Something You Should Know about Relationship Problems


Marriage Magic

April 28, 2016

 

Interview with Barbara Bartlein, author of the book Marriage Makeover: Simple Ways to Revitalize Your Relationship Without Your Spouse Even Knowing

 

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Mike Carruthers:
That excitement that starts a marriage or long-term relationship often fades.

 

Barbara Bartlein:
More marriages just end with a whimper rather than a bang and part of the reason is people tend to put their marriage on the back burner and not put a lot of effort into it.
 


Barbara Bartlein

The Semi-Happy Marriage

March 31, 2016

 

Interview with Pamela Haag, author of the book Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses, and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Something interesting has happened to a lot of marriages today they fallen into the category of the semi-happy marriage.

 

Pamela Haag:
The semi-happy marriages are usually very amiable and high functioning as friendships but in some ways they’ve become too much like a friendship.
 


Pamela Haag

When Couples Fight

February 2, 2016

 

Interview with Sharyn Wolf, author of the book Love Shrinks: A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor's Divorce

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you’re in a relationship you’re going to fight, and how you fight is going to have a big impact on that relationship. So how do you fight?

 

Sharyn Wolf:
Well you want to fight fair, there’s no name calling. You want to focus on the issue and not get distracted into a kitchen sink fight where every other issue that you’ve ever had together comes up.
 


Sharon Wolf

The 5 Love Languages Explained

January 8, 2016

 

Interview with Gary Chapman, author of the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Do you know the 5 love languages?

 

Gary Chapman:
One of them is words of affirmation; “You look nice in that outfit, really appreciate what you did” – simply words of affirmation.  Another is gifts it’s universal to give gifts as an expression of love.
 

Gary Chapman

How Technology Impacts Relationships

December 22, 2015

 

Interview with Sherry Turkle, author of the book Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other

 

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Mike Carruthers:
More and more people would rather text than talk on their cell phones and when you ask them why?

 

Sherry Turkle:
They say I’m not in control of the conversation if I call.
 


Sherry Turkle

Your Needs In A Relationship

 November 30, 2015

 

Interview with Dr. Jane Greer, author of the book What About Me?: Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Every relationship requires compromise so inevitably…

 

Jane Greer:
The minute you enter a relationship it becomes a question of your needs versus your partner’s needs, who comes first, who’s most important, and what about me?

 


Dr. Jane Greer

How Couples Resolve Conflict

November 17, 2015

 

Interview with Laurie Puhn, author of the book Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In

 

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Mike Carruthers:
In a marriage or relationship eventually you will do something that you will need to apologize for.

 

Laurie Puhn:
And the first step in a perfect apology is you make a mountain out of a molehill. So what you want to do is embellish the wrongdoing.
 


Laurie Puhn

Why Couples Fight

October 5, 2015

 

Interview with Tim Downs, author of the book Wonders Never Cease

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Every couple argues and fights – but about what?

 

Tim Downs:
Somebody once said nothing keeps an argument going like 2 people who don’t know what they’re really fighting about. And until you get down to the real underlying issues you can think that you’re different in a thousand ways when there are really only 7 essential differences that divide us.
 


Tim Downs

Why Asking For Help Is Hard

August 25, 2015

 

Interview with Nora Klaver, author of the book Mayday!: Asking for Help in Times of Need

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Are you good at asking for help when you need it? Most of us are not - why?

M. Nora Klaver:
People are really afraid of looking weak, or incompetent or incapable or not on top of things. Men and women both struggle with that.
 


Nora Klaver

Relationship Happiness

August 5, 2015

 

Interview with Alan C. Fox, author of the book People Tools for Love and Relationships: The Journey from Me to Us

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Just about everyone wants to find and be with someone who loves them. And success maybe in how we approach it.

 

Alan C. Fox:
We grow up thinking you’ll meet your one and only, fall in love, live happily ever after – you don’t have work at it you find the perfect person. I say that’s wrong I say you have to be the right person.
 


Alan C. Fox

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