Something You Should Know about Marriage


Couples & Money

May 21, 2015

 

Interview with Jeff Motske, CFP, author of the book The Couple's Guide to Financial Compatibility: Avoid Fights about Spending and Saving--and Build a Happy and Secure Future Together

 

www.jeffmotske.com

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Perhaps one of the main reasons couples fight about money is they never talk about money until there’s something to fight about.

 

Jeff Motske:
When you’re proactive and not reactive you find a completely different financial life together.

 


Jeff Motske, CFP

The Elements Of A Happy Family

 May 6, 2015

Interview with David Niven, author of 100 Simple Secrets of Happy Families: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It (100 Simple Secrets Series)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you have a happy family? Interestingly,  a lot of research has been done on what makes a family happy.

 

David Niven:
Happier families are people who can count on each other and that can be as little as showing up on time.
 


David Niven

 

Secrets To Love & Marriage

March 20, 2015

 

Interview with Pepper Schwartz, author of the book Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many of the accepted beliefs about love, relationships and marriage may need rethinking.

 

Pepper Schwartz:
My most favorite is the one, never go to bed angry. That means you're always supposed to fight it out when you're tired.
 


Pepper Schwartz

Differences Between Male & Female Brains - Part 2

March 17, 2015

 

Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When men and women are angry with each other and argue interesting things happen biologically.

 

Michael Gurian:
The part of the brain will swell up in both of them called the amygdala. Then the neuro center for the man the pathways for the man go more toward the brain stem and away from the verbal center so he’s not going to tend to be able to talk.

 


Michael Gurian

Differences Between Male & Female Brains

March 16, 2015

 

Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Biologically, the male and female brains work very differently.

 

Michael Gurian:
For instance, the male brain produces more sexual fantasies than the female brain. The female brain tends to produce more romantic fantasies. 

 


Michael Gurian

Important Financial News For Couples

January 23, 2015

 

Interview with Marilyn Barrett, author of the book Just Sign Here Honey: Women's 10 Biggest Legal Mistakes and How to Avoid Them (Capital Ideas for Business & Personal Development)

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
If you're married and file a joint tax return with your spouse, you'd better make sure you know what that tax return says.

 

Marilyn Barrett:
Most married couples don't know that when they file a joint tax return they are agreeing to be jointly and separately liable for the taxes. And that means that the IRS can go after both of you, or just one of you.
 


Marilyn Barrett

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage - Part 2

January 15, 2015

 

Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage

 

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Mike Carruthers:
We’ve all heard how half of all marriages end in divorce and how many troubled marriages there are; however…

 

Karl Pellemer:
I can tell you the opposite is true. There are quite a few people who make it for 50, 60, or 70 years and it’s a fantastic trip for them. 
 


Karl Pellemer

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage

January 14, 2015

 

Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage

 

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Mike Carruthers:
What if you asked people that have been married a long time what they think is the key to a successful marriage? One thing you would hear is…

 

Karl Pellemer:
Think small. And this really struck me, almost all of us as we look at problems in our marriage we think of big ticket items.
 


Karl Pellemer

How Men & Women Are Attracted To Each Other

December 12, 2014

 

Interview with Jay Phelan, co-author of the book Mean Genes: From Sex to Money to Food Taming Our Primal Instincts

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Evolution plays an important role in attraction to the opposite sex. For example women seem to be programmed to be attracted to a good provider.

 

Jay Phelan:
One of my favorite studies is that women ranked about a hundred photos of men, and how attractive are they.
 


Jay Phelan

Complain Less - Persuade More

October 29, 2014

 

Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Instant Persuasion

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you complain to someone you're really trying to persuade them to do something. Although usually we're not very good at this.

 

Laurie Puhn, J.D.:
And what I mean by that is, lets say you have a problem you want your spouse to do more chores around the house. You could say, " Honey you really need to do more around the house I'm taking care of everything myself and this just isn't fair."
 


Laurie Puhn

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