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Science Behind Human Connection

May 21, 2012

 

Interview with Paul J. Zak, author of the book The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What is it that causes us to want to connect with other people it turns out to be something in the brain that’s been labeled the moral molecule.

 

Paul J. Zak:
The moral molecule is oxytocin which is, until 10 years ago, an underappreciated chemical in the brain only to be associated with childbirth.
 


Paul J. Zak

Important Difference Between Goals & Expectations

May 17, 2012

 

Interview with Phillip Moffit, author of the book Emotional Chaos to Clarity: How to Live More Skillfully, Make Better Decisions, and Find Purpose in Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
We all have goals and expectations, goals are good and expectations can cause trouble.

 

Phillip Moffit:
Expectations are like goals that are fossilized. So we expect ourselves to be a certain level of success, we expect ourselves to be super mom or the best dad or whatever it is.
 


Phillip Moffit

Finishing Projects You Start

May 10, 2012

 

Interview with Chris McChesney, co-author of the book The 4 Disciplines of Execution: Achieving Your Wildly Important Goals

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Whether at work or in your personal life it’s common to take on a new project but never quite get around to it.

 

Chris McChesney:
The problem is that typically when there is that new thing to do there’s 7 or 8 other new things as well competing for its attention.
 


Chris McChesney

Getting Unstuck

May 7, 2012

 

Interview with Jonathan Alpert, author of the book Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you describe yourself as fearless - probably not as fearless as you’d like to be?

 

Jonathan Alpert:
What I find that what people do instead of being fearless is they’re very negative and they think about all the reasons why they can’t or shouldn’t pursue a goal as opposed to why they can and should.
 


Jonathan Alpert

Finding Opportunity In Chance Events - Part 2

April 25, 2012

 

Interview with Thor Muller, author of the book Get Lucky: How to Put Planned Serendipity to Work for You and Your Business

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Luck can be a powerful force for your success if you understand how to use it.

 

Thor Muller:
Well we all know that there’s such a thing as blind luck when you’re struck by lightning what we talk about is something called serendipity. And serendipity involves chance but it also involves doing something with that chance what we call creativity. 
 


Thor Muller

Finding Opportunity In Chance

April 24, 2012

 

Interview with Thor Muller, author of the book Get Lucky: How to Put Planned Serendipity to Work for You and Your Business

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Your life and career are partly the result of planning but also in large part the result in chance.

 

Thor Muller:
The test of this idea is to ask yourself 20 years ago or 10 years ago did I have plans where I am today?
 


Thor Muller

Why Public Speaking Is So Stressful

April 23, 2012

 

Interview with Jason Teteak, Founder of www.RuleTheRoom.com

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Speaking before a group of people is something almost everyone has to do and almost everyone hates doing. Why?

 

Jason Teteak:
The number 1 reason that people get nervous and are fearful is because they’re not prepared.
 


Jason Teteak

How To Create More Time - Part 2

April 19, 2012

 

Interview with Marney Makridakis, author of the book Creating Time: Using Creativity to Reinvent the Clock and Reclaim Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Time management seems to be defined as cramming more and more activities into less and less time.

 

Marney Makridakis:
So we’re doing more and more but if feels like time is going by faster and faster so we feel like we’re doing less and less – we have less satisfaction, more frustration, more stress.
 


Marney Makridakis

How To Create More Time

April 18, 2012

 

Interview with Marney Makridakis, author of the book Creating Time: Using Creativity to Reinvent the Clock and Reclaim Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What if you could create more time when you need it? Well in a way you can.

 

Marney Makridakis:
Since we know is relative, I mean that’s obviously proven by science and it’s obviously proven just by our psychological experiences of time – compare an hour with a loved one to an hour in the dentist chair.
 


Marney Makridakis

Magical Thinking

April 16, 2012

 

Interview with Matthew Hutson, author of the book The 7 Laws of Magical Thinking: How Irrational Beliefs Keep Us Happy, Healthy, and Sane

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Knocking on wood, having lucky charms, believing in karma these are versions of what’s called magical thinking.

 

Matthew Hutson:
And every individual person has a tendency to believe in these sorts of things I think we are magical thinkers by default.
 


Matthew Hutson

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