Something You Should Know about Negativity


Negative Self-Talk

October 30, 2013

 

Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One reason people get gloomy and have trouble snapping out it is what they’re saying to themselves.

 

Shelley Carson:
We call this self-talk and people may be saying a number of negative things to themselves without really realizing that they’re doing it.

 


Shelley Carson, PhD

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013

 

Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.

 

Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.
 


Shelley Carson, PhD

Complaining

August 28, 2013

 

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Interview with Will Bowen, author of the book the A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Complaining is kind of a national past time. 

 

Will Bowen:
The average person complains over twenty times a day. And so they're putting that negative energy out there and then they can't understand why their lives aren't the way they would like them to be.
 


Will Bowen

Learning From Consequences

October 18, 2012

 

Interview with Susan M. Schneider, author of the book The Science of Consequences: How They Affect Genes, Change the Brain, and Impact Our World

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Learning can be done in many ways and one great way to learn is from consequences.

 

Susan M. Schneider:
We know from extensive research that learning from consequences modifies the brain big time.
 


Susan M. Schneider

How Complainers Damage Your Brain

August 15, 2012

 

Interview with Trevor Blake, author of the book Three Simple Steps: A Map to Success in Business and Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If there’s a complainer or other negative person in your life be careful.

 

Trevor Blake:
The latest neuro-scientific data shows that the brain works more like a muscle than we’ve previously thought so the more you repeat a behavior the more you become that behavior. So if you surround yourself with a bunch of complainers the more likely you are to become a complainer yourself.
 


Trevor Blake

Getting Unstuck

May 7, 2012

 

Interview with Jonathan Alpert, author of the book Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you describe yourself as fearless - probably not as fearless as you’d like to be?

 

Jonathan Alpert:
What I find that what people do instead of being fearless is they’re very negative and they think about all the reasons why they can’t or shouldn’t pursue a goal as opposed to why they can and should.
 


Jonathan Alpert

Self Talk

April 11, 2012

 

Interview with Dr. Larry Markson, author of the book Talking To Yourself Is Not Crazy: Change Your Inner Dialog, Take Control of Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Silently or out loud we all talk to ourselves and often we’re not saying particularly nice things.

 

Dr. Larry Markson:
Most people I have found put themselves down or they give dominion over what they think to other people. I call it MFTP – Their mothers, fathers, all their teachers, peer pressure.
 


Dr. Larry Markson

What To Do When You Get Depressed

January 19, 2011

 

Interview with Jeffrey Rossman, author of the book The Mind-Body Mood Solution: The Breakthrough Drug-Free Program for Lasting Relief from Depression

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Depression is rampant and people are particularly susceptible to it in winter.

 

Jeffrey Rossman:
Many people don’t get enough sunlight; they are not spending enough time being physically active. In addition to all of that people don’t get enough sleep which can contribute to depression.
 


Jeffrey Rossman

Toxic People In Your Life

November 18, 2010

 

Interview with Lillian Glass, author of the book Toxic Men: 10 Ways to Identify, Deal with, and Heal from the Men Who Make Your Life Miserable

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Are there toxic people in your life?

 

Lillian Glass:
A toxic person that’s somebody that doesn’t make you feel good about yourself. It’s somebody that doesn’t bring out the best in you and they’re various types of toxic people.
 


Lillian Glass

Why You Get Angry

August 9, 2010

 

Interview with Janet Pfeiffer, author of the book The Secret Side of Anger

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it anger is really the result of unmet needs and expectations.

 

Janet Pfeiffer:
We expect certain things of ourselves, we expect certain things of other people, but when those expectations aren’t met we become frustrated and angry.
 


Janet Pfeiffer

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