Something You Should Know about Personality


Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016

 

Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.

 

Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.
 


Leagan Kasper

Dealing With Toxic People

December 11, 2015

 

Interview with Lillian Glass, author of the book Toxic Men: 10 Ways to Identify, Deal with, and Heal from the Men Who Make Your Life Miserable

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Are there toxic people in your life?

 

Lillian Glass:
A toxic person that’s somebody that doesn’t make you feel good about yourself. It’s somebody that doesn’t bring out the best in you and they’re various types of toxic people.
 


Lillian Glass

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015

 

Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.
 


Nora Klaver

Healthy Narcissism

August 3, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special

www.drcraigmalkin.com

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Narcissism is typically thought of as a negative trait but that’s not exactly correct. What is narcissism?

 

Dr. Craig Malkin:
The drive to feel special because it turns out around the world people often see themselves through slightly rose colored glasses and it helps them feel more resilient, optimistic, more hopeful, have better relationships.
 


Dr. Craig Malkin

Coping With Worry & Fear

July 31, 2015

 

Interview with John Demartini, author of the book The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Worry and fear we’ve all been there.

 

John Demartini:
I first defined fear as an assumption that you are going to experience in the future; more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, more negative than positive, more challenge than support from somebody or yourself.
 


John Demartini

Performing Under Pressure - Part 2

July 7, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most

 

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Mike Carruthers:
One way to perform better under pressure is the reframe the task as an opportunity rather than a pressure situation.

 

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
The key is to minimize the injurious affects that pressure has - it downgrades our thinking, our judgement it even bends our ethics.
 


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Performing Under Pressure

July 6, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Performing under pressure why is it so hard to do well when so much is at stake? It all has to do with the uncertainty of the outcome.

 

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
And that uncertainty translates into anxiety. And anxiety makes everybody do worse in a performance situation.
 


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Improving Self Confidence

June 17, 2015

 

Interview with Marci Fox, co-author of the book Think Confident, Be Confident: A Four-Step Program to Eliminate Doubt and Achieve LifelongSelf-Esteem….

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Self-confidence; how much of it you have may have a lot to do with your childhood.

 

Why You Should Be Nice

May 20, 2015

 

Interview with Linda Kaplan Thaler author of The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead, is being nice a good thing or a bad thing?

 

Linda Kaplan Thaler:
You know, "nice" has been getting a bad rap. "Nice" is defined by people as someone who's milquetoast - you can step all over them. The fact of the matter is, it's probably the toughest four letter word you'll ever learn.

 


Linda Kaplan Thaler

 

Social And Performance Anxiety

May 19, 2015

 

 

Interview with Jonathan Berent author of Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties

 

www.social-anxiety.com

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Mike Carruthers:
More people have social or performance anxiety than perhaps anyone realized. You know that fear of giving a presentation or the fear of looking foolish or nervous
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Jonathan Berent:
And I’ve had countless people who have told me things like, “You know I’m thinking of getting into a car accident tomorrow on the way to work because I have to give a presentation and there’s no way I’m going to do it.”
 

Jonathan Berent

 

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