Secrets To Connecting With People Part 2

November 11, 2009
Interview with Jill Spiegel, author of the book Jill Spiegel's How To Talk To Anyone About Anything!

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Mike Carruthers:
The secret to connecting with other people isn’t so much telling them what you know but to get them to tell you what they know.

Jill Spiegel:
So, when you’re interested in what other people know they see how brilliant you are and they want to be around you more because you make them feel special and important.
 

Jill Spiegel

Jill Spiegel, author of the book How To Talk To Anyone About Anything! says if meeting new people makes you nervous…

There are so many ways to capitalize on that nervousness to endear people to you. So, one strategy is - all you have to do is connect with one person. And you’re going to look in that room and you’re going to see somebody that feels like you who is hiding in the corner -who’s nervous and who is just aching for somebody to come up to them.

And what you say to that person says Jill, is…

“Hi I’m Jill and listen I’ve never been to one of these before, I’m a little nervous to be here but when I saw you standing there you exuded so much kindness I knew I could just come up to you and say hello. And people think. “Oh I’m so relieved to meet a genuine down-to-earth person who’s admitting that this is a little nerve-wracking too.” And once you’ve been talking with them for a few minutes all your nervousness will dissolve.

And Jill is a big believer in using your intuition when it comes to meeting new people. Here’s why she thinks that…

Once I was at a party, Mike, and I didn’t know anyone and I saw this really cute girl sitting on a couch and I just felt interested about her. I wanted to know more about her and we talked for ten minutes and after ten minutes she goes, “It’s amazing you are like my brother, you talk like my brother, you have the same interests as him.” Long story short, Mike, I married her brother!

For Part 1, click here.
 

To hear the complete unedited interview, click here.