Something You Should Know about Loss, Regret & Disappointment

Making Peace With your Past

November 27, 2015


Interview with Debbie Ford, author of the book The Dark Side of the Light Chasers




Mike Carruthers:
You often hear the advice that it’s important to make peace with your past, but what does that mean exactly?


Debbie Ford:
Well in the simplest terms, I think making peace with your past is finding something good, same value, some gold in it.

Debbie Ford

The Science Of Being More Lucky

February 16, 2015


Interview with Richard Wiseman, author of the book The Luck Factor




Mike Carruthers: 
You probably know someone you think of as a lucky person, but if you dig a little deeper you'll find they're not lucky all the time.


Richard Wiseman:
They will have encountered a lot of ill fortune, and when we spoke to them about their lives, although they claimed they'd lived charmed lives often you could see that they'd experienced negative life events.

Richard Wiseman

The Power Of Gratitude

December 18, 2014


Interview with Dr. Adrian Calabrese, author of the book 10 Spiritual Steps to a Magical Life




Mike Carruthers:
As we get ready to head into the new year 2015 it's a good time to take stock of all the things we have and are grateful for.


Adrian Calabrese:
If you express your gratitude, you look at your life the way it is, and you realize just how much you really do have, instead of dwelling on what you don't have.

Dr. Adrian Calabrese

Why Rejection Hurts So Much

June 3, 2014


Interview with Dr. Guy Winch author of the book Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries




Mike Carruthers:
Rejection is something we all face and mostly we’re just supposed to get over it but often it’s not quite that easy.


Dr. Guy Winch:
Well when we get rejected the interesting thing is that the same areas get activated in our brain that get activated when we experience physical pain.


Dr. Guy Winch

Finding Success

March 13, 2014


Interview with David M. Howitt, author of the book Heed Your Call: Integrating Myth, Science, Spirituality, and Business




Mike Carruthers:
How do you feel about work and success?


David M. Howitt:
A lot of us are taught at the earliest ages you’ve got to put your shoulder into the plow and you’ve got to work a 12 hour day and the more tired you are when you come home the more successful you are. My experience that’s just not true.

David M. Howitt

The Good Part Of Failure

February 24, 2014


Interview with Megan McArdle, author of the book The Up Side of Down: Why Failing Well Is the Key to Success




Mike Carruthers:
No one likes to fail but you can make it easier on yourself.


Megan McArdle:
By focusing less on the person than on the process – you know success and failure they’re not something that you are, they’re something that happened.

Megan McArdle

Dealing With Adversity

November 6, 2013


Interview with Dr. Norman Rosenthal, author of the book The Gift of Adversity: The Unexpected Benefits of Life's Difficulties, Setbacks, and Imperfections




Mike Carruthers:
Adversity; tough times they happen to all of us.


Dr. Normal Rosenthal:
Adversity is a necessary part of life that it happens in 3 contexts; bad luck, bad judgment and when you voluntarily take on the adversity.

Dr. Norman Rosenthal

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.


Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.

Shelley Carson, PhD

When Someone You Know Suffers A Loss

May 17, 2013


Interview with Terri Cannavo, author of the book So, You're Not Mother Teresa: Acts of Kindness and Gifts from the Heart




Mike Carruthers:
As we go through life, people we know will suffer loss - loss of a family member, loss of a job - and we often don't know what to say.


Terri Cannavo:
And what I have found is the best thing to say if people have loss at whatever level - whether it's a pet, a job, a spouse - is "I am sorry for your loss", period.

Terri Cannavo

Hoping Against Hope

August 20, 2012


Interview with Karen Krett, author of the book The Dark Side of Hope: A Psychological Investigation and Cultural Commentary




Mike Carruthers:
Hope is that wonderful emotion that sustains us in difficult times but clinging to hope when things are hopeless can be a problem.


Karen Krett:
We’re taught in our culture that hopelessness is deplorable we’re not supposed to ever be hopeless. So there’s the cultural force that propels us to keep hoping even when there’s no possibility.

Karen Krett

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