Something You Should Know about Loss, Regret & Disappointment


Finding Success

March 13, 2014

 

Interview with David M. Howitt, author of the book Heed Your Call: Integrating Myth, Science, Spirituality, and Business

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How do you feel about work and success?

 

David M. Howitt:
A lot of us are taught at the earliest ages you’ve got to put your shoulder into the plow and you’ve got to work a 12 hour day and the more tired you are when you come home the more successful you are. My experience that’s just not true.
 


David M. Howitt

The Good Part Of Failure

February 24, 2014

 

Interview with Megan McArdle, author of the book The Up Side of Down: Why Failing Well Is the Key to Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
No one likes to fail but you can make it easier on yourself.

 

Megan McArdle:
By focusing less on the person than on the process – you know success and failure they’re not something that you are, they’re something that happened.
 


Megan McArdle

Dealing With Adversity

November 6, 2013

 

Interview with Dr. Norman Rosenthal, author of the book The Gift of Adversity: The Unexpected Benefits of Life's Difficulties, Setbacks, and Imperfections

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Adversity; tough times they happen to all of us.

 

Dr. Normal Rosenthal:
Adversity is a necessary part of life that it happens in 3 contexts; bad luck, bad judgment and when you voluntarily take on the adversity.
 


Dr. Norman Rosenthal

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013

 

Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.

 

Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.
 


Shelley Carson, PhD

When Someone You Know Suffers A Loss

May 17, 2013

 

Interview with Terri Cannavo, author of the book So, You're Not Mother Teresa: Acts of Kindness and Gifts from the Heart

 

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Mike Carruthers:
As we go through life, people we know will suffer loss - loss of a family member, loss of a job - and we often don't know what to say.

 

Terri Cannavo:
And what I have found is the best thing to say if people have loss at whatever level - whether it's a pet, a job, a spouse - is "I am sorry for your loss", period.
 


Terri Cannavo

Hoping Against Hope

August 20, 2012

 

Interview with Karen Krett, author of the book The Dark Side of Hope: A Psychological Investigation and Cultural Commentary

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Hope is that wonderful emotion that sustains us in difficult times but clinging to hope when things are hopeless can be a problem.

 

Karen Krett:
We’re taught in our culture that hopelessness is deplorable we’re not supposed to ever be hopeless. So there’s the cultural force that propels us to keep hoping even when there’s no possibility.
 


Karen Krett

Resilience

July 18, 2012

 

Interview with Andrew Zolli, author of the book Resilience: Why Things Bounce Back

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When faced with a challenge or a defeat do you quit or are you resilient and bounce back?

 

Andrew Zolli:
You know resilience is much more wide spread than some of our popular literature might suggest. You might think that everyone who experiences a trauma basically falls over and is paralyzed by it but that’s actually not what happens.
 


Andrew Zolli

How To Stop Worrying So Much

February 14, 2012

 

Interview with Tamar Chansky, PhD, author of the book Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: The 4-Step Plan to Overcome Worry and Create the Life You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers:
All of us worry sometimes way too much about things that will likely never happen.

 

Tamar Chansky, PhD:
What happens is worry makes us dysfunctional, it makes us think about all of the “what ifs” instead of really helping us focus on what’s going to help solve the problem.
 


Tamar Chansky, PhD

Are You Afraid Of Getting Old? - Part 2

November 10, 2011

 

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What would you guess is the biggest regret older people have when they look back on their lives?

 

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
I imagined it would be an affair, it would be having worked too much, or too little – the 1# regret in their view is spending too much time worrying. 
 


Karl Pillimer, PhD

Are You Afraid Of Getting Old?

November 9, 2011

 

Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you were to ask 1200 people over the age of 65 what they think about getting older you’d probably be surprised by what they think.

 

Karl Pillimer, PhD:
And it is remarkably different from what any younger think. One of the key lessons is being old is way better than you think.
 


Karl Pillimer, PhD

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