Something You Should Know about Marriage

How To NOT Ruin Relationships

February 27, 2014


Interview with Anthony Wolf PhD, author of the book Why Can't You Shut Up?: How We Ruin Relationships--How Not To




Mike Carruthers:
Have you ever been in an argument with someone close to you that had you thinking?

Anthony Wolf, PhD:

I have to make her understand, I have to get her to see my side, I'm right, I just can't let this go unproven- and what happens is that the argument can get real bad.

Ways To Improve Family Communication

February 17, 2014


Interview with Dr. Carl Alasko, author of the book Say




Mike Carruthers:
If you want to improve your communication skills particularly within your own family…


Dr. Carl Alasko:
Don’t ask questions that don’t have an actual answer. And I put the main culprit the why question. Why didn’t you do your homework?

Dr. Carl Alasko

Resolving Marital Conflicts

January 30, 2014


Interview with Willard F. Harley Jr., author of the book He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation




Mike Carruthers:
Being able to resolve conflicts in a relationship or marriage is important but it’s not enough.


Willard F. Harley Jr.:
A resolution to a conflict is not the only objective. It should also maintain the romance that a couple starts out with and should maintain throughout their married life.

Willard F. Harley Jr.

Getting Good At Saying No

January 28, 2014


Interview with Jana Kemp, author of the book No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life




Mike Carruthers:
Although it's difficult, being able to say "no" to people has some real benefits.


Jana Kemp:
When we learn to say no more effectively we actually feel less stress in our lives. By learning to say no and keeping our resolve other people start to respect our personal boundaries and our professional boundaries.

Jana Kemp


January 8, 2014


Interview with Dr. Jamie Turndorf, author of the book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love’s 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship




Mike Carruthers:
Wives are often accused of nagging, why?


Dr. Jamie Turndorf:
People don’t realize that there is a biochemical imbalance that occurs in men’s bodies when they fight with women. Which ultimately leads to nagging – it’s called ANS arousal or the fight/flight response.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf

What Men Should Never Say To A Woman

November 29, 2013


Interview with Kate Dailey of Men’s Health Magazine




Mike Carruthers:
When men and women fight, men can sometime say things they should really never say.


Kate Dailey:
The first thing you should never say to a woman when you're having a fight is, "RELAX." Women hate to hear that because it feels like you are just writing them off. And that you're saying that their anger isn't justified.

Kate Dailey

Fixing A Troubled Relationship

November 14, 2013


Interview with Elliott Connie, author of the book  The Solution Focused Marriage: 5 Simple Habits That Will Bring Out the Best in Your Relationship




Mike Carruthers:
When a relationship is in trouble the natural tendency is to first figure out what went wrong in order to fix it.


Elliott Connie:
But that’s just as silly to me as before I can lose weight I have to have a full understanding on how I gained it. It makes no sense whatsoever.

Elliott Connie

Why Men Fall Out Of Love

October 22, 2013


Interview with Michael French, author of the book Why Men Fall Out of Love: What Every Woman Needs to Understand




Mike Carruthers:
Why do men fall out of love?


Michael French:
I think a lot of men feel marginalized in relationships, I think, the ones that I talked to, a lot of them felt their role was sort of taken for granted.

Michael French

The Value Of Self-Help Books

October 14, 2013


Interview with Dr. Paul Pearsall, author of the book The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need




Mike Carruthers:
The self-help movement - it's a multi-billion dollar a year industry. But not everyone thinks it's such a great thing.

Dr. Paul Pearsall:
The idea of "self-help" has always really been that you've got to be better than you are, that you're not happy enough, you ought to be happier. Those are the kinds of ideas that have very little scientific merit.

Dr. Paul Pearsall

Fixing A Broken Marriage

October 11, 2013


Interview with Dr. John Jacobs, author of the book All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage: How to Save Your Marriage Before It's Too Late




Mike Carruthers: 
Many marriages today are in trouble and likely headed for divorce. Yet interestingly…


Dr. John Jacobs:
More often than not - and this is the tragedy of many divorces - more often than not, it is embarrassingly and surprisingly little that has to be done to turn a very bad marriage into a very good marriage.

Dr. John Jacobs

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