Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems


Art Of Creating Relationships

December 17, 2014

 

Interview with Steven Chandler, author of the book 50 Ways to Create Great Relationships: How to Stop Taking and Start Giving

 

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Mike Carruthers: 
Developing friendships or relationships takes certain important skills.

 

Steve Chandler:
For example, listening, listening is the most creative aspect of relationships; it's what really makes relationships strong.
 


Steven Chandler

The Stages Of Every Relationship

September 15, 2014

 

Interview with Linda Carroll, author of the book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Our view of what love and relationships are supposed to be may be a bit off because…

 

Linda Carroll:
Relationships have seasons and our culture is very strong on the 1st season which is the merge. Which is mediated by hormones and chemicals and when we fall in love we’re not in our rational mind.
 


Linda Carroll

Truth About Love

August 12, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Thomas Habib, author of the book If These Walls Could Talk: A Therapist Reveals Stories of Change and How They will Work for You

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Even in the very best relationships love can't always be there.

 


Dr. Thomas Habib:
In couples, it's the expectations of love we have; we talk about love as a constant when it isn't. What's constant is commitment.
 


Dr. Thomas Habib

Relationships Are About The Little Things

July 22, 2014

 

Interview with Sky Blossoms, author of the book Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
For a marriage or relationship to work better often only requires a change in attitude.

 

Sky Blossoms:
That means really appreciating your partner. That means treating your relationship no matter how long you have been married as if you’re still in a courting period – romancing your partner, showing your best qualities.
 


Sky Blossoms

Privacy Vs Secrecy In Marriage

July 16, 2014

 

Interview with Charlie Bloom, co-author of the book 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In any marriage or any relationship there’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy.

 

Charlie Bloom:
Then it’s a crucial distinction, the main difference is in intention.
 


Charlie Bloom

A Closer Look At Marriage

July 11, 2014

 

Interview with Judith Viorst, author of the book Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Now here's an interesting view of marriage.

 

Judith Viorst:
Since it's impossible to be in love with each other all the time, marriage keeps you together when you fall out of love and gives you enough time to fall back in again.
 


Judith Viorst

Insecure People

July 10, 2014

 

Interview with Joseph Nowinski, author of the book The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you consider yourself, or someone you know to be insecure?

 

Joseph Nowinski:
Insecurity is kind of a deep sense of being unsure about your place in the world, your value, symptoms include self-consciousness, a tendency to be very self-critical, easily hurt.
 


Joseph Nowinski

Never Say This In An Argument

July 3, 2014

 

Interview with George Thompson, author of the book Verbal Judo, Second Edition: The Gentle Art of Persuasion

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When you're in a heated argument and someone is getting really upset at you, you're likely tempted to say something like... "calm down."

 

George Thompson:
It's the worst thing you can say. One everybody thinks they're calm enough, so if you'll notice when you say calm down, what do they say? "I'm plenty calm!"
 


George Thompson

Conflict Strategies

May 29, 2014

 

Interview with Diane Hamilton, author of the book Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Conflict for many of us is something to be avoided.

 

Diane Hamilton:
The 1st thing is just to not, not to be afraid of it. Most of us are convinced that to deal with conflict directly isn’t going to go anywhere good because most of our experience is that it doesn’t. So we have to change our attitude.
 


Diane Hamilton

How Couples Can Stop Arguing & Have Fun

April 30, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Judith Orloff, author of the book The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
A great way to improve any relationship is to be the one who is willing to stop an argument.

 

Dr. Judith Orloff:
Just surrendering the need to be right with your spouse or partner can be so healthy for a relationship. I’ve seen so many relationships get into big trouble if nobody will give in. 
 


Dr. Judith Orloff

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