Something You Should Know about Personality


Why You Can't Change Other People

January 30, 2015

 

Interview with Steven Reiss PhD, author of the book Who am I? The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define Our Personalities

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In many of our relationships we make a fundamental mistake.

 

Steven Reiss PhD:
We waste an enormous amount of time trying to change people who don't want to be changed.
 


Steven Reiss, PhD

Taking Risks In Life

January 16, 2015

 

Interview with Bill Treasurer, author of the book Right Risk: 10 Powerful Principles for Taking Giant Leaps with Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Funny thing about taking risks in life...


Bill Treasurer:

Really it's the risks that you don't take that you tend to regret the most.
 


Bill Treasurer

What Mentally Strong People Do & Don't Do

January 12, 2015

 

Interview with Amy Morin, author of the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Over the course of our lives we can all develop mental habits that can really get in the way - for example; feeling sorry for yourself.

 

Amy Morin:
Self-pity is one of those things that keeps us focused on the problem rather than the solution. So well it might be easy to sit home on the couch and feel bad about something that’s going on in our lives it doesn’t do anything to make the situation better.

 


Amy Morin

Lazy People

January 2, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Mel Levine, author of the book The Myth of Laziness

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
People who seem lazy, you know…

 

Mel Levine:
The person who's always promising things, but never delivers, the kid who seems so bright, but doesn't submit his homework.
 


Dr. Mel Levine

Art Of Creating Relationships

December 17, 2014

 

Interview with Steven Chandler, author of the book 50 Ways to Create Great Relationships: How to Stop Taking and Start Giving

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Developing friendships or relationships takes certain important skills.

 

Steve Chandler:
For example, listening, listening is the most creative aspect of relationships; it's what really makes relationships strong.
 


Steven Chandler

Who Are You?

December 1, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Bowen White, author of the book Why Normal Isn't Healthy: How to Find Heart, Meaning Passion & Humor on the Road Most Traveled

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Have you ever stepped back and taken a careful look at your life?


Dr. Bowen White

You know we all have a secret that we share that we don't talk about. We all have these feelings of inadequacy we don't want anyone else to know about. So we walk around acting like we know what we're doing.
 


Dr. Bowen White

Manipulative Behavior

November 28, 2014

 

Interview with Harriet Braiker, author of the book Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know people who are manipulative?

Harriet B. Braiker, PhD:
Manipulators manipulate through the promise of a big gain, so there's usually something you really want and/or something you're very afraid of losing. 

 


Harriet Braiker

Talking Back To Your Inner Critic

November 25, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, author of the book Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you stop and listen for a moment you can probably here your inner critic.

 

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo:
And I like to think of an inner critic is actually a very positive force if you use it well.

 


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

Perfectionism

November 24, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, author of the book Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You probably are or know someone who is a perfectionist.

 

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo:
Perfectionism is an all or nothing mentality. It goes way beyond wanting your junk drawer to be perfectly neat.
 


Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

The Problem With Perfection

October 31, 2014
 

Interview with Arthur Ciaramicoli, author of the book Performance Addiction: The Dangerous New Syndrome and How to Stop It from Ruining Your Life 
 

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Mike Carruthers:
The definition of personal growth has changed somewhat in just the last few years. 

 

Arthur Ciaramicoli:
You know there used to be a time when self-growth meant spiritual growth. In our world today growing means achieving and perfecting. And if you're always focused on perfecting yourself you can't live within your own skin with comfort.
 


Arthur Ciaramicoli

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