Something You Should Know about Personality


Power Of Flattery

March 27, 2015

 

Interview with Richard Stengel, author of the book You're Too Kind A Brief History of Flattery

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Flattery works. It’s just human nature that people like you if you show you like them, and there are some effective techniques to being a better flatterer.

 

Richard Stengel :
One of the classic techniques is to be specific so that you don't say to someone, "You're the greatest." You say, "Mike, you're a wonderful interviewer, and in fact I remember an interview you did several years ago with this sheepherder in New Zealand, that really changed my life."
 


Richard Stengel

Anger Management

March 12, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Les Carter, author of the book The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know people who always seem to be angry about something?

 

Dr. Les Carter:
One of the things that tends to be behind the scenes with individuals who have chronic easy anger, is a yearning to feel significant.

 


Dr. Les Brown

Getting What You Really Want - Part 2

March 3, 2015 

 

Interview with Peter Bregman, author of the book Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Stop Counter-Productive Habits and Get the Results You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Nobody wants to take the blame but it actually may be a very good strategy.

 

Peter Bregman:
That to take the blame for whatever you can take the blame for changes the dynamic and it does the exact opposite. It doesn’t make people want to fire you it makes people want to hire you and work with you and promote you because they see someone who’s taking accountability.
 

                                                                           


Peter Bregman

Preventing Self-Sabotage

February 26, 2015

 

Interview with Karen Berg, author of the book Your Self-Sabotage Survival Guide: How to Go From Why Me? to Why Not?

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Everybody at some point in their life engages in self-sabotage.

 

Karen Berg:
Largely self-sabotage is unconscious but the good news is that once you can bring it to the level of awareness you can fix it.
 


Karen Berg

Stop Getting So Upset

February 13, 2015

 

Interview with Rick Carson, author of the book Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way

 

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Mike Carruthers:
There's an amazingly simple technique to make yourself feel better and it goes something like this:

 

Rick Carson:
If you catch yourself in the act of making yourself miserable, as you're making yourself miserable, if you really witness it…it's sort of like you caught yourself in the act of repeatedly sticking your thumb in your eye…it becomes very obvious.
 


Rick Carson

How To Say No & Mean It

 February 19, 2015

 

Interview with Don Gabor, author of the book Words That Win: What to Say to Get What You Want

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
When someone asks you to do something, and you don't want to, do you give in or do you say "no"?

 

Don Gabor:
Saying "no" is not an easy thing for many people to do, but it is often times the right thing to do for both parties.
 


Don Gabor

Taking Confrontation Out Of Conflict

February 18, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Coward's Guide to Conflict: Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict. It makes a lot of us uneasy, so we avoid it at all costs. Why?

 

Tim Ursiny PhD:
I think that most of us don't have a good role model for healthy conflict. I mean how many people do you know, that you can think of "Wow! They really handle conflict well?"
 


Tim Ursiny

The Science Of Being More Lucky

February 16, 2015

 

Interview with Richard Wiseman, author of the book The Luck Factor

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
You probably know someone you think of as a lucky person, but if you dig a little deeper you'll find they're not lucky all the time.

 

Richard Wiseman:
They will have encountered a lot of ill fortune, and when we spoke to them about their lives, although they claimed they'd lived charmed lives often you could see that they'd experienced negative life events.
 


Richard Wiseman

Why You Can't Change Other People

January 30, 2015

 

Interview with Steven Reiss PhD, author of the book Who am I? The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define Our Personalities

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In many of our relationships we make a fundamental mistake.

 

Steven Reiss PhD:
We waste an enormous amount of time trying to change people who don't want to be changed.
 


Steven Reiss, PhD

Taking Risks In Life

January 16, 2015

 

Interview with Bill Treasurer, author of the book Right Risk: 10 Powerful Principles for Taking Giant Leaps with Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Funny thing about taking risks in life...


Bill Treasurer:

Really it's the risks that you don't take that you tend to regret the most.
 


Bill Treasurer

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