Something You Should Know about Marriage

Be More Convincing

May 26, 2016


Interview with Dan Roam, author of the book Blah Blah Blah: What To Do When Words Don't Work




Mike Carruthers:
When we’re talking with other people socially or professionally our ideas and the stories we tell are really just a string of words.


Dan Roam:
The problem is that unless those ideas are really, really crystal clearly formed they’re just kind of like big fluffy clouds. We talk about this one for a moment and then it passes away and the next one comes along and we completely forget about the previous one.

Dan Roam

Good News About Getting Older - Part 2

May 25, 2016


Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans




Mike Carruthers:
What would you guess is the biggest regret older people have when they look back on their lives?


Karl Pillimer, PhD:
I imagined it would be an affair, it would be having worked too much, or too little – the 1# regret in their view is spending too much time worrying. 

Karl Pillimer, PhD

Good News About Getting Older

May 24, 2016


Interview with Karl Pillimer, PhD, author of the book 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans




Mike Carruthers:
If you were to ask 1200 people over the age of 65 what they think about getting older you’d probably be surprised by what you hear.


Karl Pillimer, PhD:
And it is remarkably different from what any younger think. One of the key lessons is being old is way better than you think.

Karl Pillimer, PhD

What Men Find Attractive In Women

April 29, 2016


Interview with Jena Pincott, author of the book Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes?: Bodies, Behavior, and Brains--The Science Behind Sex, Love, & Attraction




Mike Carruthers:
Do men really prefer blondes?


Jena Pincott:
They do seem to have a slight edge for a few reasons. The singer Blondie put it "Being blonde is like walking around under your own spotlight."

Jena Pincott

Marriage Magic

April 28, 2016


Interview with Barbara Bartlein, author of the book Marriage Makeover: Simple Ways to Revitalize Your Relationship Without Your Spouse Even Knowing




Mike Carruthers:
That excitement that starts a marriage or long-term relationship often fades.


Barbara Bartlein:
More marriages just end with a whimper rather than a bang and part of the reason is people tend to put their marriage on the back burner and not put a lot of effort into it.

Barbara Bartlein

The Semi-Happy Marriage

March 31, 2016


Interview with Pamela Haag, author of the book Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses, and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules




Mike Carruthers:
Something interesting has happened to a lot of marriages today they fallen into the category of the semi-happy marriage.


Pamela Haag:
The semi-happy marriages are usually very amiable and high functioning as friendships but in some ways they’ve become too much like a friendship.

Pamela Haag

When Couples Fight

February 2, 2016


Interview with Sharyn Wolf, author of the book Love Shrinks: A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor's Divorce




Mike Carruthers:
If you’re in a relationship you’re going to fight, and how you fight is going to have a big impact on that relationship. So how do you fight?


Sharyn Wolf:
Well you want to fight fair, there’s no name calling. You want to focus on the issue and not get distracted into a kitchen sink fight where every other issue that you’ve ever had together comes up.

Sharon Wolf

Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016


Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women




Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.


Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.

Leagan Kasper

The 5 Love Languages Explained

January 8, 2016


Interview with Gary Chapman, author of the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts




Mike Carruthers:
Do you know the 5 love languages?


Gary Chapman:
One of them is words of affirmation; “You look nice in that outfit, really appreciate what you did” – simply words of affirmation.  Another is gifts it’s universal to give gifts as an expression of love.

Gary Chapman

Need For Human Attachment

December 4, 2015


Interview with Amir Levine, author of the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love




Mike Carruthers:
The science and psychology of human attachment it’s really remarkable because we’re probably more dependent than we realize.


Amir Levine:
We’re wired to be dependent on our partners that’s our biology, we can’t help that. But if the dependency is good then actually paradoxically we become more independent. Because we have that feeling of security and we can go out into the world and do more things.

Amir Levine

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