Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems


Timid Passive People

April 17, 2014

 

Interview with Dennis D. Adams, author of the Honest, Direct, Respectful: Three Simple Words that will Change your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Would you consider yourself a passive person or a reactive person?


Dennis Adams:

I think that eighty percent of people in any given population are passive and I think that twenty percent are reactive by nature.
 


Dennis D. Adams

Meeting People & Creating Contacts

April 15, 2014

 

Interview with Anne Baber, author of the book Make Your Contacts Count: Networking Know-How for Business and Career Success

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Getting out there and meeting new people is extremely important in order to get ahead professionally and socially and yet…
 
Anne Baber:
About sixty percent of Americans are now saying that they are shy. That number has ratcheted upward from forty percent only ten years ago.

Anne Baber

Improving Parent/Adult Children Relationships

April 14, 2014

 

Interview with Jane Isay, author of the book Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Many adult children have some difficulty in their relationship with their parents and that difficulty can grow into real conflict, however…

 

Jane Isay:
Tiny changes in the parents' behavior can make very large changes in the relationship - a loving email that doesn't need a response or a phone call without an agenda.
 


Jane Isay

How To NOT Ruin Relationships

February 27, 2014

 

Interview with Anthony Wolf PhD, author of the book Why Can't You Shut Up?: How We Ruin Relationships--How Not To

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Have you ever been in an argument with someone close to you that had you thinking?


Anthony Wolf, PhD:

I have to make her understand, I have to get her to see my side, I'm right, I just can't let this go unproven- and what happens is that the argument can get real bad.

Reconciling Estranged Relationships

February 20, 2014

 

Interview with Laura Davis, author of the book I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation

 

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Mike Carruthers:
People hold grudges and stop speaking to friends and family members for important reasons or at least they seemed important at the time, however…

 


Laura Davis:

When you hold on to a grudge against someone for something they did in the past it can really be counter-productive because what seems like a bitter rift at one point ten years later may look very different.
 


Laura Davis

Ways To Improve Family Communication

February 17, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Carl Alasko, author of the book Say

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you want to improve your communication skills particularly within your own family…

 

Dr. Carl Alasko:
Don’t ask questions that don’t have an actual answer. And I put the main culprit the why question. Why didn’t you do your homework?
 


Dr. Carl Alasko

Resolving Marital Conflicts

January 30, 2014

 

Interview with Willard F. Harley Jr., author of the book He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Being able to resolve conflicts in a relationship or marriage is important but it’s not enough.

 

Willard F. Harley Jr.:
A resolution to a conflict is not the only objective. It should also maintain the romance that a couple starts out with and should maintain throughout their married life.
 


Willard F. Harley Jr.

Getting Good At Saying No

January 28, 2014

 

Interview with Jana Kemp, author of the book No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Although it's difficult, being able to say "no" to people has some real benefits.

 

Jana Kemp:
When we learn to say no more effectively we actually feel less stress in our lives. By learning to say no and keeping our resolve other people start to respect our personal boundaries and our professional boundaries.
 


Jana Kemp

Nagging

January 8, 2014

 

Interview with Dr. Jamie Turndorf, author of the book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love’s 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Wives are often accused of nagging, why?

 

Dr. Jamie Turndorf:
People don’t realize that there is a biochemical imbalance that occurs in men’s bodies when they fight with women. Which ultimately leads to nagging – it’s called ANS arousal or the fight/flight response.
 


Dr. Jamie Turndorf

How Anger Can Sabotage Your Success

December 10, 2013

 

Interview with Deidre Combs, author of the book Worst Enemy, Best Teacher : How to Survive and Thrive with Opponents, Competitors, and the People Who Drive You Crazy

 

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Mike Carruthers:
How often have you gotten yourself in trouble by reacting to something someone said or wrote without stepping back and really thinking about it before you respond?

 

Deidre Combs:
Here's one tip that I use: is to remember if I want to respond right away, I shouldn't.
 


Deidre Combs

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