Something You Should Know about Emotions

Why You Get Angry

October 9, 2015


Interview with Janet Pfeiffer, author of the book The Secret Side of Anger




Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it anger is really the result of unmet needs and expectations.


Janet Pfeiffer:
We expect certain things of ourselves, we expect certain things of other people, but when those expectations aren’t met we become frustrated and angry.

Janet Pfeiffer

Expressing Appreciation

June 19, 2015


Interview with Dan Shapiro, author of the book Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate




Mike Carruthers:
Showing appreciation can be almost magical in any relationship, discussion or negotiation if you know how to do it right.


Daniel Shapiro:
People often say, "Empathize with the other person, validate their emotions." But what does that mean?


Dan Shapiro

Why You Like Music

May 25, 2015


Interview with Dan Levitin author of This Is Your Brain on Music: The Science of a Human Obsession




Mike Carruthers:
So, interesting thing about music.


Dan Levitin:
Wherever there are people there seems to be music. As far as we know every known culture on the planet today has music and that seems to have been so as far back as we know.

Dan Levitin


Social And Performance Anxiety

May 19, 2015



Interview with Jonathan Berent author of Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties



Mike Carruthers:
More people have social or performance anxiety than perhaps anyone realized. You know that fear of giving a presentation or the fear of looking foolish or nervous


Jonathan Berent:
And I’ve had countless people who have told me things like, “You know I’m thinking of getting into a car accident tomorrow on the way to work because I have to give a presentation and there’s no way I’m going to do it.”

Jonathan Berent


How You Perceive Risk

 May 14, 2015

Interview with David Ropeik, author of Risk!: A Practical Guide for Deciding What's Really Safe and What's Really Dangerous in the World Around You



Mike Carruthers:
How we decide what's risky or scary doesn't necessarily follow logic…


David Ropeik:
In olden times it was pretty easy to figure out what was dangerous -  it was the lion that was attacking or it was the guy with the club - and risks were obvious.

David Ropeik

Dealing With Anger

May 8, 2015


Interview with John Lee, author of The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Achieving Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships




Mike Carruthers:
Funny thing about anger - people get angry all the time and yet…


John Lee:
The words you will very seldom ever hear a lover, a spouse, a boss or an employee ever say to anybody is, “I’m angry”. 

John Lee



April 9, 2015


Interview with Lucinda Bassett, author of the book From Panic to Power: Proven Techniques to Calm Your Anxieties, Conquer Your Fears, and Put You in Control of Your Life



Mike Carruthers:
Anxiety. It's a big problem.


Lucinda Bassett :
It's the number one emotional problem in the world today. Anxiety is the number one reason people go to the hospital emergency room. It's the number one reason people use prescription medication. It's believed to be the number one reason people abuse alcohol, miss work, or have a hard time coping in general.


Lucinda Bassett

Coping With Anxiety

March 4, 2015


Interview with Scott Stossel, author of the book My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind




Mike Carruthers:
Millions of Americans suffer from some sort of anxiety.


Scott Stossel:
It’s a collection of factors starting with genetics. If you have one family member who suffers from acute anxiety it’s very likely that you will have many other members.

Scott Stossel

Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015


Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way




Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:


Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.

Rick Carson

Talking Back To Your Inner Critic

November 25, 2014


Interview with Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, author of the book Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love




Mike Carruthers:
If you stop and listen for a moment you can probably here your inner critic.


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo:
And I like to think of an inner critic is actually a very positive force if you use it well.


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

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