Kathryn Tristan, author of the book Why Worry?...
A lot of times this is learned from childhood. Some scientists say that your mind is like an idling car it always has thought patterns in the back that were running that are ready to kick into reality once something happens. And if you are trained and wired to be a worrier and a worry wart then that is going to be your modus operandi that is what you’re going to kick into.
When you start to worry obsessively, Kathryn says, it helps to get very specific, write it down or say it out loud, give voice to your worry then you can question it.
Turn it around instead of thinking I’ve got a headache maybe it’s a brain tumor and I have cancer you think is that an actual thought, no I actually disagree with that. So you turn your situations around but you also are realistic and you’re solution-oriented.
If your mind is occupied with positive things it can’t be worrying. And then there’s that big never changing statistic.
Science has shown that 85% of what we worry about never happens. So we have the choice of using that idea to try to help us decide if what we’re worrying about is reasonable or not.