Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems

Why Couples Fight

October 5, 2015


Interview with Tim Downs, author of the book Wonders Never Cease




Mike Carruthers:
Every couple argues and fights – but about what?


Tim Downs:
Somebody once said nothing keeps an argument going like 2 people who don’t know what they’re really fighting about. And until you get down to the real underlying issues you can think that you’re different in a thousand ways when there are really only 7 essential differences that divide us.

Tim Downs

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015


Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need




Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.

Nora Klaver

Relationship Happiness

August 5, 2015


Interview with Alan C. Fox, author of the book People Tools for Love and Relationships: The Journey from Me to Us




Mike Carruthers:
Just about everyone wants to find and be with someone who loves them. And success maybe in how we approach it.


Alan C. Fox:
We grow up thinking you’ll meet your one and only, fall in love, live happily ever after – you don’t have work at it you find the perfect person. I say that’s wrong I say you have to be the right person.

Alan C. Fox

Having Difficult Conversations

June 30, 2015


Interview with Andrea Lee, author of the book We Need To Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations




Mike Carruthers:
You know those difficult conversations when something really big is at stake? Well one of the things that makes those conversations so difficult is…


Andrea Lee:
We perform worse
when there’s something to lose. The moment when we have something to lose is actually when it counts the most to have the best conversation possible.


Andrea J. Lee

What Makes A Good Partnership?

June 11, 2015


Interview with Rodd Wagner, co-author of the book Power of 2: How to Make the Most of Your Partnerships at Work and in Life




Mike Carruthers:
Partnerships - we all have them at work, at home and with friends.


Rodd Wagner:
Most people are not very deliberate about their partnerships. When you ask them whether they’ve had good partnerships or bad partnerships they will tend to say they’ve had a lot more bad partnerships than good ones.

Rodd Wagner

Improve Your Relationship Today

May 28, 2015


Interview with Cloe Madanes, author of the book Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life




Mike Carruthers:
In any relationship we all have the need for security and certainty.


Cloe Madanes:
One of the paradoxes of human life is that as soon as you have certainty you have the need for uncertainty, variety - you want some surprises.

Cloe Madanes


Couples & Money

May 21, 2015


Interview with Jeff Motske, CFP, author of the book The Couple's Guide to Financial Compatibility: Avoid Fights about Spending and Saving--and Build a Happy and Secure Future Together




Mike Carruthers:
Perhaps one of the main reasons couples fight about money is they never talk about money until there’s something to fight about.


Jeff Motske:
When you’re proactive and not reactive you find a completely different financial life together.


Jeff Motske, CFP

How You Handle Change

May 1, 2015


Interview with Ariane de Bonvoisin author of The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Any Change (and Loving Your Life More)




Mike Carruthers:
When you ask most people how well they cope with change in life, you typically hear….


Ariane de Bonvoisin:
“I hate change, I resist change, I’m bad at change…” So I know that is a very classic, typical response.

Ariane de Bonvoisin

Secrets To Love & Marriage

March 20, 2015


Interview with Pepper Schwartz, author of the book Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong




Mike Carruthers:
Many of the accepted beliefs about love, relationships and marriage may need rethinking.


Pepper Schwartz:
My most favorite is the one, never go to bed angry. That means you're always supposed to fight it out when you're tired.

Pepper Schwartz

Differences Between Male & Female Brains - Part 2

March 17, 2015


Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works




Mike Carruthers:
When men and women are angry with each other and argue interesting things happen biologically.


Michael Gurian:
The part of the brain will swell up in both of them called the amygdala. Then the neuro center for the man the pathways for the man go more toward the brain stem and away from the verbal center so he’s not going to tend to be able to talk.


Michael Gurian

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