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Laurie Puhn, J.D.:
And what I mean by that is, lets say you have a problem you want your spouse to do more chores around the house. You could say, " Honey you really need to do more around the house I'm taking care of everything myself and this just isn't fair."

Attorney Laurie Puhn, author of the book, Instant Persuasion…

Well when you say that you've instantly persuaded that person to ignore your complaint. On the other hand you can make a small change in your words. And this is how it would go: " Honey I'm concerned because I think you're not doing as many chores around the house as I would like. How about if you take the garbage out every morning before you go to work? That would make it easier for me." The difference there is you've actually offered the solution. And when you do that you re-direct the conversation.

You know when someone tells you something and you'd really like to tell them you're opinion but they haven't asked you for it.

You can, however, persuade the person to ask you. And you do this by saying " Would you like my opinion?" And what it does is it takes down that guard in the other person. Now the other person can say, " Yes, I'd like your opinion." And he's prepared to listen to it. Or he can say, " No, I don't want it." And it changes the dynamics of the conversation.

You can link to Laurie's website from ours: somethingyoushouldknow.net I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.