Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems

Be More Convincing

May 26, 2016


Interview with Dan Roam, author of the book Blah Blah Blah: What To Do When Words Don't Work




Mike Carruthers:
When we’re talking with other people socially or professionally our ideas and the stories we tell are really just a string of words.


Dan Roam:
The problem is that unless those ideas are really, really crystal clearly formed they’re just kind of like big fluffy clouds. We talk about this one for a moment and then it passes away and the next one comes along and we completely forget about the previous one.

Dan Roam

Marriage Magic

April 28, 2016


Interview with Barbara Bartlein, author of the book Marriage Makeover: Simple Ways to Revitalize Your Relationship Without Your Spouse Even Knowing




Mike Carruthers:
That excitement that starts a marriage or long-term relationship often fades.


Barbara Bartlein:
More marriages just end with a whimper rather than a bang and part of the reason is people tend to put their marriage on the back burner and not put a lot of effort into it.

Barbara Bartlein

The Semi-Happy Marriage

March 31, 2016


Interview with Pamela Haag, author of the book Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses, and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules




Mike Carruthers:
Something interesting has happened to a lot of marriages today they fallen into the category of the semi-happy marriage.


Pamela Haag:
The semi-happy marriages are usually very amiable and high functioning as friendships but in some ways they’ve become too much like a friendship.

Pamela Haag

When Couples Fight

February 2, 2016


Interview with Sharyn Wolf, author of the book Love Shrinks: A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor's Divorce




Mike Carruthers:
If you’re in a relationship you’re going to fight, and how you fight is going to have a big impact on that relationship. So how do you fight?


Sharyn Wolf:
Well you want to fight fair, there’s no name calling. You want to focus on the issue and not get distracted into a kitchen sink fight where every other issue that you’ve ever had together comes up.

Sharon Wolf

The 5 Love Languages Explained

January 8, 2016


Interview with Gary Chapman, author of the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts




Mike Carruthers:
Do you know the 5 love languages?


Gary Chapman:
One of them is words of affirmation; “You look nice in that outfit, really appreciate what you did” – simply words of affirmation.  Another is gifts it’s universal to give gifts as an expression of love.

Gary Chapman

How Technology Impacts Relationships

December 22, 2015


Interview with Sherry Turkle, author of the book Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other




Mike Carruthers:
More and more people would rather text than talk on their cell phones and when you ask them why?


Sherry Turkle:
They say I’m not in control of the conversation if I call.

Sherry Turkle

Your Needs In A Relationship

 November 30, 2015


Interview with Dr. Jane Greer, author of the book What About Me?: Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship




Mike Carruthers:
Every relationship requires compromise so inevitably…


Jane Greer:
The minute you enter a relationship it becomes a question of your needs versus your partner’s needs, who comes first, who’s most important, and what about me?


Dr. Jane Greer

How Couples Resolve Conflict

November 17, 2015


Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In





Mike Carruthers:
In a marriage or relationship eventually you will do something that you will need to apologize for.


Laurie Puhn:
And the first step in a perfect apology is you make a mountain out of a molehill. So what you want to do is embellish the wrongdoing.

Laurie Puhn

Why Couples Fight

October 5, 2015


Interview with Tim Downs, author of the book Wonders Never Cease




Mike Carruthers:
Every couple argues and fights – but about what?


Tim Downs:
Somebody once said nothing keeps an argument going like 2 people who don’t know what they’re really fighting about. And until you get down to the real underlying issues you can think that you’re different in a thousand ways when there are really only 7 essential differences that divide us.

Tim Downs

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015


Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need




Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.

Nora Klaver

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