Mike
Carruthers:
Many marriages today are in trouble. But interestingly…
Dr. John Jacobs:
More often than not - and this is the tragedy of many divorces
- more often than not, it is embarrassingly and surprisingly
little that has to be done to turn a very bad marriage into
a very good marriage.
Psychiatrist
John Jacobs, author of the book
All You Need Is Love And Other Lies About Marriage...
And I believe
that this is because people who get married generally really
love each other and generally really want their marriages to
work. And over time when they're disappointed, they behave often,
very badly. And it takes very little positive reinforcement
from a spouse for people to get their hope back.
So what's the
first step?
If your spouse
comes over to you and says, "Let's stop fighting. I really
love you. I know what you need in this marriage. I'm gonna try
my best to give it to you. If you're not getting what you want
let me know what I could do better." If you take that attitude…"and
I really appreciate you and I'm glad I married you." If
you start talking that way with your spouse, it is remarkable
how fast a marriage that looks like it is going absolutely nowhere
but downhill, can reverse itself.
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