Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems

Couples & Money

May 21, 2015


Interview with Jeff Motske, CFP, author of the book The Couple's Guide to Financial Compatibility: Avoid Fights about Spending and Saving--and Build a Happy and Secure Future Together




Mike Carruthers:
Perhaps one of the main reasons couples fight about money is they never talk about money until there’s something to fight about.


Jeff Motske:
When you’re proactive and not reactive you find a completely different financial life together.


Jeff Motske, CFP

How You Handle Change

May 1, 2015


Interview with Ariane de Bonvoisin author of The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Any Change (and Loving Your Life More)




Mike Carruthers:
When you ask most people how well they cope with change in life, you typically hear….


Ariane de Bonvoisin:
“I hate change, I resist change, I’m bad at change…” So I know that is a very classic, typical response.

Ariane de Bonvoisin

Secrets To Love & Marriage

March 20, 2015


Interview with Pepper Schwartz, author of the book Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong




Mike Carruthers:
Many of the accepted beliefs about love, relationships and marriage may need rethinking.


Pepper Schwartz:
My most favorite is the one, never go to bed angry. That means you're always supposed to fight it out when you're tired.

Pepper Schwartz

Differences Between Male & Female Brains - Part 2

March 17, 2015


Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works




Mike Carruthers:
When men and women are angry with each other and argue interesting things happen biologically.


Michael Gurian:
The part of the brain will swell up in both of them called the amygdala. Then the neuro center for the man the pathways for the man go more toward the brain stem and away from the verbal center so he’s not going to tend to be able to talk.


Michael Gurian

Important Financial News For Couples

January 23, 2015


Interview with Marilyn Barrett, author of the book Just Sign Here Honey: Women's 10 Biggest Legal Mistakes and How to Avoid Them (Capital Ideas for Business & Personal Development)




Mike Carruthers: 
If you're married and file a joint tax return with your spouse, you'd better make sure you know what that tax return says.


Marilyn Barrett:
Most married couples don't know that when they file a joint tax return they are agreeing to be jointly and separately liable for the taxes. And that means that the IRS can go after both of you, or just one of you.

Marilyn Barrett

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage - Part 2

January 15, 2015


Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage




Mike Carruthers:
We’ve all heard how half of all marriages end in divorce and how many troubled marriages there are; however…


Karl Pellemer:
I can tell you the opposite is true. There are quite a few people who make it for 50, 60, or 70 years and it’s a fantastic trip for them. 

Karl Pellemer

Secrets Of A Happy Marriage

January 14, 2015


Interview with Karl Pellemer, author of the book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage




Mike Carruthers:
What if you asked people that have been married a long time what they think is the key to a successful marriage? One thing you would hear is…


Karl Pellemer:
Think small. And this really struck me, almost all of us as we look at problems in our marriage we think of big ticket items.

Karl Pellemer

When It's Hard To Go Home For The Holidays

December 22, 2014


Interview with Dr. Thomas Habib, author of the book If These Walls Could Talk: A Therapist Reveals Stories of Change and How They will Work for You




Mike Carruthers:
 Many adult children just love to visit their parents for the holidays. But many adult children just hate it.


Dr. Thomas Habib:
The reason is that the parents haven’t changed their relationship from a parenting-based relationship to a friendship-based relationship.


Dr. Thomas Habib

Art Of Creating Relationships

December 17, 2014


Interview with Steven Chandler, author of the book 50 Ways to Create Great Relationships: How to Stop Taking and Start Giving




Mike Carruthers: 
Developing friendships or relationships takes certain important skills.


Steve Chandler:
For example, listening, listening is the most creative aspect of relationships; it's what really makes relationships strong.

Steven Chandler

The Stages Of Every Relationship

September 15, 2014


Interview with Linda Carroll, author of the book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love




Mike Carruthers:
Our view of what love and relationships are supposed to be may be a bit off because…


Linda Carroll:
Relationships have seasons and our culture is very strong on the 1st season which is the merge. Which is mediated by hormones and chemicals and when we fall in love we’re not in our rational mind.

Linda Carroll

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