Something You Should Know about Emotions


Improving Parent/Adult Children Relationships

April 14, 2014

 

Interview with Jane Isay, author of the book Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many adult children have some difficulty in their relationship with their parents and that difficulty can grow into real conflict, however…

 

Jane Isay:
Tiny changes in the parents' behavior can make very large changes in the relationship - a loving email that doesn't need a response or a phone call without an agenda.
 


Jane Isay

Forgiveness Or Revenge?

April 4, 2014

 

Interview with Michael McCullough, author of the book Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Forgiveness it’s a fascinating subject, because…

 

Mike McCullough:
Humans come into this world both with an instinct to seek revenge and with an ability to forgive. And the real difference, Mike, between the situations in which we're inclined to use revenge and the situations in which we're inclined to forgive is all about the environment. It's all about the situation.
 


Michael McCullough

Finding Success

March 13, 2014

 

Interview with David M. Howitt, author of the book Heed Your Call: Integrating Myth, Science, Spirituality, and Business

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How do you feel about work and success?

 

David M. Howitt:
A lot of us are taught at the earliest ages you’ve got to put your shoulder into the plow and you’ve got to work a 12 hour day and the more tired you are when you come home the more successful you are. My experience that’s just not true.
 


David M. Howitt

Preparing For Important Conversations

March 3, 2014

 

Interview with Ronald Shapiro, author of the book Perfecting Your Pitch: How to Succeed in Business and in Life by Finding Words That Work

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Think of all the times you’ve had to have serious even difficult conversations with people.

 

Ronald Shapiro:
You have a family financial squabble, you’re going to ask the boss for a raise, break a relationship up with a partner – these are really important conversations.
 


Ronald Shapiro

Should You Always "Do Your Best"?

February 28, 2014

 

Interview with Bob Wright, co-author of the book Transformed!: The Science of Spectacular Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You likely learned at a very early age to always do your best.

 

Bob Wright:
I don’t know that I’ve done my best more than maybe 5 instances in my life. I think what matters more is that I’m honest with myself about what I did, how much I invested and don’t expect a big return from a little investment.
 


Dr. Bob Wright

The Good Part Of Failure

February 24, 2014

 

Interview with Megan McArdle, author of the book The Up Side of Down: Why Failing Well Is the Key to Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
No one likes to fail but you can make it easier on yourself.

 

Megan McArdle:
By focusing less on the person than on the process – you know success and failure they’re not something that you are, they’re something that happened.
 


Megan McArdle

Identifying Your Strengths & Weaknesses

February 6, 2014

 

Interview with Marcus Buckingham, author of the book The One Thing You Need to Know: ... About Great Managing, Great Leading, and Sustained Individual Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Here's a good way to determine what your weaknesses are…

 

Marcus Buckingham:
It's an activity that when you're not doing it, you don't look forward to it and when you are doing it you can't wait to stop. Well, you're never going to learn to love that.
 


Marcus Buckingham

Handling The Big Stresses In Life - Part 2

February 5, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Amit Sood, author of the book The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you feel stress you worry but when you’re really stressed out that worry can turn to fear.

 
Dr. Amit Sood:
Worry is healthy but fear is not healthy. Worry lets you cross the road with caution, fear freezes you on one side.

Dr. Amit Sood

Handling The Big Stresses In Life

February 4, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Amit Sood, author of the book The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Who hasn’t gotten stressed out over something?  And that stress you feel when that happens is basically you struggling with worry.

 
Dr. Amit Sood:
It is the struggle with what was, what is and what might be. It is our brain facing greater uncertainty than our brain is used to.

Dr. Amit Sood

Getting Good At Saying No

January 28, 2014

 

Interview with Jana Kemp, author of the book No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Although it's difficult, being able to say "no" to people has some real benefits.

 

Jana Kemp:
When we learn to say no more effectively we actually feel less stress in our lives. By learning to say no and keeping our resolve other people start to respect our personal boundaries and our professional boundaries.
 


Jana Kemp

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