Something You Should Know about Personality


Preventing Self-Sabotage

February 26, 2015

 

Interview with Karen Berg, author of the book Your Self-Sabotage Survival Guide: How to Go From Why Me? to Why Not?

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Everybody at some point in their life engages in self-sabotage.

 

Karen Berg:
Largely self-sabotage is unconscious but the good news is that once you can bring it to the level of awareness you can fix it.
 


Karen Berg

How To Say No & Mean It

 February 19, 2015

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book Words That Win: What to Say to Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
When someone asks you to do something, and you don't want to, do you give in or do you say "no"?

 

Don Gabor:
Saying "no" is not an easy thing for many people to do, but it is often times the right thing to do for both parties.
 


Don Gabor

Taking Confrontation Out Of Conflict

February 18, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Coward's Guide to Conflict: Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict. It makes a lot of us uneasy, so we avoid it at all costs. Why?

 

Tim Ursiny PhD:
I think that most of us don't have a good role model for healthy conflict. I mean how many people do you know, that you can think of "Wow! They really handle conflict well?"
 


Tim Ursiny

The Science Of Being More Lucky

February 16, 2015

 

Interview with Richard Wiseman, author of the book The Luck Factor

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
You probably know someone you think of as a lucky person, but if you dig a little deeper you'll find they're not lucky all the time.

 

Richard Wiseman:
They will have encountered a lot of ill fortune, and when we spoke to them about their lives, although they claimed they'd lived charmed lives often you could see that they'd experienced negative life events.
 


Richard Wiseman

Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015

 

Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way

 

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Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:

 

Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.
 


Rick Carson

Why You Can't Change Other People

January 30, 2015

 

Interview with Steven Reiss PhD, author of the book Who am I? The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define Our Personalities

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In many of our relationships we make a fundamental mistake.

 

Steven Reiss PhD:
We waste an enormous amount of time trying to change people who don't want to be changed.
 


Steven Reiss, PhD

Taking Risks In Life

January 16, 2015

 

Interview with Bill Treasurer, author of the book Right Risk: 10 Powerful Principles for Taking Giant Leaps with Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Funny thing about taking risks in life...


Bill Treasurer:

Really it's the risks that you don't take that you tend to regret the most.
 


Bill Treasurer

What Mentally Strong People Do & Don't Do

January 12, 2015

 

Interview with Amy Morin, author of the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Over the course of our lives we can all develop mental habits that can really get in the way - for example; feeling sorry for yourself.

 

Amy Morin:
Self-pity is one of those things that keeps us focused on the problem rather than the solution. So well it might be easy to sit home on the couch and feel bad about something that’s going on in our lives it doesn’t do anything to make the situation better.

 


Amy Morin

Lazy People

January 2, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Mel Levine, author of the book The Myth of Laziness

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
People who seem lazy, you know…

 

Mel Levine:
The person who's always promising things, but never delivers, the kid who seems so bright, but doesn't submit his homework.
 


Dr. Mel Levine

Art Of Creating Relationships

December 17, 2014

 

Interview with Steven Chandler, author of the book 50 Ways to Create Great Relationships: How to Stop Taking and Start Giving

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Developing friendships or relationships takes certain important skills.

 

Steve Chandler:
For example, listening, listening is the most creative aspect of relationships; it's what really makes relationships strong.
 


Steven Chandler

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