Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.


Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.

Shelley Carson, PhD

How Technology Controls Your Life

October 28, 2013


Interview with Anne Katherine, author of the book Boundaries in an Overconnected World: Setting Limits to Preserve Your Focus, Privacy, Relationships, and Sanity




Mike Carruthers:
Everyone knows you’re not supposed to talk or text on the phone while you’re driving so why does so many people still do it?


Anne Katherine:
We’ve been trained for many, many years to respond to a telephone ring. And so if a phone rings or a text bings while you’re in your car your hand will reach for that before your mind even engages.

Anne Katherine

How To Make Your Own Luck

October 21, 2013


Interview with Eileen Shapiro, author of the book Make Your Own Luck: 12 Practical Steps to Taking Smarter Risks in Business




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to be lucky, you've got to make your own luck. 


Eileen Shapiro:
Arnold Palmer was asked whether he believed in luck and he said, "Sure, I find the more I practice the luckier I get."

Eileen C. Shapiro

How Shame Affects You

October 17, 2013


Interview with Dr. Harriet Lerner, author of the book The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self




Mike Carruthers:
A very important emotion you don't hear people talk about much is shame. 


Harriet Lerner:
Which is the fear of being seen as essentially inadequate or flawed or not worthy.

Dr. Harriet Lerner

The Value Of Self-Help Books

October 14, 2013


Interview with Dr. Paul Pearsall, author of the book The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need




Mike Carruthers:
The self-help movement - it's a multi-billion dollar a year industry. But not everyone thinks it's such a great thing.

Dr. Paul Pearsall:
The idea of "self-help" has always really been that you've got to be better than you are, that you're not happy enough, you ought to be happier. Those are the kinds of ideas that have very little scientific merit.

Dr. Paul Pearsall

Doing What's Important To You

October 9, 2013


Interview with Jones Loflin, author of the book Getting to It: Accomplishing the Important, Handling the Urgent, and Removing the Unnecessary




Mike Carruthers:
Do you know what your “it” is?


Jones Loflin:
“It” is your most important thing “I” “T” your important thing of the moment. And getting to it as simple as it sounds is difficult in today’s world of a lot of “something else’s”.

Jones Loflin

Fear & Courage

October 7, 2013


Interview with Dr. Gordon Livingston, author of the book The Thing You Think You Cannot Do: Thirty Truths about Fear and Courage




Mike Carruthers:
Fear keeps us from doing things and courage is what gets us over our fear.


Dr. Gordon Livingston:
Fear itself is an emotion; courage is not an emotion courage is expressed in behavior.

Dr. Gordon Livingston

Our Victim Mentality

October 2, 2013


Interview with Larry Winget, author of the book Grow a Pair: How to Stop Being a Victim and Take Back Your Life, Your Business, and Your Sanity




Mike Carruthers:
Our society has become very politically correct and some people are tired of it.


Larry Winget:
I watched a lady on television the other day that said she was tired of being called a liar she’s truth challenged. I went, “Really? You’re truth challenged? No lady if you say something that isn’t true it makes you a liar” - but see that’s considered mean and that’s harsh.

Larry Winget

When People Tick You Off

September 23, 2013


Interview with Kay Potetz, author of the book Take It Back: The Personal Power You Give Away Everyday




Mike Carruthers:
Do you ever get upset when someone is rude or ignores you?


Kay Potetz PhD:
I think many times the trigger mechanism for getting upset is when somebody does not live up to your expectations. For example I hold the door for you and you just walk through, you don’t even say thank you or anything – that triggers a lot of people off.

Kay Potetz PhD

Fear In The Workplace

September 18, 2013


Interview with Laurie Cure, author of the book Leading without Fear




Mike Carruthers:
Fear is basically worrying about what might happen. And fear often stops us from doing things it shouldn’t.


Laurie Cure:
Fear is about having too much future. And so when you talk about this notion of “what ifing”- when we “what if” we really stay in this future state. And 99% of all the things we see in our minds eye actually never come to fruition.

Laurie K. Cure PhD

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