefits of Life's Difficulties, Setbacks, and Imperfections




Mike Carruthers:
Adversity; tough times they happen to all of us.


Dr. Normal Rosenthal:
Adversity is a necessary part of life that it happens in 3 contexts; bad luck, bad judgment and when you voluntarily take on the adversity.

Dr. Norman Rosenthal

How Confident Are You?

November 4, 2013


Interview with Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, PhD, author of the book Confidence: The Surprising Truth About How Much You Need - and How to Get it




Mike Carruthers:
Low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence are problems that get talked about a lot but the real problem may be just the opposite.


Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, PhD:
There are a lot more people in the over-confidence bracket or category than in the under-confidence bracket. Most people think that they are much better than average which is statistically impossible. 

Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic

Negative Self-Talk

October 30, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
One reason people get gloomy and have trouble snapping out it is what they’re saying to themselves.


Shelley Carson:
We call this self-talk and people may be saying a number of negative things to themselves without really realizing that they’re doing it.


Shelley Carson, PhD

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.


Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.

Shelley Carson, PhD

How Technology Controls Your Life

October 28, 2013


Interview with Anne Katherine, author of the book Boundaries in an Overconnected World: Setting Limits to Preserve Your Focus, Privacy, Relationships, and Sanity




Mike Carruthers:
Everyone knows you’re not supposed to talk or text on the phone while you’re driving so why does so many people still do it?


Anne Katherine:
We’ve been trained for many, many years to respond to a telephone ring. And so if a phone rings or a text bings while you’re in your car your hand will reach for that before your mind even engages.

Anne Katherine

How To Make Your Own Luck

October 21, 2013


Interview with Eileen Shapiro, author of the book Make Your Own Luck: 12 Practical Steps to Taking Smarter Risks in Business




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be lucky, you've got to make your own luck. 


Eileen Shapiro:
Arnold Palmer was asked whether he believed in luck and he said, "Sure, I find the more I practice the luckier I get."

Eileen C. Shapiro

How Shame Affects You

October 17, 2013


Interview with Dr. Harriet Lerner, author of the book The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self




Mike Carruthers:
A very important emotion you don't hear people talk about much is shame. 


Harriet Lerner:
Which is the fear of being seen as essentially inadequate or flawed or not worthy.

Dr. Harriet Lerner

The Value Of Self-Help Books

October 14, 2013


Interview with Dr. Paul Pearsall, author of the book The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need




Mike Carruthers:
The self-help movement - it's a multi-billion dollar a year industry. But not everyone thinks it's such a great thing.

Dr. Paul Pearsall:
The idea of "self-help" has always really been that you've got to be better than you are, that you're not happy enough, you ought to be happier. Those are the kinds of ideas that have very little scientific merit.

Dr. Paul Pearsall

Doing What's Important To You

October 9, 2013


Interview with Jones Loflin, author of the book Getting to It: Accomplishing the Important, Handling the Urgent, and Removing the Unnecessary




Mike Carruthers:
Do you know what your “it” is?


Jones Loflin:
“It” is your most important thing “I” “T” your important thing of the moment. And getting to it as simple as it sounds is difficult in today’s world of a lot of “something else’s”.

Jones Loflin

Fear & Courage

October 7, 2013


Interview with Dr. Gordon Livingston, author of the book The Thing You Think You Cannot Do: Thirty Truths about Fear and Courage




Mike Carruthers:
Fear keeps us from doing things and courage is what gets us over our fear.


Dr. Gordon Livingston:
Fear itself is an emotion; courage is not an emotion courage is expressed in behavior.

Dr. Gordon Livingston

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