Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

Our Victim Mentality

October 2, 2013


Interview with Larry Winget, author of the book Grow a Pair: How to Stop Being a Victim and Take Back Your Life, Your Business, and Your Sanity




Mike Carruthers:
Our society has become very politically correct and some people are tired of it.


Larry Winget:
I watched a lady on television the other day that said she was tired of being called a liar she’s truth challenged. I went, “Really? You’re truth challenged? No lady if you say something that isn’t true it makes you a liar” - but see that’s considered mean and that’s harsh.

Larry Winget

When People Tick You Off

September 23, 2013


Interview with Kay Potetz, author of the book Take It Back: The Personal Power You Give Away Everyday




Mike Carruthers:
Do you ever get upset when someone is rude or ignores you?


Kay Potetz PhD:
I think many times the trigger mechanism for getting upset is when somebody does not live up to your expectations. For example I hold the door for you and you just walk through, you don’t even say thank you or anything – that triggers a lot of people off.

Kay Potetz PhD

Fear In The Workplace

September 18, 2013


Interview with Laurie Cure, author of the book Leading without Fear




Mike Carruthers:
Fear is basically worrying about what might happen. And fear often stops us from doing things it shouldn’t.


Laurie Cure:
Fear is about having too much future. And so when you talk about this notion of “what ifing”- when we “what if” we really stay in this future state. And 99% of all the things we see in our minds eye actually never come to fruition.

Laurie K. Cure PhD

Don't Be A Crime Victim

September 17, 2013


Interview with Salvatore Restrelli, author of the book Maximum Retribution




Mike Carruthers:
Interesting thing about people who get mugged or attacked.


Salvatore Restrelli:
All of the victims I’ve ever spoke to always told me they had a bad feeling that something was about to happen. But instead of acting on it they continued on and they got themselves in the situation that became horrible for them.



August 28, 2013


Interview with Will Bowen, author of the book the A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted




Mike Carruthers:
Complaining is kind of a national past time. 


Will Bowen:
The average person complains over twenty times a day. And so they're putting that negative energy out there and then they can't understand why their lives aren't the way they would like them to be.

Will Bowen

Finding Courage To Succeed

August 23, 2013


Interview with Margie Warrell, author of the book Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and in Life




Mike Carruthers: 
To get what you want in life takes courage. 


Margie Warrell:
As human beings we fail far more from timidity than we do from over-daring. As we look back on life, we regret a lot more of the things we didn't do than the things we did.

Margie Warrell

People Who Are Always Late

August 15, 2013


Interview with Diana Delonzor, author of the book Never Be Late Again: 7 Cures for the Punctually Challenged




Mike Carruthers:
Don’t you hate it when people are always late? Well don’t take it personally.


Diana Delonzor:
Most late people I found were late for everything. It didn’t matter if it was a wedding, a funeral, a job interview they tended to be late for everything.

Diana Delonzor

Fear Of Failure

August 14, 2013


Interview with Bill Jensen, author of the book Disrupt! Think Epic. Be Epic.




Mike Carruthers:
One thing that often stops us from trying or achieving our goals is fear – a particular type of fear.


Bill Jensen:
This comes to our fear of failure, all of us as human beings we all fear failure.

Bill Jensen

What Makes People Charismatic - Part 2

August 13, 2013


Interview with John Neffinger, co-author of the book Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential




Mike Carruthers:
Being able to project both strength and warmth is a big part of what gives someone charisma.


John Neffinger:
The reason that charisma is so rare is that projecting both strength and warmth at the same time is tricky.

John Neffinger

What Makes People Charismatic

August 12, 2013


Interview with John Neffinger, co-author of the book Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential




Mike Carruthers:
Some people just have it you like being around them, being in their presence makes you feel good – they are compelling people.


John Neffinger:
The way it works though boils down to 2 key elements; #1 how much strength does someone project? And what we mean by that can they shape the world around them, can they bend it to their will?

John Neffinger

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