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How To Be More Convincing

November 1, 2011

 

Interview with Dan Roam, author of the book Blah Blah Blah: What To Do When Words Don't Work

 

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Mike Carruthers:
When we’re talking with people socially or professionally our ideas and the stories we tell are simply a string of words.

 

Dan Roam:
The problem is that unless those ideas are really, really crystal clearly formed they’re just kind of like big fluffy clouds. We talk about this one for a moment and then it passes away and the next one comes along and we completely forget about the previous one.
 


Dan Roam

Techniques For Important Conversations - Part 2

September 20, 2011

 

Interview with Kerry Patterson, author of the book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Those heated arguments we have with people seldom lead to a lasting solution because very quickly the goal becomes to win the argument not find a solution. So maybe there's a better way.

 

Kerry Patterson:
We suggest that the idea here is not to win, not to get your way but to come to a common understanding.
 


Kerry Patterson

Techniques For Important Conversations

September 19, 2011

 

Interview with Kerry Patterson, author of the book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You will occasionally have what you might call a crucial conversation which is…

 

Kerry Patterson:
One where opinions vary, the stakes are fairly high and when emotions start running strong and we start losing control of our temper.
 


Kerry Patterson

The Boss/Employee Relationship

September 2, 2011

 

Interview with Jamie Showkeir, author of the book Authentic Conversations: Moving from Manipulation to Truth and Commitment

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you had to describe the nature of the typical boss/employee relationship, it's similar to a parent and child.

 

Jamie Showkeir:
Because the premise on which our organizations of today were founded was generated well over a hundred years ago by people who were looking at non-skilled labor, as folks who could not be trusted and had to be told what to do.
 


Jamie Showkeir

Male/Female Communication Styles

August 19, 2011

 

Interview with Michael Gurian, author of the book Leadership and the Sexes: Using Gender Science to Create Success in Business (J-B US non-Franchise Leadership)

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You communicate differently than members of the opposite sex. That just is. However, in the workplace it can become a problem if you're not aware of some of these differences.

 

Michael Gurian:
A big difference between men and women is that men tend to aggressively self-promote more than women do and it helps them climb ladders. And a lot of this is based in brain chemistry differences.
 


Michael Gurian

Job Satisfaction

July 8, 2011

 

Interview with Jeffrey Garton, author of the book Career Contentment: Don't Settle for Anything Less!

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Seeking job satisfaction in your career may be a big waste of time.

 

Jeffrey Garton:
Job satisfaction is never possible. As we age and our interests evolve we expect more - something new and different. It's in our DNA to complain and even if we're in the most satisfying job, we will find some reason to complain.
 


Jeffrey Garton

Neutralizing Difficult People

 June 17, 2011

 

Interview with Ronald Shapiro, co-author of the book Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People: How to Beat Them Without Joining Them

 

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Mike Carruthers:
We all have to deal with difficult people; it's part of life. But to be effective dealing with these people, you have to make sure they don't push your buttons. In other words,

 

Ronald Shapiro:
Neutralize your emotions. Take control of yourself. Do something physical like put a finger on your lip to remind you it isn't personal and you're not going to get personal. And then you begin to take control of yourself.
 


Ronald Shapiro

Confidence On The Job - Part 2

May 17, 2011

 

Interview with Jodi Glickman, author of the book Great on the Job: What to Say, How to Say It. The Secrets of Getting Ahead.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
Have you ever been in that situation at work where you don’t know something you need to know and you feel dumb for not knowing it? Well take a lesson from this lady…

 

Jodi Glickman:
 As a young investment banker at Goldman Sacks I was not very good technically but the thing is no one knew that I didn’t really know what to do.
 

Jodi Glickman

Confidence On The Job

May 16, 2011

 

Interview with Jodi Glickman, author of the book Great on the Job: What to Say, How to Say It. The Secrets of Getting Ahead.

 

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Mike Carruthers:
If you’re going to be an effective communicator particularly at work it’s import to understand the 4 basic principles of communication.

 

Jodi Glickman:
They are generosity, initiative, forward momentum, and transparency.  And I argue they are the backbone of all effective communicators.
 

Jodi Glickman

How To Speed Read People

April 29, 2011

 

Interview with Paul Tieger, author of the book The Art of SpeedReading People: How to Size People Up and Speak Their Language

 

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Mike Carruthers:
You can deal much more effectively with people if you can first learn to read them.

 

Paul Tieger:
There are some people in the world who are more, what we call, "judging" and some people, what we call, "perceiving." And judging does not necessarily mean judgmental, it just means people who like to be decisive and they like to come down on one side or another.
 


Paul Tieger

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