Something You Should Know about Personality


Insecure People

July 10, 2014

 

Interview with Joseph Nowinski, author of the book The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you consider yourself, or someone you know to be insecure?

 

Joseph Nowinski:
Insecurity is kind of a deep sense of being unsure about your place in the world, your value, symptoms include self-consciousness, a tendency to be very self-critical, easily hurt.
 


Joseph Nowinski

Why Some Adults Never Grow Up

July 8, 2014

 

Interview with Sonya Friedman, author of the book Take It From Here: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

 

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Mike Carruthers:
The obsession we have with staying young in our culture has had an interesting and perhaps less than desirable consequence.

 

Sonya Friedman:
We have unfortunately suggested to people that growing up and having responsibilities is not the better part of life, that being free and loose is really what makes life fun to live.
 


Dr. Sonya Friedman

Why Rejection Hurts So Much

June 3, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Guy Winch author of the book Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Rejection is something we all face and mostly we’re just supposed to get over it but often it’s not quite that easy.

 

Dr. Guy Winch:
Well when we get rejected the interesting thing is that the same areas get activated in our brain that get activated when we experience physical pain.

 


Dr. Guy Winch

Overcoming Tough Times

May 1, 2014

 

Interview with Ryan Holiday, author of the book The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Funny thing about adversity and tough times.

 

Ryan Holiday:
When we look back in our lives we all see things that we thought were terrible at the time that we thought were going to be huge setbacks. But we know sort of in retrospect that they were good, that we grew from them that we benefited from them.
 


Ryan Holiday

Timid Passive People

April 17, 2014

 

Interview with Dennis D. Adams, author of the Honest, Direct, Respectful: Three Simple Words that will Change your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you consider yourself a passive person or a reactive person?


Dennis Adams:

I think that eighty percent of people in any given population are passive and I think that twenty percent are reactive by nature.
 


Dennis D. Adams

Meeting People & Creating Contacts

April 15, 2014

 

Interview with Anne Baber, author of the book Make Your Contacts Count: Networking Know-How for Business and Career Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Getting out there and meeting new people is extremely important in order to get ahead professionally and socially and yet…
 
Anne Baber:
About sixty percent of Americans are now saying that they are shy. That number has ratcheted upward from forty percent only ten years ago.

Anne Baber

Improving Parent/Adult Children Relationships

April 14, 2014

 

Interview with Jane Isay, author of the book Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many adult children have some difficulty in their relationship with their parents and that difficulty can grow into real conflict, however…

 

Jane Isay:
Tiny changes in the parents' behavior can make very large changes in the relationship - a loving email that doesn't need a response or a phone call without an agenda.
 


Jane Isay

Your Different Personalities

April 10, 2014

 

Interview with Rita Carter, author of the book Multiplicity: The New Science of Personality, Identity, and the Self

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you think about it we all have several different personalities inside each of us.

 

Rita Carter:
So, for example, a mother - she has to be Mom at breakfast time; three hours later she might be in a board meeting where she's got to be very assertive and think about big things. And she kind of needs to keep those things separate.

 


Rita Carter

Toxic Guilt

April 9, 2014

 

Interview with Susan Carrell, author of the book Escaping Toxic Guilt: Five Proven Steps to Free Yourself from Guilt for Good!

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Guilt is a useful emotion. It keeps us from doing bad things. Toxic guilt, on the other hand, is not so good.

 

Susan Carrell:
Toxic guilt is good guilt that's gone wrong. It's the kind of guilt that keeps you trapped in relationships or situations that you really do not want to be in.
 


Susan Carrell

Should You Always "Do Your Best"?

February 28, 2014

 

Interview with Bob Wright, co-author of the book Transformed!: The Science of Spectacular Living

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You likely learned at a very early age to always do your best.

 

Bob Wright:
I don’t know that I’ve done my best more than maybe 5 instances in my life. I think what matters more is that I’m honest with myself about what I did, how much I invested and don’t expect a big return from a little investment.
 


Dr. Bob Wright

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