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May
12, 2003:
Power Of Your Words
Interview
with Hal Urban author of Life's
Greatest Lessons
Mike
Carruthers:
It's amazing how the words you use have enormous impact on other
people.
Hal
Urban:
They can do great, great harm and they can dramatically improve
the quality of another person's life.
Hal Urban
author of the book Life's
Greatest Lessons.
Let me
give you an example. In the average home parents are much better
at catching their kids doing something wrong than they are at
doing something right, and I think one of the things that we
can do is acknowledge children at home and in school more often
when they do something well. Dale Carnegie wrote one of the
greatest books of all time called "How To Win Friends And
Influence People," and he says, "Give the other person
a good reputation to live up to."
We sometimes
don't even realize how what we say affects other people says
Hal. For example,
My wife
frequently asks me to do things around the house, and you fall
into his little habit of you're going do the thing, but you
moan and groan a little bit first. And I remember one day, in
a kind of a friendly way, she said, "What I'd really love
to hear you say sometimes when I ask you to do something for
me is say, 'Oh, honey, I'd be glad to do that for you.'"
And I'm going to do the thing anyway so it makes the whole thing
more pleasant if I do, in fact, say, "Well, honey, I'd
be happy to do that for you." And we kind joke about it
now because that's what I do.
For transcripts
visit our web site somethingyoushouldknow.net.
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's "Something You Should Know."
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