Something You Should Know about Marriage


Relationships Are About The Little Things

July 22, 2014

 

Interview with Sky Blossoms, author of the book Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
For a marriage or relationship to work better often only requires a change in attitude.

 

Sky Blossoms:
That means really appreciating your partner. That means treating your relationship no matter how long you have been married as if you’re still in a courting period – romancing your partner, showing your best qualities.
 


Sky Blossoms

Privacy Vs Secrecy In Marriage

July 16, 2014

 

Interview with Charlie Bloom, co-author of the book 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In any marriage or any relationship there’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy.

 

Charlie Bloom:
Then it’s a crucial distinction, the main difference is in intention.
 


Charlie Bloom

A Closer Look At Marriage

July 11, 2014

 

Interview with Judith Viorst, author of the book Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Now here's an interesting view of marriage.

 

Judith Viorst:
Since it's impossible to be in love with each other all the time, marriage keeps you together when you fall out of love and gives you enough time to fall back in again.
 


Judith Viorst

How Couples Can Stop Arguing & Have Fun

April 30, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Judith Orloff, author of the book The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
A great way to improve any relationship is to be the one who is willing to stop an argument.

 

Dr. Judith Orloff:
Just surrendering the need to be right with your spouse or partner can be so healthy for a relationship. I’ve seen so many relationships get into big trouble if nobody will give in. 
 


Dr. Judith Orloff

Important Relationship Issues

April 24, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Herb Goldberg, author of the book What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Men and women approach romantic relationships differently.


Dr. Herb Goldberg:

It's not a matter of good or bad or right or wrong. It's a matter of how do we transform relationships so they don't follow the traditional progression, which I call "from romance to boredom to rage."
 


Dr. Herb Goldberg

How To NOT Ruin Relationships

February 27, 2014

 

Interview with Anthony Wolf PhD, author of the book Why Can't You Shut Up?: How We Ruin Relationships--How Not To

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Have you ever been in an argument with someone close to you that had you thinking?


Anthony Wolf, PhD:

I have to make her understand, I have to get her to see my side, I'm right, I just can't let this go unproven- and what happens is that the argument can get real bad.

Ways To Improve Family Communication

February 17, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Carl Alasko, author of the book Say

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to improve your communication skills particularly within your own family…

 

Dr. Carl Alasko:
Don’t ask questions that don’t have an actual answer. And I put the main culprit the why question. Why didn’t you do your homework?
 


Dr. Carl Alasko

Resolving Marital Conflicts

January 30, 2014

 

Interview with Willard F. Harley Jr., author of the book He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Being able to resolve conflicts in a relationship or marriage is important but it’s not enough.

 

Willard F. Harley Jr.:
A resolution to a conflict is not the only objective. It should also maintain the romance that a couple starts out with and should maintain throughout their married life.
 


Willard F. Harley Jr.

Getting Good At Saying No

January 28, 2014

 

Interview with Jana Kemp, author of the book No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Although it's difficult, being able to say "no" to people has some real benefits.

 

Jana Kemp:
When we learn to say no more effectively we actually feel less stress in our lives. By learning to say no and keeping our resolve other people start to respect our personal boundaries and our professional boundaries.
 


Jana Kemp

Nagging

January 8, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Jamie Turndorf, author of the book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love’s 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Wives are often accused of nagging, why?

 

Dr. Jamie Turndorf:
People don’t realize that there is a biochemical imbalance that occurs in men’s bodies when they fight with women. Which ultimately leads to nagging – it’s called ANS arousal or the fight/flight response.
 


Dr. Jamie Turndorf

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