Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems

Having Difficult Conversations

June 30, 2015


Interview with Andrea Lee, author of the book We Need To Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations




Mike Carruthers:
You know those difficult conversations when something really big is at stake? Well one of the things that makes those conversations so difficult is…


Andrea Lee:
We perform worse
when there’s something to lose. The moment when we have something to lose is actually when it counts the most to have the best conversation possible.


Andrea J. Lee

What Makes A Good Partnership?

June 11, 2015


Interview with Rodd Wagner, co-author of the book Power of 2: How to Make the Most of Your Partnerships at Work and in Life




Mike Carruthers:
Partnerships - we all have them at work, at home and with friends.


Rodd Wagner:
Most people are not very deliberate about their partnerships. When you ask them whether they’ve had good partnerships or bad partnerships they will tend to say they’ve had a lot more bad partnerships than good ones.

Rodd Wagner

Improve Your Relationship Today

May 28, 2015


Interview with Cloe Madanes, author of the book Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life




Mike Carruthers:
In any relationship we all have the need for security and certainty.


Cloe Madanes:
One of the paradoxes of human life is that as soon as you have certainty you have the need for uncertainty, variety - you want some surprises.

Cloe Madanes


Couples & Money

May 21, 2015


Interview with Jeff Motske, CFP, author of the book The Couple's Guide to Financial Compatibility: Avoid Fights about Spending and Saving--and Build a Happy and Secure Future Together




Mike Carruthers:
Perhaps one of the main reasons couples fight about money is they never talk about money until there’s something to fight about.


Jeff Motske:
When you’re proactive and not reactive you find a completely different financial life together.


Jeff Motske, CFP

How You Handle Change

May 1, 2015


Interview with Ariane de Bonvoisin author of The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Any Change (and Loving Your Life More)




Mike Carruthers:
When you ask most people how well they cope with change in life, you typically hear….


Ariane de Bonvoisin:
“I hate change, I resist change, I’m bad at change…” So I know that is a very classic, typical response.

Ariane de Bonvoisin

Secrets To Love & Marriage

March 20, 2015


Interview with Pepper Schwartz, author of the book Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong




Mike Carruthers:
Many of the accepted beliefs about love, relationships and marriage may need rethinking.


Pepper Schwartz:
My most favorite is the one, never go to bed angry. That means you're always supposed to fight it out when you're tired.

Pepper Schwartz

Differences Between Male & Female Brains - Part 2

March 17, 2015


Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works




Mike Carruthers:
When men and women are angry with each other and argue interesting things happen biologically.


Michael Gurian:
The part of the brain will swell up in both of them called the amygdala. Then the neuro center for the man the pathways for the man go more toward the brain stem and away from the verbal center so he’s not going to tend to be able to talk.


Michael Gurian

Important Financial News For Couples

January 23, 2015


Interview with Marilyn Barrett, author of the book Just Sign Here Honey: Women's 10 Biggest Legal Mistakes and How to Avoid Them (Capital Ideas for Business & Personal Development)




Mike Carruthers: 
If you're married and file a joint tax return with your spouse, you'd better make sure you know what that tax return says.


Marilyn Barrett:
Most married couples don't know that when they file a joint tax return they are agreeing to be jointly and separately liable for the taxes. And that means that the IRS can go after both of you, or just one of you.

Marilyn Barrett

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage - Part 2

January 15, 2015


Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage




Mike Carruthers:
We’ve all heard how half of all marriages end in divorce and how many troubled marriages there are; however…


Karl Pellemer:
I can tell you the opposite is true. There are quite a few people who make it for 50, 60, or 70 years and it’s a fantastic trip for them. 

Karl Pellemer

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage

January 14, 2015


Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage




Mike Carruthers:
What if you asked people that have been married a long time what they think is the key to a successful marriage? One thing you would hear is…


Karl Pellemer:
Think small. And this really struck me, almost all of us as we look at problems in our marriage we think of big ticket items.

Karl Pellemer

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