Mike
Carruthers:
In so many relationships today there is a common problem.
Mel Schwartz:
I see so many couples who treat marriage or relationships like
a business -they are pretty good at getting the job or the business
of the partnership done.
Psychotherapist
Mel Schwartz, author of the book
The Art of Intimacy the Pleasure of Passion…
Everybody knows
what their role is and they take care of everything they have
to do, it's productive. But we've lost the art of knowing how
to love well together.
Romance is so
important in keeping a relationship happy yet it is so easy
to neglect it.
Very often when
I'm working with a couple who is struggling, typically I might
ask them when the last time they had a night out just for the
two of them was - it's called a date night. And too often they
look at one another blankly and they can't recall. If you're
not going to devote yourself to emotional intimacy in trying
to keep some measure of romance alive, it's altogether predictable
that where the relationship breaks down to is the job of the
marriage, the business of the marriage - that's not what brought
us together to start with.
Mel has a great
quote to remember for everyone in a long-term relationship…
Oscar Wilde said,
"Uncertainty is the essence of romance." And I quite
agree with him but when we look at relationships as altogether
predictable, then romance is gone - our needs aren't being met.
At somethingyoushouldknow.net
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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