Something You Should Know about Human Behavior


Complaining

August 28, 2013

 

www.acomplaintfreeworld.org

 

Interview with Will Bowen, author of the book the A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Complaining is kind of a national past time. 

 

Will Bowen:
The average person complains over twenty times a day. And so they're putting that negative energy out there and then they can't understand why their lives aren't the way they would like them to be.
 


Will Bowen

Finding Courage To Succeed

August 23, 2013

 

Interview with Margie Warrell, author of the book Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and in Life

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
To get what you want in life takes courage. 

 

Margie Warrell:
As human beings we fail far more from timidity than we do from over-daring. As we look back on life, we regret a lot more of the things we didn't do than the things we did.
 


Margie Warrell

People Who Are Always Late

August 15, 2013

 

Interview with Diana Delonzor, author of the book Never Be Late Again: 7 Cures for the Punctually Challenged

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Don’t you hate it when people are always late? Well don’t take it personally.

 

Diana Delonzor:
Most late people I found were late for everything. It didn’t matter if it was a wedding, a funeral, a job interview they tended to be late for everything.
 


Diana Delonzor

Fear Of Failure

August 14, 2013

 

Interview with Bill Jensen, author of the book Disrupt! Think Epic. Be Epic.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One thing that often stops us from trying or achieving our goals is fear – a particular type of fear.

 

Bill Jensen:
This comes to our fear of failure, all of us as human beings we all fear failure.
 


Bill Jensen

What Makes People Charismatic - Part 2

August 13, 2013

 

Interview with John Neffinger, co-author of the book Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Being able to project both strength and warmth is a big part of what gives someone charisma.

 

John Neffinger:
The reason that charisma is so rare is that projecting both strength and warmth at the same time is tricky.
 


John Neffinger

What Makes People Charismatic

August 12, 2013

 

Interview with John Neffinger, co-author of the book Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Some people just have it you like being around them, being in their presence makes you feel good – they are compelling people.

 

John Neffinger:
The way it works though boils down to 2 key elements; #1 how much strength does someone project? And what we mean by that can they shape the world around them, can they bend it to their will?
 


John Neffinger

Handling Emotional Injuries - Part 2

August 7, 2013

 

Interview with Guy Winch, author of the book Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Failure is inevitable in everyone’s life and what’s interesting is…

 

Guy Winch:
When we fail at something it changes our perceptions it distorts our perceptions of the thing we failed at - such that we tend to see that goal as more difficult to achieve than it actually is.
 


Guy Winch Ph.D.

Handling Emotional Injuries

August 6, 2013

 

Interview with Guy Winch, author of the book Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you get an emotional injury in the form of rejection or failure or guilt - the tendency is to just shake it off and get over it.

 

Guy Winch:
Which is interesting because we don’t have that attitude when it comes to physical injuries, we know we have to put antibacterial ointment on a cut and we know we have to treat a cold and the same is true of emotional and psychological injuries.
 


Guy Winch Ph.D.

Psychology Of How We Relate To Others

August 5, 2013

 

Interview with David McRaney, author of the book You Are Now Less Dumb: How to Conquer Mob Mentality, How to Buy Happiness, and All the Other Ways to Outsmart Yourself

 

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Mike Carruthers:
The psychology behind how we relate to each other is fascinating. For instance there’s something called the illusion of asymmetric insight.

 

David McRaney:
And the illusion of asymmetric insight is the belief that I am an iceberg and that you only see the very top of the iceberg coming out of the water. But you tend to believe that everyone else in your life you can see what’s beneath the water.
 


David McRaney

Etiquette For The Modern Workplace

August 1, 2013

 

Interview with Valerie Sokolosky, author of the book Do It Right! The New Book of Business Etiquette

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
If you remember no other etiquette rule, particularly workplace etiquette, remember this… 

 

Valerie Sokolosky:
When in doubt, don't. And that goes to, "Oh dear, should I wear this today?" Well if you're in doubt, don't. It goes to behaviors, "Oh dear, should I say this, should I do this?"
 


Valerie Sokolosky

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