Mike
Carruthers:
To some degree you already know how to read body language - every
human being does.
Joe Navarro:
Our species assesses for danger first and then assesses for
hierarchy second and then we look for other things like emotions
and so forth.
Former FBI Special
Agent Joe Navarro, author of the book
What Every Body is Saying…
And that's why
sometimes we'll be in a room with someone and they'll make us
really uncomfortable and that may be because they're a predator
and our brains are detecting the fact that this person may be
a threat.
And we need to
listen to those messages.
That's what Gavin
de Becker was talking about in his book The Gift of Fear - that
our limbic brain is designed to preserve us and it detects danger.
If you don't feel comfortable on a date, getting into a car,
getting into an elevator - just get out because your brain is
actually communicating to you that something is wrong. For instance,
social predators stare at us longer than the average person.
That we react to that is absolute - it makes us uncomfortable
and we should never turn that off - ever.
Body language
is very accurate and Joe says it's very hard to fake it.
And that's why
we have both a true smile and a false smile. A true smile pulls
up towards the eyes; it's very difficult to fake. A fake smile
is the one that we often use socially, it pulls towards the
ears.
At somethingyoushouldknow.net
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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