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Psychologist, Douglas Weiss, author of the book, The 7 Love Agreements says there are 7 areas you can improve yourself that will ultimately improve your relationship. Take patience for instance…

You say, "Ok, I'm going to be more patient this month than last month." Here's my goal; I'm not going to fuss, or complain or roll my eyes when they…are ten minutes late forget their keys or do whatever annoying thing they do. And when you stop doing the cycle of fussing about what they do, it changes the way the marriage works. So now you don't have that hour of not liking each other because they did that again. And it makes your marriage so much better.

Celebration is another area we can improve ourselves.

Celebration basically acknowledges that your spouse is in some way different than you and those differences need to be celebrated not tolerated or squelched. If your spouse likes to do certain things, go ahead and try to do some of those things that they like to do. And then in turn they will want to do some of your things with you.

When you try techniques with your partner, Doug says you'll find that changing yourself is a very effective way to improve your relationship.

You are lining up an attack to improve your marriage, they have nothing to say about it, because you're not really asking you to join you- it's lots of fun.

At somethingyoushouldknow.net I'm Mike Carruthers and That's Something You Should Know.