Something You Should Know about Keeping Love Alive

Resolving Marital Conflicts

January 30, 2014


Interview with Willard F. Harley Jr., author of the book He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation




Mike Carruthers:
Being able to resolve conflicts in a relationship or marriage is important but it’s not enough.


Willard F. Harley Jr.:
A resolution to a conflict is not the only objective. It should also maintain the romance that a couple starts out with and should maintain throughout their married life.

Willard F. Harley Jr.


January 8, 2014


Interview with Dr. Jamie Turndorf, author of the book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love’s 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship




Mike Carruthers:
Wives are often accused of nagging, why?


Dr. Jamie Turndorf:
People don’t realize that there is a biochemical imbalance that occurs in men’s bodies when they fight with women. Which ultimately leads to nagging – it’s called ANS arousal or the fight/flight response.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf

Fixing A Troubled Relationship

November 14, 2013


Interview with Elliott Connie, author of the book  The Solution Focused Marriage: 5 Simple Habits That Will Bring Out the Best in Your Relationship




Mike Carruthers:
When a relationship is in trouble the natural tendency is to first figure out what went wrong in order to fix it.


Elliott Connie:
But that’s just as silly to me as before I can lose weight I have to have a full understanding on how I gained it. It makes no sense whatsoever.

Elliott Connie

Why Men Fall Out Of Love

October 22, 2013


Interview with Michael French, author of the book Why Men Fall Out of Love: What Every Woman Needs to Understand




Mike Carruthers:
Why do men fall out of love?


Michael French:
I think a lot of men feel marginalized in relationships, I think, the ones that I talked to, a lot of them felt their role was sort of taken for granted.

Michael French

Fixing A Broken Marriage

October 11, 2013


Interview with Dr. John Jacobs, author of the book All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage: How to Save Your Marriage Before It's Too Late




Mike Carruthers: 
Many marriages today are in trouble and likely headed for divorce. Yet interestingly…


Dr. John Jacobs:
More often than not - and this is the tragedy of many divorces - more often than not, it is embarrassingly and surprisingly little that has to be done to turn a very bad marriage into a very good marriage.

Dr. John Jacobs

What Can Kill A Marriage?

September 6, 2013


Interview with Larry Bilotta, author of the free report How Couples Can Fulfill Each Other’s Needs.




Mike Carruthers:
I'm sure you've seen this; married couples where the man and woman seem to have utter contempt for each other.


Larry Bilotta:
Once you have contempt you say, "I am above; you are below, I am better, you are worse."

Larry Bilotta

What Makes A Marriage Work

August 16, 2013


Interview with Marlene Brown, author of the book You Can't Have Him, He's Mine: A Woman's Guide to Affair-Proofing Her Relationship




Mike Carruthers: 
What can you do to keep a marriage or long-term relationship happy? 


Marlene Browne:
How would you treat a stranger if you were having a discussion? You'd be civil, right? Well think of your spouse as someone you want to treat even better than you would treat any stranger off the street.

Marlene M. Browne

Making Marriage Better

June 14, 2013


Interview with David Clarke, author of the book TOTAL MARRIAGE MAKEOVER, THE




Mike Carruthers:
Just about every relationship could use some improvement and if there is one thing almost every man could improve, it’s to be a better listener.


David Clarke, PhD:
That’s what the woman wants. It’s almost at the top of her list; most men are just lousy listeners.

David Clarke PhD

Couples & Chemistry

April 12, 2013


Interview with Mira Kirshenbaum, author of the book Is He Mr. Right?: Everything You Need to Know Before You Commit




Mike Carruthers:
Research shows that chemistry between 2 people is the most important element of a happy, long-term relationship. And there are 5 dimensions of chemistry that all must be working.


Mira Kirshenbaum:
They don’t have to be great it’s just pass or fail which is pretty good. Then you have a solid predictor of a happy future together.

Mira Kirshenbaum

Putting The Magic Back In Your Relationship

March 29, 2013


Interview with Don Rosenthal, co-author of the book Learning to Love: From Conflict to Lasting Harmony




Mike Carruthers:
If you're in a marriage or relationship and you would like it to be better, how do you make things change?
Don Rosenthal:

I would say whoever feels dissatisfied with what's going on can help bring about a change by demonstrating the quality they would like to see more of in the relationship. That's the best way to change your partner.

Don Rosenthal

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