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Edward Hallowell :
Number one is to never worry alone. It's by far the most important antidote to worry that we have is to connect with somebody else.

Edward Hallowell, author of the book, Worry…

Because it reduces your sense of vulnerability and augments your feeling of power and control. We're talking about feelings that are very often based in the imagination not in reality. So, it's the feelings that count. And number one is the feeling of vulnerability and number two the feeling of power and control. As vulnerability rises the feeling of power and control diminishes and worry increases.

And connecting with someone else makes that situation much better. Worrying alone makes it much worse. Another important way to control worry is to get the facts.

Because toxic worry is usually rooted in either lack of information or wrong information and people say well what if the facts are terrible? What if you have a malignant cancer? Well, you're better off having the facts than not having the facts.

And Edwards says once you have the facts then you can make a plan.

And if it's malignant cancer you make a plan to treat it. If it's that you're going bankrupt you make a plan to earn more money or to protect yourself in bankruptcy. And then people say well what if the plan doesn't work. Well then you revise the plan and that's what life is all about. You're much better off to be active in dealing with worry than passive because toxic worry loves a passive victim.

At somethingyoushouldknow.net - I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.