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Michael Jonas:
It doesn't mean the people in the relationship are falling out of love, it doesn't mean the relationship is even winding down. And it can often be the demands placed on a relationship-by children, by community involvement.

Michael Jonas, author of The Book of Love, Laughter, and Romance, says it's not hard to reenergize things.

Simply introduce a change in your environment, and the best place to start is in the bedroom. A candle, some flowers, clean up all the magazines all over the place. All that stuff gets cleaned out. Maybe a fresh new bedspread.

And simply changing your routine will work wonders, says Michael.

Breaking patterns introduces energy and it's almost always a positive change. If you come home in the evening and the first thing you do is turn on the television, don't turn on the TV. Put on some soft background music. Psychologists tell us that when you introduce soft music, people speak more softly and you tend to listen more. You're changing the dynamic in the relationship.

In short, Michael says you just need to focus a little energy in the relationship…

…so it can be everything from a post-it note on the bathroom mirror to a sexy note in the underwear drawer to a surprise date on a Saturday night. All of those ideas still require, at some level, paying attention to the relationship.

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