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Psychiatrist Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of the book, Secrets Of Happily Married Men…

Because most of us as men, we're able to settle. If our marriage isn't estatic and other parts of our life are doing ok, we're able to say, "In balance, I'm alright." But most women really view their domestic life, their relationship life as critically important. And if they're not happy then you're not going to be happy as a husband.

But often Dr. Haltzman says men who make the commitment to give and give often feel as if they give without getting back.

But the odds are, if you were to ask their wives, their wives would say the same thing. Their wives would say that they feel they they're giving. So, my view is you need to give more than 50%, you can't just say, I'm going to give and I'm going to give and then after awhile I'm going to sit back and wait. And if that giving is a source of love for you then it won't feel like work it'll feel like you're really doing something positive. And what happens in particularly with your wife is that when she realizes that your primary goal is her happiness- boy, the world opens up for you and you really do start to get a lot of your needs met.

Tomorrow, how couples therapy puts men at a disadvantage- I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.