Something You Should Know about Personality

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015


Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need




Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.

Nora Klaver

Healthy Narcissism

August 3, 2015


Interview with Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special




Mike Carruthers:
Narcissism is typically thought of as a negative trait but that’s not exactly correct. What is narcissism?


Dr. Craig Malkin:
The drive to feel special because it turns out around the world people often see themselves through slightly rose colored glasses and it helps them feel more resilient, optimistic, more hopeful, have better relationships.

Dr. Craig Malkin

Coping With Worry & Fear

July 31, 2015


Interview with John Demartini, author of the book The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life




Mike Carruthers:
Worry and fear we’ve all been there.


John Demartini:
I first defined fear as an assumption that you are going to experience in the future; more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, more negative than positive, more challenge than support from somebody or yourself.

John Demartini

Performing Under Pressure - Part 2

July 7, 2015


Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most




Mike Carruthers:
One way to perform better under pressure is the reframe the task as an opportunity rather than a pressure situation.


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
The key is to minimize the injurious affects that pressure has - it downgrades our thinking, our judgement it even bends our ethics.

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Performing Under Pressure

July 6, 2015


Interview with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, author of the book Performing Under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most




Mike Carruthers:
Performing under pressure why is it so hard to do well when so much is at stake? It all has to do with the uncertainty of the outcome.


Dr. Hendrie Weisinger:
And that uncertainty translates into anxiety. And anxiety makes everybody do worse in a performance situation.

Dr. Hendrie Weisinger

Improving Self Confidence

June 17, 2015


Interview with Marci Fox, co-author of the book Think Confident, Be Confident: A Four-Step Program to Eliminate Doubt and Achieve LifelongSelf-Esteem….




Mike Carruthers:
Self-confidence; how much of it you have may have a lot to do with your childhood.


Why You Should Be Nice

May 20, 2015


Interview with Linda Kaplan Thaler author of The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World With Kindness




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to get ahead, is being nice a good thing or a bad thing?


Linda Kaplan Thaler:
You know, "nice" has been getting a bad rap. "Nice" is defined by people as someone who's milquetoast - you can step all over them. The fact of the matter is, it's probably the toughest four letter word you'll ever learn.


Linda Kaplan Thaler


Social And Performance Anxiety

May 19, 2015



Interview with Jonathan Berent author of Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties



Mike Carruthers:
More people have social or performance anxiety than perhaps anyone realized. You know that fear of giving a presentation or the fear of looking foolish or nervous


Jonathan Berent:
And I’ve had countless people who have told me things like, “You know I’m thinking of getting into a car accident tomorrow on the way to work because I have to give a presentation and there’s no way I’m going to do it.”

Jonathan Berent


Science Of Emotions

 April 24, 2015

Interview with Norman Rosenthal, M.D., author of The Emotional Revolution: Harnessing The Power Of Your Emotions For A More Positive Life


Mike Carruthers:
Your emotions - there's a fascinating topic. Do we create our own emotions or are we subject to them? Maybe both.


Norman Rosenthal, M.D.:
If we, for example, gamble away our money we're going to be pretty unhappy about that. But that isn't something that happened to us, that's something we actually made happen.

Dr. Norman Rosenthal


Power Of Flattery

March 27, 2015


Interview with Richard Stengel, author of the book You're Too Kind A Brief History of Flattery




Mike Carruthers:
Flattery works. It’s just human nature that people like you if you show you like them, and there are some effective techniques to being a better flatterer.


Richard Stengel :
One of the classic techniques is to be specific so that you don't say to someone, "You're the greatest." You say, "Mike, you're a wonderful interviewer, and in fact I remember an interview you did several years ago with this sheepherder in New Zealand, that really changed my life."

Richard Stengel

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