Mike Carruthers:
The
Baby Boomer Generation has the distinction of having a higher
divorce rate than any other generation before or since.
Marlene
M. Browne Esq.:
Our number is fifty to fifty-three percent of all Boomer marriages
end in divorce.
Family
law attorney Marlene Brown, author of The
Boomer's Guide To Divorce And A New Life says given the
odds of divorce it's important to know what makes a good divorce.
The data
shows that between one to three years after divorce people are
still hurt. No matter what happens, they're hurt. So, number
one, it's got to be some time. Number two is feeling that you
got a fair shake and were able to say what you needed to say.
So, you had to be able to express what you were needing and
what you were not getting in the marriage.
And the
third thing, says Marlene, is that sense of security.
And that
they're going to see their children and have some money, so
in order for a divorce to be good you've got the time, you've
got the psychological - looking back and saying look I did and
I said what I needed to at the time so that no one feels victimized.
And you've got the actual, "I've got enough money to begin
life anew".
It's
interesting how few divorces ever actually go to court.
Ninety-five
to ninety-seven percent of all cases settle. That means only
three to five percent of the cases filed in this country go
to trial. So most people do eventually get to a place where
they can say, "ok I can live with this, can you live with
this? Yes." And so that's what makes a good divorce.
You can
link to Marlene's website from ours: somethingyoushouldknow.net
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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