Something You Should Know about Marriage


When Couples Fight

February 2, 2016

 

Interview with Sharyn Wolf, author of the book Love Shrinks: A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor's Divorce

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you’re in a relationship you’re going to fight, and how you fight is going to have a big impact on that relationship. So how do you fight?

 

Sharyn Wolf:
Well you want to fight fair, there’s no name calling. You want to focus on the issue and not get distracted into a kitchen sink fight where every other issue that you’ve ever had together comes up.
 


Sharon Wolf

Using Your Sense To Find A Mate

January 14, 2016

 

Interview with Leagan Kasper, author of the book Sensing Mr. Right Guy: The Ultimate and Humorous Dating Guide for Women

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When people look for romantic partners they sometimes miss the obvious.

 

Leagan Kasper:
Listen to the voice of a man, do we really like that voice or were we just bamboozled by the looks? -paying attention to how he eats, how he chooses food, seeing how he smells.
 


Leagan Kasper

The 5 Love Languages Explained

January 8, 2016

 

Interview with Gary Chapman, author of the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know the 5 love languages?

 

Gary Chapman:
One of them is words of affirmation; “You look nice in that outfit, really appreciate what you did” – simply words of affirmation.  Another is gifts it’s universal to give gifts as an expression of love.
 

Gary Chapman

Need For Human Attachment

December 4, 2015

 

Interview with Amir Levine, author of the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
The science and psychology of human attachment it’s really remarkable because we’re probably more dependent than we realize.

 

Amir Levine:
We’re wired to be dependent on our partners that’s our biology, we can’t help that. But if the dependency is good then actually paradoxically we become more independent. Because we have that feeling of security and we can go out into the world and do more things.
 


Amir Levine

Your Needs In A Relationship

 November 30, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Jane Greer, author of the book What About Me?: Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Every relationship requires compromise so inevitably…

 

Jane Greer:
The minute you enter a relationship it becomes a question of your needs versus your partner’s needs, who comes first, who’s most important, and what about me?

 


Dr. Jane Greer

How Couples Resolve Conflict

November 17, 2015

 

Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In a marriage or relationship eventually you will do something that you will need to apologize for.

 

Laurie Puhn:
And the first step in a perfect apology is you make a mountain out of a molehill. So what you want to do is embellish the wrongdoing.
 


Laurie Puhn

Why Couples Fight

October 5, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Downs, author of the book Wonders Never Cease

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Every couple argues and fights – but about what?

 

Tim Downs:
Somebody once said nothing keeps an argument going like 2 people who don’t know what they’re really fighting about. And until you get down to the real underlying issues you can think that you’re different in a thousand ways when there are really only 7 essential differences that divide us.
 


Tim Downs

The Problems With Money - Part 2

August 19, 2015

 

Interview with Deborah Price, author of the book The Heart of Money: A Couple's Guide to Creating True Financial Intimacy

 

www.moneycoachinginstitue.com

 

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Mike Carruthers:

Just about everyone’s had money trouble and often the problem is your brain or specifically the instinctive part of your brain.

 

Deborah Price:

The instinctive brain is wired for desire and therefore we tend to become human wanting’s.
 


Deborah Price

Relationship Happiness

August 5, 2015

 

Interview with Alan C. Fox, author of the book People Tools for Love and Relationships: The Journey from Me to Us

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Just about everyone wants to find and be with someone who loves them. And success maybe in how we approach it.

 

Alan C. Fox:
We grow up thinking you’ll meet your one and only, fall in love, live happily ever after – you don’t have work at it you find the perfect person. I say that’s wrong I say you have to be the right person.
 


Alan C. Fox

Human Attraction - Part 2

July 23, 2015

 

Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In male/female attraction…

 

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