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August 5, 2004:
Truth About Love II
Interview
with Dr. Thomas Habib author of the book, If
These Walls Could Talk
Mike
Carruthers:
Even in the best relationships love can't always be there.
Dr. Thomas
Habib:
In couples, it's the expectations of love we have;
we talk about love as a constant when it isn't. What's constant
is commitment.
Dr. Thomas
Habib author of the book
If Theses Walls Could Talk says in a relationship, not only
is love not constant, but typically there's really very little.
In fact
in a good marriage, I peg that the average feelings of love
in minutes per day is five minutes per day. If you think about
it, it happens in such a way where, for example with myself,
all I have to do is think of my wife and what she does with
the children and the leadership she takes in that and I feel
love, I feel gratitude for what she brings to my life and the
children's life. And so for about a half a minute I have a feeling
of love that infuses my life at that moment.
In fact
many couples have far less than five minutes a day, but there
are some things you can do to increase it.
Like
one of the things I like couples to do is upon arriving home
to just hover around each other, to spend time with each other.
To block the children out just to reconnect so that the friendship
and what used to fall easily in the relationship has a chance
to resume. And even more so the holding of appreciation and
contentment can be maximized.
At somethingyoushouldknow.net,
I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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