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Sophie Chiche:
I spent time with a friend of mine this weekend whose kid is told every 10 minutes (and it's not from a malicious mother who wants to hurt her kid but she just keeps saying) how lazy her daughter is.

Sophie Chiche, co-author of the book, The Power Of Personal Accountability.

Every sentence starts with, "You're so lazy this..." or "You're so lazy that..." Well if the kid doesn't do deliberate job at some point to take those sentences and get them out of her head and start building up a different belief..."

And if you think about, you'll come up with your stories and beliefs in your own head that maybe getting in the way. For example, Sophie recalls a woman who could never make relationships with men work out.

One day I sat her on the chair and I said, "What is your deal? Like, what are you telling yourself about this." And in there were all these beliefs about how her mom had to give up herself to be in a relationship. And how being with someone really meant losing your own identity and she had those words like, "being in a relationship is like going through fire, you have to burn yourself." And I was like, man if I had those thoughts trotting in my head, I would never be in a relationship.

You can change those thoughts and beliefs in your head, but you first have to identify them.

If a thought is not serving you, it's out. It has to get out. And you're the only one who can do this. You, me, these people listening out there. We're the only ones who can actually do something about this. And to me, that's the ultimate accountability.

At somethingyoushouldknow.net, I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.