The Magic Of Saying NO
with Jana Kemp author of
Although it's difficult, being able to say "no" to people has some real
When we learn to say no more effectively
we actually feel less stress in our lives. By learning to say no and keeping our
resolve other people start to respect our personal boundaries and our professional
Kemp, author of the book, NO!
How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life, says you might be surprised how
people react when you say no.
very first time that I said no without thinking about the finesse of my response
was for a volunteer opportunity. And I had someone say, " Gosh wouldn't you
be willing to serve as secretary for this organization?" And I said, "No".
And the person's facial expression just suddenly changed and I thought, oh my
gosh I wasn't really very polite about that. And then as I explained why I had
said no and what my other time commitments were this man said, " Gosh, I
so admire that you were so clear on what you could say no to, I wish I could do
that more in my life".
often even when we think we're saying no we're really saying maybe.
example, "No Mike, I can't do that right now". Is that a no or is that
a maybe because maybe you can do it later. So what's a better way to say no?
like to say things like; " Thanks for thinking of me on this request, no
I won't be able to follow through on it because I've already committed my volunteer
hours for the month. Or, " My schedule is so loaded with projects right now
that I'm not in a position to take on anything else".
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