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August 4, 2004:
Truth
About Love
Interview
with Dr. Thomas Habib author of the book, If
These Walls Could Talk
Mike
Carruthers:
The reality of romantic love is that the burning passion
can't possibly last.
Dr. Thomas
Habib:
Rather than the burning passion of love is to work
on the appreciation and the contentment.
Dr. Thomas
Habib author of the book If
These Walls Could Talk.
We can
have a lot more contentment in life; we can't have a lot of
happiness. Happiness is the whip cream; contentment is really
the main course.
The expectation
of continuous passion is causing a lot of problems in relationships.
That's
why in fact men don't like to go to chick flicks, by the end
of the movie the women hate us, because we can't live up to
that expectation portrayed in the movie. It's the equivalent
of a woman coming to a movie that is of scantly clad den woman
and having to endure that as if it's a betrayal of real relationships,
of course it isn't.
And romance
novels don't help the problem either.
Did you
know that there's a study that shows there's twenty five thousand
women in this country that read twenty or more romance novels
a month, a month. If a woman's reading two romance novels a
month, to me, that's an obsession. That's the equivalent of
men looking at twenty-year-old women with perfect bodies and
saying to themselves, "Boy would life be great with that
person?" No it wouldn't be, that isn't realistic.
Tomorrow
if you can't have feelings of love all the time, how much can
you have? I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should
Know.
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