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| March
9, 2005:
Striving To Be Perfect
Interview
with Arthur Ciarmicoli, author of the book, Performance
Addiction |
Mike
Carruthers:
When you compare this country to others it just may be
that our pursuit of success, money, even good looks is a little out of whack.
Arthur
Ciarmicoli:
And even though we are the most affluent nation in
the civilized world, I mean our level of depression, our collective mood is really
the worst among 65 nations that have been studied. Arthur
Ciarmicoli, author of the book, Performance
Addiction… The
Nigerians, who earn $300 on average a year, they came in first in the happiness
quotient. We were down at the bottom. So money in and of itself, if you're pursuing
it for the wrong reasons is not going to bring you that kind of contentment. So
where is the line between wanting to look good and be successful and being a performance
addict? It
becomes a performance addiction when you have this belief; you believe that you
have to do this in order to secure love and happiness. I mean improving appearance
for health reasons is beneficial but the obsessive attempts to perfect appearance
does not bring happiness. What is does is it makes you addicted to looking perfect
and you can never quite do that. Arthur
believes that there's a bit of the performance addict in all of us but some a
lot more than others. When
I ask my performance addiction clients on a Monday how was your weekend? They
say, " I got a lot done". I said "I didn't ask you what you got
done, I asked you how was your weekend, did you enjoy anything, did you have any
fun?" And basically they talk about how much they got done. Again it's always
based on that scoreboard mentality of rating the performance. Tomorrow,
how to stop striving to be perfect: I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You
Should Know.
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