Something You Should Know about Emotions

Benefits Of Being Likeable

August 24, 2016


Interview with Rohit Bhargava, author of the book Likeonomics: The Unexpected Truth Behind Earning Trust, Influencing Behavior, and Inspiring Action




Mike Carruthers:
Being a jerk in life isn’t going to get you far. In fact it turns out that being likeable that's the currency you can spend to buy your success.


Rohit Bhargava:
And I think ultimately what it comes down to is this idea that we want to do business with people that we like. And we want to build relationships with people that we like and likeability is actually a prerequisite for trust.

Rohit Bhargava

How To Be More Fearless

August 18, 2016


Interview with Jonathan Alpert, author of the book Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days




Mike Carruthers:
Would you describe yourself as fearless - probably not as fearless as you’d like to be?


Jonathan Alpert:
What I find that what people do instead of being fearless is they’re very negative and they think about all the reasons why they can’t or shouldn’t pursue a goal as opposed to why they can and should.

Jonathan Alpert

Communications In The Electronic Age

August 15, 2016


Interview with Ed Keller, author of the book The Face-to-Face Book: Why Real Relationships Rule in a Digital Marketplace




Mike Carruthers:
Because social media is so popular you might think Facebook and Twitter are the primary ways we communicate - but that's actually not so.


Ed Keller:
The overwhelming amount of word of mouth that takes place is still in the real world, offline, face-to-face, and while online social media is getting a lot of attention now it is a small fraction of the total volume.

Ed Keller

Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016


Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women




Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.


Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.

Leagan Kasper

Getting Over The Winter Holiday Blues

December 29, 2015


Interview with Jeffrey Rossman, author of the book The Mind-Body Mood Solution: The Breakthrough Drug-Free Program for Lasting Relief from Depression




Mike Carruthers:
For some people the holiday season and the dreariness of winter can lead to depression.


Jeffrey Rossman:
Many people don’t get enough sunlight; they are not spending enough time being physically active. In addition to all of that people don’t get enough sleep which can contribute to depression.

Jeffrey Rossman

How To Be More Charismatic

December 21, 2015


Interview with Olivia Fox, author of the book The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism




Mike Carruthers:
Anyone can be more charismatic if you understand what charisma actually is.


Olivia Fox:
It is the old Dale Carnegie quote, "You can make more friends in two months by being truly interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

Olivia Fox

Why You Get Angry

October 9, 2015


Interview with Janet Pfeiffer, author of the book The Secret Side of Anger




Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it anger is really the result of unmet needs and expectations.


Janet Pfeiffer:
We expect certain things of ourselves, we expect certain things of other people, but when those expectations aren’t met we become frustrated and angry.

Janet Pfeiffer

Expressing Appreciation

June 19, 2015


Interview with Dan Shapiro, author of the book Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate




Mike Carruthers:
Showing appreciation can be almost magical in any relationship, discussion or negotiation if you know how to do it right.


Daniel Shapiro:
People often say, "Empathize with the other person, validate their emotions." But what does that mean?


Dan Shapiro

Why You Like Music

May 25, 2015


Interview with Dan Levitin author of This Is Your Brain on Music: The Science of a Human Obsession




Mike Carruthers:
So, interesting thing about music.


Dan Levitin:
Wherever there are people there seems to be music. As far as we know every known culture on the planet today has music and that seems to have been so as far back as we know.

Dan Levitin


Social And Performance Anxiety

May 19, 2015



Interview with Jonathan Berent author of Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties



Mike Carruthers:
More people have social or performance anxiety than perhaps anyone realized. You know that fear of giving a presentation or the fear of looking foolish or nervous


Jonathan Berent:
And I’ve had countless people who have told me things like, “You know I’m thinking of getting into a car accident tomorrow on the way to work because I have to give a presentation and there’s no way I’m going to do it.”

Jonathan Berent


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