May
13, 2005:
Toxic Worry II
Interview
with Edward Hallowell author of Worry |
Mike Carruthers:
Whenever you get really worried about something.
Richard
C. Busse:
Number one is to never worry alone. It's by far the most important
antidote to worry that we have is to connect with somebody else.
Edward
Hallowell, author of the book, Worry…
Because
it reduces your sense of vulnerability and augments your feeling
of power and control. We're talking about feelings that are
very often based in the imagination not in reality. So, it's
the feelings that count and number one the feeling of vulnerability
and number two the feeling of power and control. As vulnerability
rises the feeling of power and control diminishes worry increases.
And connecting
with someone else makes that situation much better. Worrying
alone makes it much worse. Another important way to control
worry is to get the facts.
Because
toxic worry is usually rooted in either lack of information
or wrong information and people say well what if the facts are
terrible? What if you have a malignant cancer? Well, you're
better off having the facts than not having the facts.
And Edwards
says once you have the facts then you can make a plan.
And if
it's malignant cancer you make a plan to treat it. If it's you're
going bankrupt you make a plan to earn more money or to protect
yourself in bankruptcy. And then people say well what if the
plan doesn't work. Well then you revise the plan and that's
what life is all about. You're much better off to be active
in dealing with worry than passive because toxic worry loves
a passive victim.
At somethingyoushouldknow.net
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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