Something You Should Know about Human Behavior

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015


Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need




Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.

Nora Klaver

When A Boss Uses Fear To Manage People

August 24, 2015


Interview with Joan Kingsley, author of the book The Fear-free Organization: Vital Insights from Neuroscience to Transform Your Business Culture




Mike Carruthers:
Traditionally many employers use fear to get employees to do their work - fear of getting in trouble, getting yelled at, getting fired.


Joan Kingsley:
If you tap into another person’s fear system you’ve tapped into their survival system. So you get somebody working with you or for you who is surviving rather than thriving.

Joan Kingsley

Effective Use Of Body Language

August 7, 2015


Interview with Tonya Reiman, author of the book The Yes Factor: Get What You Want. Say What You Mean. The Secrets of Persuasive Communication




Mike Carruthers:
Body language can be very useful in business.


Healthy Narcissism

August 3, 2015


Interview with Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special




Mike Carruthers:
Narcissism is typically thought of as a negative trait but that’s not exactly correct. What is narcissism?


Dr. Craig Malkin:
The drive to feel special because it turns out around the world people often see themselves through slightly rose colored glasses and it helps them feel more resilient, optimistic, more hopeful, have better relationships.

Dr. Craig Malkin

Coping With Worry & Fear

July 31, 2015


Interview with John Demartini, author of the book The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life




Mike Carruthers:
Worry and fear we’ve all been there.


John Demartini:
I first defined fear as an assumption that you are going to experience in the future; more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, more negative than positive, more challenge than support from somebody or yourself.

John Demartini

Why Change Is Hard

July 30, 2015


Interview with Dan Health, co-author of the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard




Mike Carruthers:
Change is hard, but why? It may be how we approach the process of change.


Dan Heath:
People don’t typically think their way into change. Change usually starts with a feeling.


Dan Heath

Myths About Body Language

July 29, 2015


Interview with Janine Driver, author of the book You Say More Than You Think: Use the New Body Language to Get What You Want!, the 7-day Plan




Mike Carruthers:
When it comes to body language a lot of the things that people assume to be true are actually myths. For example...


Janine Driver:
A big one is when someone’s lying they decrease their eye contact – come on now, really? Because my grandmother, and my great grandmother they knew that when you’re going to lie you give a little extra eye contact – we all know that.


Janine Driver

Are You Neat Or Messy?

July 24, 2015


Interview with David H. Freedman, co-author of the book A Perfect Mess: The Hidden Benefits of Disorder--How Crammed Closets, Cluttered Offices, and On-the-Fly Planning Make the World a Better Place




Mike Carruthers:
Neatness is the standard in our culture. Messy people should be neater but you seldom hear the call for neat people to be messier, however…


David H. Freedman:
In some ways you give up a lot when you have a neat, pristine place - there are real advantages to messiness and what works best is really having a balance between the two.


David H. Freedman

Human Attraction - Part 2

July 23, 2015


Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction




Mike Carruthers:
In male/female attraction…


Human Attraction

July 22, 2015


Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction




Mike Carruthers:
What attracts men and women to each other is still rooted in very primitive instincts. For example…


Allan Pease:
When a woman’s looking at a man she’s evaluating his potential as a partner based on his ability to provide resources, which is a very ancient drive – resources means to provide food, protection, shelter.

Allan Pease

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