Something You Should Know about Marriage

How Couples Resolve Conflict

November 17, 2015


Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In





Mike Carruthers:
In a marriage or relationship eventually you will do something that you will need to apologize for.


Laurie Puhn:
And the first step in a perfect apology is you make a mountain out of a molehill. So what you want to do is embellish the wrongdoing.

Laurie Puhn

Why Couples Fight

October 5, 2015


Interview with Tim Downs, author of the book Wonders Never Cease




Mike Carruthers:
Every couple argues and fights – but about what?


Tim Downs:
Somebody once said nothing keeps an argument going like 2 people who don’t know what they’re really fighting about. And until you get down to the real underlying issues you can think that you’re different in a thousand ways when there are really only 7 essential differences that divide us.

Tim Downs

The Problems With Money - Part 2

August 19, 2015


Interview with Deborah Price, author of the book The Heart of Money: A Couple's Guide to Creating True Financial Intimacy




Mike Carruthers:

Just about everyone’s had money trouble and often the problem is your brain or specifically the instinctive part of your brain.


Deborah Price:

The instinctive brain is wired for desire and therefore we tend to become human wanting’s.

Deborah Price

Relationship Happiness

August 5, 2015


Interview with Alan C. Fox, author of the book People Tools for Love and Relationships: The Journey from Me to Us




Mike Carruthers:
Just about everyone wants to find and be with someone who loves them. And success maybe in how we approach it.


Alan C. Fox:
We grow up thinking you’ll meet your one and only, fall in love, live happily ever after – you don’t have work at it you find the perfect person. I say that’s wrong I say you have to be the right person.

Alan C. Fox

Human Attraction - Part 2

July 23, 2015


Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction




Mike Carruthers:
In male/female attraction…


Human Attraction

July 22, 2015


Interview with Allan Pease, author of the book Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love: Solving the Mystery of Attraction




Mike Carruthers:
What attracts men and women to each other is still rooted in very primitive instincts. For example…


Allan Pease:
When a woman’s looking at a man she’s evaluating his potential as a partner based on his ability to provide resources, which is a very ancient drive – resources means to provide food, protection, shelter.

Allan Pease

What Makes A Good Partnership?

June 11, 2015


Interview with Rodd Wagner, co-author of the book Power of 2: How to Make the Most of Your Partnerships at Work and in Life




Mike Carruthers:
Partnerships - we all have them at work, at home and with friends.


Rodd Wagner:
Most people are not very deliberate about their partnerships. When you ask them whether they’ve had good partnerships or bad partnerships they will tend to say they’ve had a lot more bad partnerships than good ones.

Rodd Wagner

Improve Your Relationship Today

May 28, 2015


Interview with Cloe Madanes, author of the book Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life




Mike Carruthers:
In any relationship we all have the need for security and certainty.


Cloe Madanes:
One of the paradoxes of human life is that as soon as you have certainty you have the need for uncertainty, variety - you want some surprises.

Cloe Madanes


Couples & Money

May 21, 2015


Interview with Jeff Motske, CFP, author of the book The Couple's Guide to Financial Compatibility: Avoid Fights about Spending and Saving--and Build a Happy and Secure Future Together




Mike Carruthers:
Perhaps one of the main reasons couples fight about money is they never talk about money until there’s something to fight about.


Jeff Motske:
When you’re proactive and not reactive you find a completely different financial life together.


Jeff Motske, CFP

The Elements Of A Happy Family

 May 6, 2015

Interview with David Niven, author of 100 Simple Secrets of Happy Families: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It (100 Simple Secrets Series)




Mike Carruthers:
Do you have a happy family? Interestingly,  a lot of research has been done on what makes a family happy.


David Niven:
Happier families are people who can count on each other and that can be as little as showing up on time.

David Niven


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