Something You Should Know about Language


Say What You Mean

July 10, 2015

 

Interview with Meryl Runion, author of the book Speak Strong: Say what you MEAN. MEAN what you say. Don't be MEAN when you say it.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Say what you mean - it seems like simple straightforward advice but so often we don’t.

 

Meryl Runion:
So many of us have been taught not to say what we mean for the sake of social nicety or to keep the peace.
 


Meryl Runion

Speaking With Power

September 10, 2010

 

Interview with Meryl Runion, author of the book How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you're talking to people, using the right phrases at the right time can make you a powerful communicator.

 

Meryl Runion:
One of my favorite power phrases is one that someone shared with me at a seminar I was teaching. It was a customer service situation and someone was being very hostile towards her.
 


Meryl Runion

Making Your Ideas Stick

July 3, 2015

 

Interview with Chip Heath, co-author of the book Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Some ideas stick with us for a long time; other ideas die the minute after we hear them.

 

Having Difficult Conversations

June 30, 2015

 

Interview with Andrea Lee, author of the book We Need To Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You know those difficult conversations when something really big is at stake? Well one of the things that makes those conversations so difficult is…

 

Andrea Lee:
We perform worse
when there’s something to lose. The moment when we have something to lose is actually when it counts the most to have the best conversation possible.

 


Andrea J. Lee

Expressing Appreciation

June 19, 2015

 

Interview with Dan Shapiro, author of the book Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Showing appreciation can be almost magical in any relationship, discussion or negotiation if you know how to do it right.

 

Daniel Shapiro:
People often say, "Empathize with the other person, validate their emotions." But what does that mean?

 
 


Dan Shapiro

Power Of Flattery

March 27, 2015

 

Interview with Richard Stengel, author of the book You're Too Kind A Brief History of Flattery

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Flattery works. It’s just human nature that people like you if you show you like them, and there are some effective techniques to being a better flatterer.

 

Richard Stengel :
One of the classic techniques is to be specific so that you don't say to someone, "You're the greatest." You say, "Mike, you're a wonderful interviewer, and in fact I remember an interview you did several years ago with this sheepherder in New Zealand, that really changed my life."
 


Richard Stengel

How To Say No & Mean It

 February 19, 2015

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book Words That Win: What to Say to Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
When someone asks you to do something, and you don't want to, do you give in or do you say "no"?

 

Don Gabor:
Saying "no" is not an easy thing for many people to do, but it is often times the right thing to do for both parties.
 


Don Gabor

Taking Confrontation Out Of Conflict

February 18, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Coward's Guide to Conflict: Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict. It makes a lot of us uneasy, so we avoid it at all costs. Why?

 

Tim Ursiny PhD:
I think that most of us don't have a good role model for healthy conflict. I mean how many people do you know, that you can think of "Wow! They really handle conflict well?"
 


Tim Ursiny

Making The Most Of Every Conversation

December 29, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Scott, author of the book Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
We have conversations with people every day, without giving them a whole lot of thought, but think about this:

 


Susan Scott:

While no single conversation is guaranteed to change the trajectory of a career or a company or a relationship or a life, any single conversation can.


Susan Scott

Making Your Voice Sound Better

 November 12, 2014

 

Interview with Roger Love, author of the book Set Your Voice Free: How To Get The Singing Or Speaking Voice You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How would you like to immediately improve the sound of your voice?

 

Roger Love:
Take a breath, fill up your tummy with air, and while you're speaking make sure that your stomach is coming in, in, in - the whole time that you're speaking. That really helps to push the air out and create a beautiful sound.
 


Roger Love

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