January 16, 2017
Interview with Tom Kersting, author of the book Disconnected
The average teen is spending 9 hours a day with electronic devices – 9 hours!
It’s not the electronic devices that are the problem our natural habitat as human beings is we are social and emotional beings. And if we’re socializing through texts we’re not socializing face-to-face in real life which is what we need in order to develop strong skills as human beings.
Tom Kersting, author of the book Disconnected works with kids and their parents.
People come in with the symptoms, my kid doesn’t socialize, he’s got anxiety, he doesn’t want to go to school, he’s depressed, he’s got behavioral issues – and the common denominator in every case is case is that the kid is addicted to screens. And the parents are finding it very difficult to pull their kids away from these screens and bring them back into the real world.
Of course a lot of parents will say that their kid doesn’t spend 9 hours a day with screens.
But have you actually sat down with a clock and clocked it? Yes your kid is spending 9 years yet particularly a teenager. So the way in which we stop that is we have to remember that we’re the ones in charge. The reason why parents are having a hard time doing it is because of the unbelievable backlash and blowback that they get from their kids and they just don’t want to deal with it. So we have to kind of step up to the plate as parents and realize that we’re going to get some serious blowback.
Kids need time for face-to-face interaction with people and they’re not getting it.
The average parent nowadays spends 3 ½ minutes per week in meaningful conversation with their children.