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Mike
Carruthers:
Today
many well-meaning parents don't want or allow their kids to fail,
and the results can be disastrous.
Brad Smart:
Failure is an opportunity to learn, and by denying our
kids the opportunities to fail, they don't learn.
Dr. Brad Smart,
co-author of the book
Smart Parenting…
When we do their
homework for them, does that really teach them something good?
If they have a problem with one of their friends and we call
their parents and say, "Hey, listen your daughter was nasty
to my daughter.", is that really servicing or is it better
to coach them to think through how to handle it?
Dr. Smart says
this over-protective parenting has been going on for a few generations
now, long enough that we can now see the results.
And guess what?
More depression, helplessness, a number of kids who go off to
college and fail in the first semester, is phenomenal because
they have all this freedom and they're just very poorly equipped
for that.
Kids want to
do things on their own - it's human nature; that's why kids
like kid movies.
Every kid's movie
will celebrate resourcefulness; it'll be kids who are figuring
things out on their own, making relationships better - think
of Home Alone and all that series.
One of best things
parents can do, says Dr. Smart, is to not do everything for
your child.
And he'll understand
you're rooting for him - that in not making some decisions for
him, you're not being nasty or mean, you're being loving.
You can ask Dr.
Smart questions on his
website which you can link to from ours: somethingyoushouldknow.net
- I'm Mike Carruthers and that's Something You Should Know.
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