Something You Should Know about Loneliness

Why Men Fall Out Of Love

October 22, 2013


Interview with Michael French, author of the book Why Men Fall Out of Love: What Every Woman Needs to Understand




Mike Carruthers:
Why do men fall out of love?


Michael French:
I think a lot of men feel marginalized in relationships, I think, the ones that I talked to, a lot of them felt their role was sort of taken for granted.

Michael French

The Value Of Self-Help Books

October 14, 2013


Interview with Dr. Paul Pearsall, author of the book The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need




Mike Carruthers:
The self-help movement - it's a multi-billion dollar a year industry. But not everyone thinks it's such a great thing.

Dr. Paul Pearsall:
The idea of "self-help" has always really been that you've got to be better than you are, that you're not happy enough, you ought to be happier. Those are the kinds of ideas that have very little scientific merit.

Dr. Paul Pearsall

Expectations Of Marriage

October 16, 2012


Interview with Susan Shapiro Barash, author of the book The Nine Phases of Marriage: How to Make It, Break It, Keep It




Mike Carruthers:
Men and women often enter into marriage with very different expectations.


Susan Shapiro Barash:
Very much a gender divide it really is a gender divide what you get from your marriage and what you want from your marriage.

Susan Shapiro Barash

Interesting Facts About Loneliness

November 11, 2011


Interview with John Cacioppo, author of the book Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection




Mike Carruthers:
Loneliness is a big, often understood problem.


John Cacioppo:
We misunderstand as a culture what loneliness is - we have conceptualized it as a personality kind of weakness (perhaps neuroticism, perhaps depression) - and a research study suggested it's not any of those.

John Cacioppo 

Solving Loneliness - Part 2

February 15, 2011


Interview with Dr. Pat Love, author of the bookNever Be Lonely Again: The Way Out of Emptiness, Isolation, and a Life Unfulfilled




Mike Carruthers:
Loneliness has been called an epidemic but fortunately there is a cure.


Dr. Pat Love:
You know there are only 3 things we have to do to have a deep connection: show up, tune in, and remember. 

Dr. Pat Love

Solving Loneliness

February 14, 2011


Interview with Dr. Pat Love, author of the bookNever Be Lonely Again: The Way Out of Emptiness, Isolation, and a Life Unfulfilled




Mike Carruthers:
Loneliness is a pretty common feeling.


Dr. Pat Love:
United States ranks in the top quarter of nations throughout the world that have the highest incidences of loneliness. One study reported 60 million Americans suffer from loneliness.

Dr. Pat Love

Importance of Acquaintances

September 7, 2009

Interview with Melinda Blau author of Consequential Strangers: The Power of People Who Don't Seem to Matter. . . But Really Do




Mike Carruthers:
Sure you have friends but you also have other important people in your life – just not AS important. They are "consequential strangers.


Let me give you an example; you have a mechanic and you don’t think much about him until your car breaks down but having that mechanic is a very, very important part of your life.

Melinda Blau


The Importance of Making Chit-Chat

 August 21, 2009

Interview with Debra Fine, author of The Fine Art of Small Talk

Mike Carruthers:
Chit-chat, small talk - whatever you call it, it is important.


Debra Fine:
Anybody listening who thinks about a romantic relationship they're in and/or a business friendship - it either started with small talk and then developed into something more connected or it started with something heavy-duty and then because of small talk, the friendship was developed.

Debra Fine


Why Some People Are So Unhappy

July 9, 2009

Interview with Mardi Horowitz, M.D., author of A Course in Happiness   
Mike Carruthers:
The world is full of people who are unhappy, and it turns out there are two things that tend to produce discontent for these people.


Mardi Horowitz, M.D.:
What I call the "toxic twins" that tend to produce discontent are blaming and entitlement. That is people who feel too entitled and then blame everybody else or something else for what happens bad to them.

Mardi Horowitz, M.D.

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