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Tim Ursiny:
Self -worth or self-esteem is when I take my ideal of what someone should be and I compare myself to it. Confidence is more my belief that I can build that up to match, to get to that point where I feel satisfied where I am.

Tim Ursiny, author of the book The Confidence Plan, says one way to be more confident is to avoid avoiding things.

Avoidance drains confidence versus facing it. Let's say that you're asked in the workplace, "We need you to do a presentation" and you're afraid of it, you think about failing in front of that group so you find some way to weasel out of the presentation. Well, the next time that you're asked to do a presentation your fears are now greater because every time we avoid something the fear just builds, then finally, it almost feels impossible to face it.

And the people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on your self-confidence.

It can be very direct - it could be the person who put you down, or the person that controls you, or the person that just suddenly passive aggressively demeans you or it can just be the person that is negative. Even if that negativity isn't addressed towards you, imagine the last time you walked into a room where people were having an argument, where a team was having a fight or an argument, you can feel that, your body feels that when you walk in. So, even if the negativity isn't directed at you it can still impact your confidence and drain you of energy.

At somethingyoushouldknow.net I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.