Something You Should Know about Negativity

Why You Get Angry

October 9, 2015


Interview with Janet Pfeiffer, author of the book The Secret Side of Anger




Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it anger is really the result of unmet needs and expectations.


Janet Pfeiffer:
We expect certain things of ourselves, we expect certain things of other people, but when those expectations aren’t met we become frustrated and angry.

Janet Pfeiffer

Dealing With Anger

May 8, 2015


Interview with John Lee, author of The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Achieving Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships




Mike Carruthers:
Funny thing about anger - people get angry all the time and yet…


John Lee:
The words you will very seldom ever hear a lover, a spouse, a boss or an employee ever say to anybody is, “I’m angry”. 

John Lee


Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015


Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way




Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:


Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.

Rick Carson

Fighting The Blues

September 9, 2014


Interview with John Presto PsyD, author of the book Lift Your Mood Now: Simple Things You Can Do to Beat the Blues




Mike Carruthers:
Everybody from time to time will get sad and have the blues.


John D. Preston, Psy.D.:
Clearly the things that work best are to make a point to get engaged in life.


John Preston PsyD

Quieting Your Inner Critic

July 30, 2014


Interview with Beverly Engel, author of the book Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame




Mike Carruthers:
Do you have a negative voice inside your head that loves to pop up and criticize you?


Beverly Engel:
People who have a very powerful inner-critic usually are perfectionists, they are really critical of themselves constantly; they always blame themselves when things go wrong.

Beverly Engel

Negative Self-Talk

October 30, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
One reason people get gloomy and have trouble snapping out it is what they’re saying to themselves.


Shelley Carson:
We call this self-talk and people may be saying a number of negative things to themselves without really realizing that they’re doing it.


Shelley Carson, PhD

When You Get The Blues

October 29, 2013


Interview with Shelley Carson, author of the book Almost Depressed: Is My (or My Loved One's) Unhappiness a Problem (The Almost Effect)




Mike Carruthers:
Even if you’re not suffering from true depression many of us get into a funk that is hard to break out of.


Shelley Carson:
Clinically this is called anhedonia or the loss of pleasure. It’s like you’re just getting through the day with little energy to spare for savoring life.

Shelley Carson, PhD


August 28, 2013


Interview with Will Bowen, author of the book the A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted




Mike Carruthers:
Complaining is kind of a national past time. 


Will Bowen:
The average person complains over twenty times a day. And so they're putting that negative energy out there and then they can't understand why their lives aren't the way they would like them to be.

Will Bowen

Learning From Consequences

October 18, 2012


Interview with Susan M. Schneider, author of the book The Science of Consequences: How They Affect Genes, Change the Brain, and Impact Our World




Mike Carruthers:
Learning can be done in many ways and one great way to learn is from consequences.


Susan M. Schneider:
We know from extensive research that learning from consequences modifies the brain big time.

Susan M. Schneider

How Complainers Damage Your Brain

August 15, 2012


Interview with Trevor Blake, author of the book Three Simple Steps: A Map to Success in Business and Life




Mike Carruthers:
If there’s a complainer or other negative person in your life be careful.


Trevor Blake:
The latest neuro-scientific data shows that the brain works more like a muscle than we’ve previously thought so the more you repeat a behavior the more you become that behavior. So if you surround yourself with a bunch of complainers the more likely you are to become a complainer yourself.

Trevor Blake

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